Let's say in a sexless marriage bc your spouse isn't interested but you can't afford to leave for various reasons and you have small kids. We all know how costly a divorce is for men. What they can possibly lose. House, kids, pay alimony and child support.
There is no valid reason to cheat. If you can't take the heat, get out of the sauna. Two wrongs don't make a right, as they say.
7 reasons why people cheat in relationships
1. Anger or revenge
Sometimes people cheat on their partners as an act of revenge. For example, if one partner has been flirting with a friend or even cheating, the other partner may cheat as well as a form of payback.
Other reasons for anger-driven infidelity include:
Frustration when a partner doesn’t understand the other person or their needs
Anger at a partner who is never around
Anger at a partner who doesn’t seem to contribute to the relationship
Anger or frustration after an argument
2. Falling out of love
The dopamine rush of falling in love may not last long. Excitement, passion, and exhilaration of the initial phase of a relationship usually fade over time.
Long-lasting relationships do exist, but those butterflies you felt on the first date only get you so far. Once they go away, you may realize that there wasn’t really much love there.
3. Feeling unappreciated
If one person feels that they aren’t receiving enough love, respect, and attention from their partner, this can cause them to look for those things elsewhere.
Sometimes, even if a partner hasn’t actually neglected the other, they can still feel neglected, especially if there are unrealistic expectations. Or it could just be that one person has emotional or sexual needs that they feel are just not being met.
4. Lack of commitment
People with commitment issues are more likely to cheat in a relationship, whether it’s because they want to avoid commitment or because they have a different idea of what commitment means.
Reasons for commitment-related infidelity may include:
Difference in opinion about relationships (casual, exclusive, etc.)
Fear of committing even if they love their partner
Lack of interest in a long-term commitment
Wanting a way out of the relationship
5. Sexual desire
For some people, cheating is simply the result of sexual desire, even if they are already in a fulfilling relationship. Some other reasons for sexual desire-driven infidelity include:
Feeling unsatisfied with the sex
Desire to try something new
However, someone who just wants to have sex may just look for opportunities to do so without any other reason.
6. Situational factors
Infidelity sometimes happens because a partner was in a situation where the opportunity presented itself. For example, if a person gets drunk with a coworker, there may be a high chance of cheating. Some other factors include:
Being in a long-distance relationship
Being on vacation
Feelings of low self-esteem
Wanting physical comfort after a distressing event
Living or working in an environment that involves a lot of physical touching and emotional connection
7. Self-esteem
Wanting a boost to self-esteem can also cause someone to cheat. Getting sexual attention from someone new can make someone with low self-esteem feel attractive, confident, or empowered.
Sex and pornography seem to be the reason why people cheat when in a relationship.
Considering that people fornicate less than one single percent of their lifetime but are willing to jeopardize their relationship for that one percent indicates how totally screwed up and perverted those that cheat have become.
And yes, most of those in a relationship, or at least a great majority of them have cheated on their partner at least once during their relationship. And I am not talking about physical cheating but emotional cheating.
Anyone that has ever either
1. watched pornographic content or
2. used pornographic toys or
3. manipulated their bodies to induce spasms and muscular contractions
4. had deviant fantasies about other people than those they were in a relationship with
All those that have performed any of those 4 acts without the full consent and approval or without the knowledge of the partner has committed emotional cheating. Every single of those persons.
There is never ever acceptable to emotionally or physically cheat on your partner. And all those that have ever done it lack the respect for their partner and are people with low morals and self-dignity.
It doesn't help that the American female population has become as unattractive as ever, objectively speaking. (dw I would never ever cheat, im just saying)
Wow that's pretty harsh! Even having a fantasy about someone else is cheating? Yikes! That probably makes 95% of people in relationships cheaters.
"manipulated their bodies to induce spasms and muscular contractions" 😯
Trying to figure out what that one's all about. 🧐
I call pornography itself as cheating.
@Daniela1982 I fully agree with you. It is the cheapest and most disgraceful way to emotionally cheat on someone that trusted you.
I don't want to involve politics in that topic and, as non US citizen, neither am I qualified to speak on behalf of others but I would anytime endorse Project 2025 by Mr. Donald Trump.
What? Project 2025 has nothing at all to do with Donald Trump. He had nothing to do with it at all. As a matter of fact his policies are public and many of them are the opposite of Project 2025.
The myth that he has anything to do with it is false propaganda from his opponents because they think it will make him look bad.
He denounces Project 2025 and has nothing at all to do with it.
@Daniela1982 I like where your head is at because I would never look at porn if I'm attracted to my partner. But if you deny men porn, then they will not be so forgiving of fat/unattractive women (most women in U. S. today). So many women would be lonely or else have to get their act together. And men would regain power in the dating market. I'm not sure if you want that.
