Studies have proven that getting married before 25 isn't a wise decision. So why do some people think its ok to marry young?

[BrownSugar00]

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Studies have proven a lot of things however there are a lot of people that have proven those studies to be wrong in some situations.

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.

As for me I have never been married & I don’t plan on getting married & if I’m stupid enough to get married hopefully I’m smart enough to have a prenup in place & a really good divorce lawyer on retainer.

From what I have seen the bond is stronger without marriage.

[BrownSugar00]

In some cases, there are young marriages that do last. But in many, especially in recent years, they do not. Many tend to be unhappy and unsullied within their marriage, saying that they jumped in it too soon or wished they took the time to learn more about themselves and their partners.

[Miristheiss]

Pretty much EVERYONE in our grandparents generation that are still married, married for 30, 40, 50 years... they all got married young, didn't sleep around. I don't know what "study" you are talking about.

This effed up generation where your life is school/work, spending your 20's getting ran through by 100 guys then you marry at 30?

You mean the reality we have now where everyone gets divorced and is in open marriages, all the 30 year old who can't get married, no one wants to at that age, all the women on antidepressants and freezing their eggs?

Since degrees and career are the key to having a content, happy fulfilled life, there shouldn't be anyone on antidepressants.

"Studies have proven"... I call BS on your premise. If you did find one study that says that I'd bet there are 50 that find the opposite.

[EmmaMary]

Studies are often produced by idiots trying to justify their positions.

I've been with my husband for almost eleven years... Married for five of those years... And have two adorable and much cherished children.

My life quite simply couldn't be any better, happier or more fulfilling.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Paulalove98]

Because they think they found the right person and know them so well but they haven’t fully matured yet.. I barley got engaged at 24 and just turned 25 but we don’t wanna marry for another year still.

[BrownSugar00]

I hope your marriage lasts and that you guys do everything to stick together!

[FunkyMonkee]

When was the study done and what did the studies of about 70 years ago say? Back then, people had brains and were more mature. There's been LOADS of couples back then that married in their teens and had very long happy marriages! Today's kids are too stupid and think it's all just about a quick fuck! The way they decide to get married is the way my parents' generation would decide to start dating each other! Today's kids don't have dating. They just go from, "You're cute! Let's fuck!" to "That felt great! Let's get married!". Two months later, "I met someone else that fucks better than you, let's get a divorce."

[Lionman95]

Because marry older isn´t guarantee for the marriage to be a life long relationship. Academia might come to certain results but that doesn´t mean that those results are always true and work in all situations. If their parents married young and it worked out well why should people wait?

[BrownSugar00]

What makes one think that marrying young will guarantee a happy long lasting marriage? One just enters adulthood, barely knows themselves or what they desire. Many just want to be in a relationship, want to be loved, feel validated so that they don't feel left out. Many factors come into play.

[Lionman95]

But if you know what you desire why not marry young? Not everyone feels like they have to explore sexually desires before they can enter a marriage also being older doesn´t guarantee a happy long lasting marriage.

[BrownSugar00]

And not everyone who's young knows exactly what they want. They may think they know, then 5 to 10 years down the line, it changes. Their partner is different, they are different. Marrying young doesn't guarantee happiness and that you'll last. One actually sets themselves up for a divorce down the line. Not everyone, but that statistics don't lie.

[Lionman95]

What you describe fits on any relationship. No age guarantees a long term marriage. You could wait until you´re 30 and still have the same problems. If people want to marry young they shall. No relationship guarantees happiness. So why do you care so much about that?

[BrownSugar00]

It'd a proven fact that those who wait to marry are more than likely to succeed in that marriage. Why do you think so many young marriages end in divorce? Why do you miss the factual evidence that I'm supporting?

[Lionman95]

Because you're not presenting any evidence. You're just presenting your own opinions. "studies have proven..." is no evidence because that's way too broad and not specific. Evidence would be a study or a list of studies that prove your point.

[BrownSugar00]

You're not presenting any evidence yourself. Your claims are biased and not based on any scientific evidence nor studies.

I have done a research paper about why marrying young isn't the best decision, which I must admit I've gotten a grade A on it. I'm studying for my Bachelors of Science in PProfessional Studies.

Need a copy?

[Lionman95]

Firstly congrats to your grade. Yes my claims are biased but that most comments on here. GaG isn´t a scientific platform. The reason I don´t provide any further evidence is because I´m not invested in that topic form. I´m just not convinced by what you describe because it´s nothing that just works for young people but that´s another story. To answer your original question: People marry young because they can and want to and what other people say won´t change. I personally think it´s stupid to marry after 45 if you´re a childless couple but still people do that, too.

[Anonymous]

Statistically, people who get married before age 25 are somewhat more likely to divorce, but plenty of people get married before 25 and have a healthy and lasting marriage. My parents got married in tehir early 20s and they have the best marriage ever. Also, the older you are when you get married, the more set in your ways you are and the less opportunity you have to "grow together". It's a trade off.

[LazerBean]

Because they want to. Studies have also shown that getting married when you have a higher body count isn't wise, bland actually accounts for the age statistic. But nobody cares about that one either.

[jahaims]

My wife was 21 and I was 23 when we got married. Been together over 11 years. Most people aren't mature enough at that age to be in a healthy relationship is why most fail.

[007kingifrit]

first off "studies" of the social science variety have terrible methodology, this is probably a correlation fallacy

don't have kids before you get married, these couples are unhappy

don't have kids below the poverty line, these couples are unhappy

those 2 groups constitute the majority of unhappily married couples and are often also the youngest couples. but if you are doing well at 25 you can get married and then have kids.

[Constatine]

So what did they prove.. sudies try to prove the most stupid thing on earth.. except that what is realy important.

Ok marry young... Will fail.. ? It will also fail if you are marry at older age..

Their are enough ( real life studies ) by the young married couples that it works. They grow old together.. being very happy

So... Their goes this studies down the drain. Next please...

[BrownSugar00]

If you'd do any research, you'll see that many universities, scientists and psychologists have said that marry too young, especially before 25, is not a wise decision.

Those who marry young are immature, inexperienced and make decisions based off of their feelings and emotions and lack reason and logic.

If you'd do some research and read, you'll see, statistically, divorces are more common with those who marry young. Those in their late teens and early 20s are not only naive, but inexperienced and don't really know what they need or want in life. Jumping into a commitment like this should be taken carefully and into some consideration. And most lack the capabilities of doing so, both males and females.

Yes, there are those that marry later in life who divorce, but it's not as common as if someone were to marry too young. And those who marry later in life tend to be more well established, know themselves, what they're looking for and tend to be more content within their marriage.

It seems like you take offense, for what reason? Are you under 25 and married or thinking about it? Are you biased by any chance?

[BrownSugar00]

Looking back, I see that you're 49. You probably married young or wanted to get married young. Why do you conclude that every study that's conducted by professionals is "stupid"?

[Constatine]

Why are you in the attacking mode. ?

Yes i'm 49 and no i did not marry as young as i would have liked to be because my fiancee and unborn baby where killed by a car.

But i'm also long enough on this god forgiving earth that people tend to studie the most stupid things and nit the ones which are important.

Also long enough to see the young couples survive it and they are still together

Maybe the problem are the people today.
Most of them are selfish. They marry... Have no clue what it means. They wanna be free.. they want a good job above a relation

Let them studie that... If they must

Just wait... When you are 50 and you have seen every hell on earth. I bet you would change your mind to

[Constatine]

And no not every studie is stupid... Don't put words in my mouth which i did not say.. cheerse

[BrownSugar00]

I believe you were attacking this discussion and the professionals who have conducted these studies. The only mode I'm in is bringing this out to the light. And for many, they refuse to see it or are genuinely blind.

I give my condolences to you and for the tragedy you had gone through 💔

And that's the reason why I said what I said because you mentioned how studies are the most "stupid" and "ridiculous" thing. You practically called every study "foolish". There's a reason why you don't want ro believe in the several studies done in the subject of marriage. And there's a reason why you call them "stupid".

FYI, no study is every stupid! As a matter of fact, it's stupid not to look deeper into a subject and come up with opinions without any facts and evidence to back it up. There's a historical and societal reason as to why many marry young.

Within my 23 years, I believe I've experienced quite a lot. I've also done research, myself. Your 49 years doesn't trump my 23 or vice versa. One can be as old as human life and still don't know about the planet nor the things living upon it.

[Constatine]

Yeah yeah i understand you know things better then any other.

One advice to you dear.
If you don't care about peoples answers and opinions... than Don't ask any questions

That is my final word

Cheerse

[BrownSugar00]

If you don't care, then don't care to reply. That simple. You had the choice of replying to "my" posy, did you not? I didn't force you. You're obviously defensive and sensitive about this subject, which brings to light many factors, but many like you just have a hard time seeing so. And that's ok.

My final word,
"Can't take the proof of scientifical evidence, then stay off the net!"
Bye ✌🏽

[exitseven]

When you are young you think you have all the answers.

[colaman94]

Makes me sure feel really smart now , 😄 I am single. Not even divorced. I've always been single. Yay, me? 😁😁

[Nemesis2k7]

Status. Ignorance. Attention seeking. Social pressure. Media brainwashing. Power of suggestion, living in a fantasy world

[Meropatrick]

Our ancestors married before 25 and died before 35. What kind of studies are u talking about. When evolution says the opposite

[BrownSugar00]

Your statement just proves the opposite of what you're trying to prove. You're basically saying those who have kids young die young.

Studies that you obviously don't agree with because you're either biased or just don't want to look up the facts for yourself.

[AmeerX]

Yeah study made millions of years after dawn of humanity just told it after 3 months to an year that getting married before 25 isn't good. What else do they have to say 🤣

[BLP11520]

In my parents day they did it to get out of parents house, my parents were 19 and 18 married 65 years before mom died. Military marriages rarely last many guys are not mature or tough enough to marry young

[Chayce]

Cause society tells us to graduate college, get a job & start a family basically a year after graduation

[Anonymous]

Studies say a lot of things. I married, I'm very much in love and loving married life.

[YAsQuen]

studies have proven we cut da pepee and da bozangas and give se drugs then kid will be happies.

[Massageman]

Because they are still unwise!