What questions should you absolutely ask your fiance before getting married?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Ask everything you can before committing to someone , or marrying someone , Are they capable of keeping a job , do they have financial goals , do they value relationships as a team , do they give the same way they want to receive , Are they loyal and faithful , etc, these are things that should have been talked about before committing to someone 100 percent , make sure you are both on the same exact page as things , do not commit to someone that doesn’t want the same things as you or you will be setting yourself up for disaster. Talk about boundaries together , what things you will accept and not accept , don’t just assume you know their answer Set boundaries together , whatever you don’t want them doing to you , needs to be the same boundaries you do for them , not the other way around. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone else in this world , by making each other your top priority and removing selfishness for each other , No relationship is perfect but if you choose them the same way you want them to choose you , it will more than likely last the long haul over the short haul , do not marry this guy if you honestly can’t see yourself committed to him and staying faithful to him for the rest of your life.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. Ask about their family. There family gives you a good insight to the stock they come from.

2. (At our ages) ask how much debt they're in. If any bankruptcies ask what precipitated it.

3. Find out what what there goals are financially. As a college professor that used to work in the financial once said to me when I was young, "marriage problems and money problems go together like 🤞. It would irresponsible to not make sure this person you're going to commit the rest of your life to was not on the same page as you, or at least close to it. You don't have to be exactly alike. It's actually beneficial when you can learn things from eachother.

4. Find out what their life goals are. Wouldn't expect them to have it all planned out. But they should have a rough outline. I had my retirement planned at 25. But I readjust every year based on how I'm meeting my goals. I would not do well with someone whose attitude is, "whatever happens happens".

You love this person. But you're still essentially forming a business of sorts with them. And that business is producing a successful family.

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

Now I’ve never been married and I’ve only thought of marriage now after college but these are some of the things I would want to know

What are your coping skills?
How do you handle stress? Those are actually two different questions.
What makes you feel loved/Give?
Who inspires you the most?
What are things that procrastinates you?
Do you believe in God/spiritual /The universe/After/other?
What does financial stability look like for you and what are your goals towards it?

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would ask if they want children, and what they are willing to do to have children or not have children.

Rosexøxø · Answer

For background check, and a drug test. 💯💯💯

Anonymous · Answer

You should be aware of their expectations financially, culturally, and socially. This is necessary not only to avoid too much a compromise, but to verify they even believe in marriage.
Most people today don't believe in marriage and instead think as we are told by cultural leaders its a union for the happiness of the adults rather than the security of their children.

Since it is impossible for anyone to make or keep anyone else happy, anyone with such a believe is not marry-able and should be avoided.
Marriage is a commitment to others not a service for yourself.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

All the important discussions , regarding worldviews, values, beliefs, ethics, traumas, childhood, teenagehood, vulnerabilities, hopes, past, future, spirituality, tastes in movies, music, literature, political opinions, societal opinions, socioeconomics, parents, family. When you get this far, you can reasonably assume you know a person enough?

slatyb · Answer

How are we going to manage money without continuous conflict? Do you want children? How many? When? Religion? How will we interact with our families: holidays, visits, etc? What other goals do you have -- career or otherwise? Very important -- what do you want in your sex life? What fantasies do you have? Do you hope to realize them?

Nikki1989 · Answer

You should know everything you need to know way before even thinking about marriage. Open and honest communication is essential for a healthy relationship.

Iron_Man · Answer

Are you Christian? Are you straight? How many body counts have you had. Have you ever been arrested? Have you ever done drugs? How often do you drink? Are you Republican or democrat? And there’s many more how loyal are you which is more important to you a man with money or a good heart

Reddreams · Answer

Are you a Christian? Are you ready to become a mother to a Russian man in the future? Are you ready to be a loyal Russian wife to your husband? Are you ready to do everything for the motherland?

jshm2 · Answer

No point asking anything now, if she's already your fiancé. You should have asked the "absolute" questions BEFORE that stage.

paledreams · Answer

No offspring 👀😋 and possibly no pets - just me, her, family, friends, work, hobbies, travel, adventure, ourselves, charitable giving, repeat 🔁 repeat 🔁 repeat 🔁 😈😈😈😈👀👁️

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Before getting serious in a relationship with someone you should discuss things you feel strongly about. See if your thoughts align.

Josuesillo · Answer

More than questions, ask for sincerity and you also give it to him, so you can get to know each other, his likes, dislikes and even fetishes, if there is sincerity there is no reason to hide anything.

ManInChains · Answer

Whatever questions haven't been asked should have been before the proposal.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Why is this anon? NO THATS NOT MY QUESTION!! My question would be can I see your credit report?

HaveNoName · Answer

Do you use a bidet or a toilet shower immediaty after you poop or you think wiping with a wet or dry paper cleans you up?

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

"So... those dead bodies in your basement. They were there when you bought the place, right?"

gatixek710 · Answer

You need to figure out finances, children, where you’ll live, what you want for the future, sex desire

LiamJHayden · Answer

If you've reached that point you should know everything you need to know.

Idkgirl1 · Answer

What their plans are for the future. If they want kids or want to move and stuff

Anonymous · Answer

If they want to have prenup.  if they wanted to have kids and if so how many. how to respect him or her  what are their plans for the future

Cheerfull009 · Answer

What gift she want, how spend First Night, where to go for honeymoon?

electromagnetic · Answer

If y’all on the same hot about children.

zagor · Answer

You've never had a penis, have you?

jojouzumaki · Answer

Are you certain about this?

exitseven · Answer

Have you ever er been arrested?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

100 or more questions should be asked

Jamie05rhs · Answer

All of the questions. (Literally ALL of them!)

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Plastic surgery

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Ubout signin' a PrenuctuaL..

Deserter2 · Answer

Can I poop on your chest?

Maria2002_ · Answer

If they want kids etc.

Thecuriousbird · Answer

"Why are you gay"

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