So I believe in god and I believe in waiting till marriage to start a family but all the guys that I came across by are not Christian or want sex?

[Anonymous]

So am I meant to just die single or god will send me someone, I’m 25 😞 all the guys that I come across by are just not religious and I believe in god and that will go against gods will is it a sign that god just doesn’t want to send me anyone?

[BCRanger10]

No, just because you haven't met the right man yet doesn't mean that you're "meant to die alone", nor does it mean that God "doesn't want to send you anyone". It means that you're a typical member of this generation, by which I mean that they get married and start families later than past generations.

There are a lot of good guys out there, but another problem with this current generation is that so many 20-and-30-somethings are still, mentally and emotionally speaking, teenagers. They've been taught since they were younger that they need to delay key life decisions until after they go to college or until they've "figured themselves out", whatever on earth that means. What that ultimately results in is many people of that age group just drifting through life with no real direction. And unfortunately, this includes preparing for marriage and knowing how to pursue it.

Now again, none of this means that the situation is hopeless for you. It just means there are some things you'll have to patiently navigate until you find the right man to court and marry you.

[jshm2]

You're confused, kiddo.

Your belief in God has little to do with your marital status. If your area/city is giving you shit matches, then use a matchmaking service. Else try other places.

If what you are doing isn't working, then you're obviously not going to do much still doing it, are you?

[dustybiker]

You’re 25? Your profile says 30-35..

Maybe be more open to who you meet and their positive traits that do match yours?

[Asker]

It do you know what I mean? It’s not like I’m trying to be picky just why start something with a guy who isn’t religious as you if that’s going against god

[dustybiker]

Do you think your God might be sending you good men but you are looking for “perfection”? Everyone has “flaws”. Give people a chance.

[Asker]

What about religion wise

[dustybiker]

Maybe you are meant to inspire him. Who knows?

[Cubus]

It depends.

If you find a guy who is atheist but would be ok with you and your children being religious, then it's completely ok.

And when it comes to sex - if you can't find someone who would be willing to wait till marriage, then if you find someone who is mostly ok, then you should search for some comprimise on this field.

[OfDeath]

If you choose to rely on "god" to "send you someone", you're going to be waiting a while.

Just saying.

[Asker]

What makes you say that?

[OfDeath]

You might as well be waiting for Santa to bring your Christmas presents.

You only get Christmas presents if you know PEOPLE who feel obliged to give them to you. The same goes for finding a boyfriend. You only get one by engaging with real people.

[all_hayl]

Matthew 6:33

Proverbs 37:4