What are your thoughts on waiting until marriage? (Page 2)

[Unknown8264]

Due to my religion, I didn’t have sex until marriage. Sex was bad, because he had ED.
I did my best but still he wasn’t turned on enough. In the end we got divorced quick.
If I am ever in a relationship again, after being certain that he’s the one, I would want to experience sex before officially getting married.

[LittleMelissa9614]

I think waiting till marriage to make love is a good thing! Because it's supposed to be special between both husband and wife. I've heard that they'll have a healthy and life long lasting marriage that way. And eventually be ready to have children.

[BourbonAndBacon]

I think it's smart but I'm also ok with not waiting if its a long term relationship. I'm engaged with someone who wants to wait and I respect her for that.

[NalleBabyBoysss]

I would think their loss cause sex is wonderful lol but each to their own everyone should ignore the pressure and just decide when the time is right for you and if your partner feel the same than go for it.

[lightbulb27]

you make a lot of sense.

The only gotcha I see is the risk you aren't compatible and it creates a lot of stress. That does happen. If you find a way to solve that in conversation all the better.

[nonyabeez-wax]

There is nothing wrong for women OR men to decide to wait for marriage. If you do that though, and you want a partner who did the same, you're gonna want to start hanging around churches as thats where the other people who do that will be.

[Dargil]

If I were not married and my fiancée wanted to defer PIV intercourse to marriage, I could work with that insofar as we could have an intimate relationship otherwise that included mutual oral. That would NOT include anal intercourse.

[Lycirian]

You aren't alone with that. Lot's of people still like this and it is in my eyes neither right or wrong. It's the way you are but doesn't expect that your husband will be like that too.

[Shamalien]

I think that it’s very respectable and smart decision if you’ve got your shit together young and are prepared to marry in your early 20s

but for most people these days it’s not practical

[BCRanger10]

I am very strongly in favor of waiting until marriage to have sex. It is mostly for religious reasons, but I also agree with what you said.

[Sunssong]

I think it is the way to go tbh. I think it is very wise if you do it for intellectual reasons.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I agree.

I'm not religious and I'm waiting until marriage to avoid STDs, cheaters, and unwanted pregnancy as well.

I don't want kids, but yes people should wait until they are financially stable to have them.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

If she’s a traditional woman, maybe. But those women rarely exist any more if they exist at all. And even then, men have less and less incentive to get married. I say this as a divorce attorney.

[HelpfulWoman]

eh, marriage doesn't guarantee any of those things to be fair.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm a fan of checking if the physical and emotional levels are compatible. Also, similar preferences and sexual drive would help.

[slatyb]

I expect that a woman who wants to wait until marriage either has a low libido or some other sexual hangup.

[love_conquers_lust]

I’m doing it. I find other people have a bigger problem with it than I do. I’m guessing it’s the same perspective for those in promiscuous arrangements.

[Anonymous]

I waited until marriage. The biggest thing is temptation. For me it made sure that any guy who was only after sex rather than being in a committed relationship disappeared.

[johnnydeeeep]

I don't believe in God but I personally love it and am wildly refreshed... where do I meet you?

[RebeccaSJ]

I was raised to wait until marriage, and I was a well known purity advocate.

I didn't get married until I was 33, and I couldn't wait that long.