@RingOfFire whoever is implementing a total ban of pornography in the US has my support. For me, this project does not go far enough. Anyone in possession of pornographic content, anyone supporting porn or endorsing it, anyone that produces it and anyone that make a profit from it should be jailed. End of story.
@RingOfFire I forgot. Those people should be heavily fined as well of course.
That's acceptable in a totalitarian state. Fortunately America is not that place... Yet.
@sueshe I admire your sentiment
@RingOfFire from your reply, I deduct that you endorse porn and that nothing should be done to prevent women from being abused. Good to know. Thank you.
You assume much that is wrong.
I neither endorse nor condemn porn. What I endorse is freedom. If consenting adults want to engage in making porn or looking at porn, that is their business and no one else's. The decision about what you view with their eyes, or what kind of sexual conduct consenting adults choose to engage in belong to you and no one else (particularly not an authoritarian government!) should have any say in the matter.
As to your comment that I think nothing should be done to prevent women from being abused, I have no idea where you get that from. It is a leap of logic that is way outside anything I have said or believe.
@RingOfFire Makes one wonder if pornography is the root for pedophilia? Some just like them younger?
I don't think that pornography is the root of pedophilia. They are two separate things. Pedophilia existed long before the proliferation of pornography. I think the vast majority of the consumers of pornography are not pedophiles, and those who are pedophiles would be so whether pornography existed or not.
Why is watching porn cheating? I get if it makes someone uncomfortable but I wouldn’t classify it as cheating. I’ll watch it with my boyfriend even 😂
@LostandFound__x I have stated that watching pornography
"... without the full consent and approval or without the knowledge of the partner has committed emotional cheating".
If you have to hide the fact that you are watching porn from your partner, you are indeed cheating emotionally about him/her because you are certainly not going to substitute the actors in your mind with your partner. Thus, you are going to think of someone else performing those deviant and perverted acts and that is indeed emotional cheating.
@Daniela1982 you must be a lot of fun
@Nikki1989 G@G is not interested in removing trolls and spammers because they are the ones that generate the revenue through advertisement. Why kill the source of income?
It’s tough to even consider something like that, but being stuck in a sexless marriage, especially when there are kids and financial issues involved, can make things feel like a trap. It can lead to feeling unwanted or neglected, and it’s easy to see why someone might start looking for connection elsewhere. But cheating, no matter the reason, usually makes things worse in the long run—emotions get tangled, trust is shattered, and it can create a whole new mess on top of what you’re already dealing with.
If you're at the point where you’re seriously considering stepping out, it’s probably a sign that things need to be addressed, whether through therapy, having a real talk with your spouse, or finding some other solution. I get that divorce is expensive and complicated, especially for men, but cheating tends to be a temporary fix for a deeper issue, and it often leads to more heartache for everyone involved, including the kids. At the end of the day, it's better to try and fix the situation head-on, even if it feels impossible.
You get it how I feel. We have discussed therapy but she says her body her choice and won't discuss anymore
I understand your dilemna but the only time i would see cheating being ok would be if your partner is ok with it or enjoys that type of thing otherwise you are solving a problem with another problem, turning a problem into a bigger problem. Relationships are not only for sharing wonderfull times togeather but also to deal with lifes issues togeather, talking about the problem and coming up with a solution to the problem is the only way. If both or either one is not able to or willing to deal with the issues or help resolve it then there is not much a relationship. Also if one did cheat for these reasons and she found out that would be a guaranteed way to loose your house, get divorsed, loose the kids, and pay child support.
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Don’t cheat brother , what you need to do is have a serious talk with your wife and make it clear to her that you will not stay in a sexless marriage , it’s either we compromise or we go our separate ways. weI didn’t get married to be room We got married because we chose each other and we love each other so we can be closer mentally and physically, if you do not want that with me anymore then we need go our separate ways and you do your thing and I will do mine , do not tolerate a selfish girl that only cares about herself , you are a man and you have wants and needs as well , so you didn’t change my friend , she did , and you need to put her in her place , never let a women become masculine over you , she wants to be submissive to you , Don’t put your hands on her just be stern and confident in yourself and in what you say , I guarantee she gets on her knees for you. Somewhere somehow you became want her , so change that around my man
This might piss some men off...
Why get married if you're going to blame everything on your wife? I'm 95% sure you are the reason you're not getting laid.
Do you work outside the home? If so, do you treat your wife like a maid, childrearer & cook? Making her feel like mom and not a sexy wife.
Did you become addicted to porn during your wife's pregnancy and she found out about it?
Did you, at any point, tell her she's gained weight?
You did something. