Wife refusing intimacy after conception. Help me understand or perceive?

[Anonymous]

I've been married of over a year and 2 months. My relationship with my wife has been one of the best ever. I thought I had all that i wished for.
We had a good understanding of each other, kept getting intimate on a weekly to thrice /week intervals. We enjoyed having showers together. I always felt the happiest with her.
But it's been 2 months since my wife conceived. She has been away from me and at her mother's to help her during pregnancy. She did have a minor bleeding once after one month when she walked for a while when she had gone shopping. We've been getting checkups regularly. Doctors say that fetus is fine and it's too soon to tell why she bled once.
We've reunited after months and she's been well for weeks now. But our intimacy has been affected. First of all, she's been away for longer than I'm accustomed to and I really missed her. But now when we sleep, even if I try to cuddle her or place my hand at her belly, she literally pushes me away and makes me sleep at distance.
I really have missed her a lot and I want to be close / intimate if possible. I don't want intercourse as I think it'll be harmful to her state. But she doesn't even let me touch her or place my hands on her upper body.
I'm in a mental state where i really am craving for anything from kisses, or foreplay and it'd be great if she can give me a hand etc.
She doesn't like orals and i respect her choice.

Can girls comment what's she feeling and going through. Help me understand.
Can guys provide any experiences or tips on how to pass this phase?

[Anonymous]

you're kinda weird. sorry. had to say it. "since my wife conceived"? I don't know who says that.

anyways. so she moved out to stay with her mom since she got pregnant by you, her husband? that's really weird. 2 months pregnant, what could she possibly need help with? besides going to doctors appointments. i feel like there's a bigger issue here rather than just being pregnant and not wanting sex. like your marriage seems like it's in trouble and you're the only one not noticing it.

[Asker]

I guess that's the advice I needed. 🫡

[HelpfulWoman]

may be worth talking to her over why she doesn't want you to touch her.
also you can have sex for instance literally up to when she goes into labour.
if you're just wanting sex, may be worth looking into a pocket vagina or something to help tide you over, and perhaps look into things like helping during a bath to wash your/her hair or something to help have small doses of intimacy until you can talk and work through any issues

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

OK, you need to chill and give her time to adjust. Her hormones are way unbalanced and as her first pregnancy she needs to time. All new parents, especially new mothers, can be overprotective and or confused by the new relationship dynamics.

Communication will be key here. Just talk to her. Depending on her age, she may need the support of her mother during this transition to being a mother. Be supportive and let things play out.

[Asker]

Everybody who told me to communicate about the situation has been real helpful. I talked about it and she told me that if I was feeling being leftout or undesired, it wasn't the case. She explained her harmones and HCG things to me and that she had real sharp smell and bad taste. It made her difficult for her to be with me even at night time as I was wearing scents daily and also she was in bad mood at day time and really wanted to sleep uninterrupted at night.
Also that she wasn't very clean and hadn't taken baths as often as she used to.

We talked for about an hour and she cuddled with me all the time and I understand her points and she knows my points now.

[Anonymous]

It’s probably her reaction from changing hormones and you can still have sex weeks before she is due, some people even do it to induce labor when close to the date, all I can say is try to bear with it and talk to her, it’s her reaction to being pregnant, unfortunately some are like this with their first pregnancy, maybe talk to the doctor about the way she is acting and maybe he can prescribe something

[laly520]

u need to communicate with her more n ask why she has changed

[jahaims]

Try communicating with your wife