Pregnancy tradition for wife?

[Anonymous]

I am from a small rural village where it is common for only men to wear shoes and for women to always go barefoot when they are married. Marriage is therefore symbolised by a woman being always barefoot and wearing a silver anklet to show their marrital status. When pregnant, they will show this by wearing another anklet above the wedding one but this is worn only during pregnancy. It is common for a mother to pass the anklet she wore during her pregnancy to her daughters to wear whilst pregnant. My wife gave up shoes after our wedding to follow the tradition and has now fallen pregnant. My mother has given her the anklet she wore during her pregnancies to wear. However, my sister has fallen pregnant at the same time and is extremely upset that my wife has been given the anklet to wear and not her as she is a full daughter rather than a daughter in law. What is the best way to resolve this? My wife is so happy to have been given the anklet to wear but I have never seen my sister so upset.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye, this is a tough situation bro. Both your wife and sister have valid reasons to want to wear that special pregnancy anklet.

But my view is your wife should wear it during her pregnancy. She's now part of our village ways by leaving shoes behind after marriage - that shows commitment to the traditions. Plus your mom passed it on as a special gift just for her.

Maybe have a chat with your sis, remind her how much wearing that anklet would mean to your wife too as a new daughter. Suggest your mom could find sis another way to honor her pregnancy, like by cooking her favorite meals or doing extra chores to help out.

You could also propose starting a NEW tradition - the sisters in your family get a new, matching anklet set specially made just for pregnancies between them. That way they each feel special and included in their own way.

Most important is keeping peace in the family. I'm sure your mom, wife and sis can work it out if you all keep the lines of communication open and respect each viewpoint. You got this bro, be the voice of reason!

[strateguy632]

sounds tragic. shoes are important so stop oppression and give the lady some shoes. in u. s. we have opposite, lady buy a hundred shoes.