Would you end your relationship just because your partner doesn't agree with you on marriage?

[gayesblog]

What do you do if you want to get married but your partner doesn't or vice versa? Should partners agree on marriage issues?

[CuriousJC]

If you think about it, marriage is a massive step in the relationship. Not many people are ready for that. If your partner is not interested in marrying, you don't have to break up right away. There are some things you can both do to work towards a more harmonious relationship. Waiting around forever isn't advisable; rather, talking with someone who has experience on the topic may help bridge the gap. For some people, marriage isn't necessary to embark on a lifelong commitment, and their relationships feel perfectly without it. It is so important to listen to your partner and acknowledge their point of view. Use “I” statements to express your feelings without placing blame on the other person for what you're thinking and feeling. Reassure partner. It's important to remind your partner that a disagreement does not define your relationship. My family think I don't have the higher brain function to know what marriage is, and my family would written me and half if they haven't found that I became a father to someone else's child. I'm a committed, person but sometimes when it comes to marriage; people have way too many second thoughts even it was girlfriend or boyfriend idea in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm single atm so I kind of feel like this doesn't pertain to me. You always see people on dating apps for example advertising thier goal is to get married. And I've always said I think that kind of mentality is "cart before the horse". How can you talk marriage if you aren't even seeing someone. I've always felt you getting married when you meet someone you want to spend your life with. Not because you want children or to fulfill that goal. How can you be so blaise about something so huge?

I guess what I'm saying is if it reaches a point where we're serious about eachother enough that we're talking about spending our lives together then to me that does mean marriage. If for whatever reason she doesn't want to marry me, maybe she doesn't believe in marriage or whatever. Well I'm sorry than I don't believe in a future where we are together then. Because whether it true or not it comes off as she's non committal.

[Xoxocutekitty]

It depends on how aligned we on on life milestones and other goals that would keep us together as we grow up as people. You don't need marriage to be in a long term committed relationship, but that person does need to be in a place maturity wise where yes, it is just a piece of paper that would make the relationship different. Would they want to buy a house/ or relocate to a nicer living space, and have kids in the next 1-3 years? They're willing to build their life with you in it.

Some people want marriage because they believe it'll make someone settle down, but ideally you should already be settled (emotionally) before contemplating marriage. You're not having communication issues or a large amount of unresolved problems.

That said, I would personally end a relationship because I want marriage before having kids.

[Lily_lilac]

I personally would end it.. cuz i believe, one who doesn't want to marry is those who actually wants to avoid the real commitment… Sure some people would argue, marriage is no different then dating, but simply more on the legal/law per country.. Cuz if thats the case, then why dont u just get married? Whats the issue there? We will get more benefits by officially declare our marriage. So yeah, back to the question again, i will end my relationship..

And for those who seek marriage at the end of relationship, PLEASE, before u guys are long in into the relationship, thats the first question u should ever ask to ur partner..

[OlderAndWiser]

We are engaged and getting married on April 27, 2024, so I don’t need to worry about that issue!

[EmyyWolf]

Well maybe he doesn’t believe in marriage and is not religious.

🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m personally not religious, I’m not a fan of marriage. I don’t believe on either of those. And marriage is too costly and problematic for couples. You could do a MOCK marriage. But not a legal one.

[Spongebobssocks]

I wouldn't be with someone in the first place if they didn't wanna get married. However I would be okay with signing a prenup before and papers saying whatever money and stuff we had before and earned/got during the marrige will be kept separate if we get divorced. But in my mind divorce doesn't exist. Once you get married it's for life.

[Walt832]

Wear in hell are y'all accepting prenups. Gosh my race as in Latinas they will flip you. 😂.

[Spongebobssocks]

@Walt832 lol what?😅 I think its a red flag if she doesn't wanna sign a prenup lol..

[Walt832]

Is the reason I am single since 2014 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. I guess I may start looking elsewhere. 😂

[Spongebobssocks]

@Walt832 lol okay damn😭 well I'm sure there are plenty of latinas accepting prenups maybe you just had bad luck! But start looking! Goodluck!😆👍🏻

[FreakyBaby87]

Yes

Because you are NOT mature enough to be married if your response to a TINY problem is to end your relationship. AND that is likely WHY your partner does NOT want to marry you because mentally you are more a child than you are an adult.

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And yes a passing conversation about getting married depending on context, how long you've known each other, etc. is a TINY problem. Mature people let it be and address the topic later on. CHILDREN like you throw a tantrum and why smart people do NOT marry you.

[CoolCatMar1]

Nope i would not because my boyfriend doesn't think that marriage money is worse it but maybe his opinion will change some day he loves me a lot and I know it i am not insecure about him at all his father was like that as well and he still married his mom and even had kids

[BCRanger10]

If you don't want the same things, then there is no point or purpose in continuing the relationship any longer.

[DiegoO]

Yes, because eventually it would be frustrating for both. For instance, I don't wanna get married. If I had a girlfriend who suddenly wanted to get married, there would be a conflict and I would breakup.

It's very important to talk about essential things during dating. Not: "you like green? I like green also!"

[Fromdusktilldawn]

No

I honestly dont get it why people see marriage still necessary nowadays or portray it as the ultimate proof of love. Why can't people just stay as a couple without marriage? I can truly understand why many guys dont want it, since its pretty much always a loss for the man and he'll get ripped off in divorce court.

[Sonorous]

Never been confronted with that before so I can't say. I'd like to think I'd stand my ground on the whole no marriage thing. But say I'm older & she's objectively good for me... I just may adjust my boundaries to be a bit more inclusive.

[Sonorous]

Can't say for certain*

[mandyfire98]

I mean yeah they need to share their views on life especially something that big. There needs to be a common shared belief with marriage. That's needs to be discussed at the beginning of the relationship too.

[Smashingdoozy]

If one really does and the other really doesn't and you can't come to a compromise then absolutely you should break up. Living with resentment in a relationship is going to destroy it anyway.

[madhatters4]

if you can't agree on one or the other or a compromise then yes the relationship needs to end. unfortunately not being able to agree on this is a deal breaker for a relationship

[Sareuh90]

I’ve been with my partner for going on 9 years. He proposed to me years ago. We have decided mutually that actually getting “married” traditionally isn’t something we are concerned over. We have a deep bond and a piece of paper isn’t going to change that. Maybe even complicate things in the future who knows. But we feel more spiritually connected and don’t find it necessary to marry how others do. That’s just us

[lightbulb27]

Yes. Can try to ecaluate why amd change the answer but if not in synch then whats the point?


Maybe there's other creative solutions but will come back to marriage

[UniquelyBasic]

I personally don't really care that much about marriage in general so it wouldn't matter to me either way. I know for some people it's make or break which is fine.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes. I would. If our end-state goals are not compatible then what’s the point of the relationship? I’m simply wasting time.

[exitseven]

Yes, why put off the inevitable. It is like this,

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Bb7ld3dWChE

[BigDog1989]

If a person doesn't want marriage, and you do, what's the point of being with them. Same with kids

I don't want either, so, I want someone who also doesn't want either

Yes, racists, I'm white

[Anonymous]

Without marriage, there would have been a limitation to how much I could integrate her into my life both financially and emotionally.

If she was against it, I suspect I'd see it as a lack of commitment.

[sheenagwapa]

if he doesn't want to get married i will end the relationship because marriage for me is important dince i'm a Christian who adores Christ