For those who are not married, do your parents ever pressure you to marry?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think for a while, they thought I was gay or asexual or something (because while I liked girls, I didn't talk to THEM about it much). Mom mentioned when she was sick that the last name will die out and there's not much legacy - My bro isn't interested in marriage or dating, my sister took her husband's name, my cousins with the name are too old for kids and really don't want them, so the name dies on that side. And I am having trouble getting dates, and very well may never marry or have kids. They didn't pester because it was MY role to take care of them in their old age... and success with girls would mean I'm taking time away from what they wanted. Neither of them liked any of the girls I dated (and some were really cool). They passed away, which is in some ways a kind of relief, because I won't have to bring these women over and be embarrassed or offended. I am also more free to date women I'd like, without the color of her skin being a huge issue with them... an added bonus, though they'd embarrass me anyway.

I think I get more comments from my remaining family and "friends" more than anything. It gets old fast.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No thankfully no. But I am guessing you're from brown household that's why they maybe pressuring you into it

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

No. Thankfully.

I think that only happens in Indian or Muslim cultures actually. American and other cultures MAYBE are more lax about it? Not really sure. Maybe the Spanish/Mexican/Latin Culture is also pressured though because I know how important having babies and children are with those types of cultures! I always see young Mexicans/Latin families getting married and having families in their late teens/early 20's to like early (maybe mid) 30's at the latest... but more towards the 20's... They're smart. They know how to CONQUER things usually fertility and reproduction lol.

In Muslim, Indian or Afghan cultures, they have arrainged marriages so that is also different compared to American culture. In American culture, people don't usually have that and so they are free to be more independent or marry because of love (which is I don't know if it's the best thing because feelings ebb and flow!). Also, they base their committment on such!

jazmiine · Accepted Answer

Yes, especially my father. Then my mother agree saying they wanted grandchildren. I've said my piece, I've said my oposition but everytime they talk about "When will you get maried?" Hah! Who is going feed them. Who's going to pay for tuition.

They perfectly knew I'm not financially stable, they knew I don't have a boyfriend. They knew I don't go out much being the perfect daugther so I decided to fuck it all and leave.

I went against all their expectations - the norm of staying home, being near my cousins home. I rented a room lived with a stranger learned to drink, had an affair and moved to a different city. And then, they looking for me?

Who wanted me to mary? Who wanted me to move out? Now that I'm doing what they wanted they messaging me?

For me, marriage is like giving your daughter to a total stranger, going out the house, building, a home or hell, and only visting once or twice a year.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

They never pressured me to marry, even when I was engaged, they suggested me to keep studying instead of being head over heels in love. I wish I listened.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I had some mild pressure when I was much younger but my mother is now 92 years old and not really capable of exerting much pressure.

Avicenna · Answer

I never was pressured to get married

molonski2 · Answer

Just did these sums if my mother were alive she'd be 100 on 6th Jan , my Dad would be 110...

But forgetting all that , she had 5 kids if I were 25 again , I'm pretty sure there would be no pressure , maybe for children.

Now forward a generation , my daughter turn 35 on 24th June , she is in a very long term. living relationship , she has no children., honestly I would NEVER be stupid enough to try and pressure her into anything! For a start it wouldn't work. hahahaha.. She is strong.

Amara_09 · Answer

My mother and my father have never discussed marriage with me.

Weird thing is, I hear them discussing it with my siblings sometimes and I don’t care.

I have always been a non-approachable person when it comes to mushy shit like this one. I think they realize how fucked up I am…………I even once laid on a hospital bed almost taking my last breaths but guess what my dear mommy says to me, she wished I was just dead instead.

I don’t discuss shit with my parents……in fact, I haven’t even sat down with any of them for years …….

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Surprisingly? No. My mom is actually quite proud of me for putting myself first and not stressing over a man or marriage, or, "letting a man mess up my life." (her words)

My mom ALWAYS wanted us to do better than she did: get a good job, degree, and be able to support ourselves- finding a relationship and getting married was just an "added bonus" in her eyes: nice, but not necessary. So it's really not a surprise or upsetting to her that I'm still single or don't care about marriage.

As for my dad? Pfft, he's indifferent. He doesn't ask about my love life, nor does he care if I'm single or find someone as long as I'm happy.

RavenDarkheart · Answer

Only every other conversation, at least. They are constantly reminding me about their age and how my brother had kids when he was younger than me. I asked mom if I should have stayed with a jerk just to have a husband and kids. She didn’t believe he was a jerk cause he was nice when she was around. Dad said “of course not but still time is ticking away.”

VIVANT · Answer

I don’t really have any direct family to speak of at the moment, but growing up no one ever mentioned marriage let alone pressured, for it and I have no reason I hadn’t have no reason to think about it. Honestly I can’t even imagine it, it’s like not a real thing to me lol.

menina · Answer

Not marry and not my parents. But I have a sister who's always telling me that I should get a boyfriend. She's literally obsessed with this idea.

Also, once my mother's friend said that I should be already married because of my age. 🙄🙄🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

MrOracle · Answer

I was given a bit of pressure from my mom and a lot from my godmother, but I have always been my own man, and I have never needed anyone to tell me what to do.

I had to remind my godmother that she's been divorced twice before she shut up about it, and she's lucky she did, because I was about to say things that were much worse. Her silence saved me that.

It's been 25 years since anyone tried to pressure me, though. They know I'm going to make my own decisions.

Lionman95 · Answer

No because they know the reason I´m not married and they always tell me there´s no need to be married just to be married. They´ve taught me to be more concerned on finding a mission and a purpose for my life and then look for a woman. Because if I did it otherwise I would lose myself in dating.
So because I haven´t come to the point where I can say I´m fully settled and financially and emotionally secured enough for a marriage I´m not married yet.

Anonymous · Answer

They have hinted but they’ve never pressured me thankfully. My grandma on the other hand… she keeps saying that she “ain’t got much time left” and that she wants to at least be at her oldest grand daughter’s wedding lol (She’s also pressuring me to make grand babies asap…)

Anonymous · Answer

last summer my grandad told me i really should start looking now cos i'll be 25 in a couple years so need to catch the good ones before they're cuffed, and he wants to see his grandkids while he's still alive. he also said he was worried because i haven't dated anyone in a while cos to him i should be in a serious relationship at my age lol

HawkPerception · Answer

I think men are pressured much less than women to get married, even nowadays. It's just because women have a much more strict biological clock than men and parents want grandchildren and they also want your happiness.

N271298 · Answer

They would like it if I got married soon but weddings and marriages are expensive and they weren’t able to save anything for my wedding or start a married life, so I just tell them I need to make enough money before I get married. So they have no say.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yeah both me and my sister were questioned over Christmas about our failure to marry and produce off spring aka grandkids

Anonymous · Answer

Not marry. But my mother insisted that I was going to meet the "right woman" and settle down. She kept this up till I was 45. Then she finally changed her tune. I don't think my mother due to the generation she grew up in ever got that times have changed. And a lot of women simply don't want marriage anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

No. They never had an input like that in my relationship and they shouldn’t. However, I strongly believe that marriage is important to me, as it is signifies commitment for life and a secure relationship with a legal bond as well, but for all of the right reasons, of course.

strateguy632 · Answer

not my parents... but when i was dating they pressured me to a girl i did not like. good thing i am stubborn. lol.

Adventurer23 · Answer

Nope. I have never been pressured to be married or to have kids. It's never been an issue or even a conversation at all.

Simslover92 · Answer

No actually quite the opposite. My mom has been married three times and says all the time to be patient and cautious with getting married.

Anonymous · Answer

I was never pressured but it’s kind of shown it’s a let down. Me and my 2 brothers are single so they’re waiting on someone to get married or have kids. Luckily we’re not the only ones in the whole family who’s not married.

fonduegirl · Answer

No. But that's because I'm unemployed as well. They'd probably do it once I finish level 1, getting financially stable.  Too bad I'll move out.

art84 · Answer

My brother does least he wants to be a uncle. My mom kinda when I was in my 20's said I should be dating though never cared to actually do it. My mom eventually changed her mind about me staying single and not getting married in my 30's.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

They dont pressure me per se but they definitely expect it of me

SotiCoto · Answer

The "featured questions" on this site are garbage, the image is annoying, and I want it to go away. This is just an arbitrary response to make the site stop pestering me about it.

RingOfFire · Answer

My mother wouldn't stop pressuring me to get me married until the day she died at age 93 and me at 68. Once your mother, always your mother.

Red_Arrow · Answer

Often it is the desire for grandkids that drives them to push their children toward marriage.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

No, my parents always said,  take your time

Forceinhand · Answer

Nope. My mother just mentions then and again that she can't wait to have grandchildren and wishes for me to find the right woman. And that is just her wanting the best for me.

newboy78 · Answer

Not just from my parents, my relatives and even unknown people too

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I do feel the pressure from my mom as she does mentions it to me, not a lot but on occasions.  I see her face and can sense she's disappointed in me that I have yet to marry.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

No, but they had bring that idea in dome talks. Noting preshuting.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Not at all.. She wants me to get my life together before that happens..

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They never did when they were alive so, they shouldn't be doing it now, either.

Anonymous · Answer

Something wrong those parents, life's not supposed to be what they want, its about what you want! its your life...

LiamJHayden · Answer

My mom passed whn I was 16 and my dad when I was 19, but I do not think either ever would have.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  no not at all, in fact they say a stable job and self fulfillment are way more important

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

WELL GLADLY MY DADS DEAD  MY MOM NEVER EVER BRING IT UP PROBABLY HAS NO HOPE. SAME AS ME.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

My parents were pressuring me because they knew I had boyfriend. Then neber shut up until we married

sentinustm · Answer

No... No one can pressure me or force me to do anything I don't want.  In this era, marriage is already a regret. The world is not heaven.

Guido · Answer

They did not for getting married. But lots of pressure for lots of grandchildren. My mom wanted lots of grandchildren to spoil.

Anonymous · Answer

Mine have been divorced multiple times. It would be a joke to take them serious on that advice.

Anonymous · Answer

No but they've given me just 2 more years, then i'll have to marry LOL.

Mark987 · Answer

They used too, but after time they stopped. They just want me to be happy,

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

My mom wants me to get out there and not be a single mom but I’m not ready

msc545 · Answer

My parents loved and cared for me - why would they have done this?

grega239 · Answer

Everyone keeps getting on my nerves about me being single if that counts.

Tomisworthless · Answer

I asked my mom once if she thinks I’ll ever have kids and get married she said no

Fitnessf · Answer

Never but they want me too get married after 28 and before 35. And to choose and right person wisely or they will help me find out one.

Anonymous · Answer

Pressurize?

Liketotry · Answer

Your parents should not pressure you to get married.

fuddly · Answer

Age 19 you shouldn't be pressured Maybe when you're 29

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yesssss! All of the time unfortunately and they pressure me for grandbabies too

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, my grandparents and that generation did but they are now mostly on the other side

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but I tell them that men get nothing out of marriage and potentially lose whatever little they have. That gets them off my back.

Tara2020 · Answer

Not so much pressure but joke about having grandchildren.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope, not at all...

serious · Answer

Yes of course but my decision will never change.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nope... my life my choice.

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