How quickly do you expect a thank you letter for a wedding gift?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I don’t care whether or not I receive one. But I do think it’s silly to expect it within a month, let alone two weeks! People work and are busy. If the woman is working and doing the housework, why is she expected to be the one to find the time?
I think three months is a good time frame.
I appreciate the gifts, but think it’s silly to expect thank yous. This tradition will die out with gen x. We already spent so much time, energy, and money on a wedding. (Weddings are really more for guests than anything) I find thank yous to be more of a nice surprise than anything. Like coming into work and there’s donuts because you’ve been working hard.

1 week

2 weeks

1 month

2 months

Three months

Six months

Never/whenever

[Anonymous]

Do like my sister-in-law and brother--they pre-wrote out thank yous. They wrote really detailed notes for the immediate family and bridal/groom parties which they handed out prior to the wedding, and everyone else got a thank you card as they left that basically said, thank you for showing up for us and supporting our relationship, partying with us, and the gift of your time and wedding gifts, we appreciate you.

Boom. Covered. Can't say you didn't get a thank you card.

[Asker]

For gifts

[Anonymous]

Isn't the wedding favour supposed to be a way of saying thank you for coming? At least it was years ago. I just think thank you cards are a waste of money. People will only just throw them out the same way they threw the invite out

[Asker]

Seriously! We had little wedding favors too. I wish it was normalized to just do that, I'd have done more for them.
We also went table to table instead of the receiving line. Sooo much nicer.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Here's an idea in a 1-month to 2-months send everyone a nice thinking of you card with saying I'm so grateful for you attending my and (your husband name) wedding and the gift was so gratefully appreciated, then end it the way you wish.

[Asker]

For gifts

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Anonymous]

Thank you notes are due one year after the gift. Same as the gifts are due on year after the wedding.

[OlderAndWiser]

A thank you card should be personalized and specifically mention the gift that you received from this person. It is sad that an entire generation thinks they are too busy to actually have some manners.

[Asker]

I'm gonna do them lol and they'll be personalized, but they'll take so long because of that. Most these people I don't even know so it is harder.
This generation doesn't care to make them because most of use wouldn't even remember what a thank you card was for let alone expect one.

[Paris13]

I do Not give It a Thought. xxoo

[Anonymous]

these guests took time out of their day, probably even work day, to see a stupid wedding (that they probably didn't even want to go to) and also money out of their pocket to give a gift that they shouldn't have to do. the least you could do is send them something back (out of your busy day) as appreciation for attending something that they had to take time out of their busy day for.

[Asker]

I agree weddings are stupid lol. Why even have them? They're really just for the guests

[Anonymous]

as i dont live in the 1800s-never

[strateguy632]

,,7th

[Anonymous]

I say a month or less.

[eagle1951]

month