I'm not that into the concept of marriage and don't believe in the concept of "the one". Soulmates? Yes, but on a mental level. Sex is just an activity for me. I don't see myself any differently because I enjoy it and am completely disconnected from the "virgin/whore" dichotomy. Perhaps because I have a dualistic, working relationship with my body, I see it as more of a tool to explore the world than a direct representation of who I am. My body pees, but I don't feel like a pisser. lol. Obviously, I could use it to do things I morally disapprove of (eg. killing someone), which would reflect badly upon my entirety, but I don't consider casual sex reprehensible. I think it's a very natural human activity and like most things, if I don't let it lead me down a spiral of addiction and other forms of hurtful behavior, I see it as little more than a healthy pastime. I am also not religious, so that is probably key. I am not ingrained with a sexual value system and therefore do not feel a sense of intrinsic, sexually motivated guilt.
One caveat - I try not to use sex to hurt people. I don't like hurting people. That's where the fun stops. Also, I respect you and how you choose to live! Good for you for sticking to your values and beliefs. The world is full of people who will try to tell you to do otherwise. I may be coming from a different place, but I've had enough people tell me I should change to know how annoying it is. I hope you find someone to marry and be very happy with.
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I don’t follow it, but I do believe sex and intimacy is very important and shouldn’t be thrown around to people you don’t know or wouldn’t want to see again.
I only had sex with my long term, committed boyfriend. I don’t do hookups either because I don’t see a point in it. It’s far more pleasurable and meaningful when you do it with someone you love and will spend the rest of your life with.
I do not question peoples personal beliefs, values or morals so if you choose to wait until marriage then that is fine with me.
But for me personally, anyone that puts conditions on a relationship prior a relationship getting started... "like saying I will not have sex before marriage"... well to me that is a person being a little selfish and self centered. They are saying from the go, that their personal values and beliefs out weigh mine before they have even considered me as a person. So its some what closed minded to me, and it is sad to me because there are a lot of really great people out there, descent people of high moral standards that would never consider marriage with someone with out having sex first with them. So you are probably letting some of the best people slip by.
No, I don't believe in purity or waiting for marriage. I also wouldn't look for sex with someone I wasn't either committed to, or very close to. I'm not sure how I'd react to an opportunity for quick/casual sex, but I wouldn't be interested enough to seek it out.
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I am also waiting for marriage. Anything before marriage like a relationship, a hookup, or anything of that nature does not hold any true meaning.
A relationship would be meaningful if you take the next step, marriage.
That is what I think.I waited until I found the guy that I wanted to marry. But no, we didn’t wait until our wedding day. We will be celebrating our 10th Anniversary this year. 👩🏻❤️💋👨🏻
I don't do sex if I am not very committed to a girl, waited for my ex almost a year to be ready, but by then relationship wasn't really working out anyway so now, I am happy my first time wasn't with her
After her waited for 7 years till I met my current girlfriend, and she was my first time
Just before her I dated a girl, who wanted to wait till the marriage, and it wasn't really something that pushed me away, actually she didn't believe me I'd wait for her 😅🥲Good luck with that, sweetheart, and be careful about who you trust. There are some out there who specialize in convincingly faking exactly what you're hoping to find.
No I don't believe in waiting I proboblybwouldnt be willing to marry someone I have nit slept with and lived with for a little while
Psalm 139:14 How do you know you are of Value? How do you know that your body has Value? How do you know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made?
No, because sexual compatibility isn’t magic. I figure any woman who wants to wait until marriage has a low sex drive.
Hahahah marriage is a joke anyway for women. I do what I want when I want no one asked anyone else.
Not a hope in hells chance.
Who the hell buys a new car without test driving it first?I believe in waiting for marriage but I refuse to do hookups or friends with benefits I am 100 % against the devils work is what It is
I sort of did at one time but I have changed my mind. You have to try before you buy.
Studies show that the longer you wait with sex, the more stable your marriage would be (less likely to collapse).
So yeah, I believe.You're amazing and some man will be very proud to be your husband. Don't give in to anyone pressuring you otherwise.
Yes. I really don't want herpes or any other STDs. Or kids from a previous relationship.
Yes i do most definitely
So how are you gonna meet your husband exactly?
Yes if the girl wants it Would be nice
Yes I do
Yes, ma'am; I do! 🙂
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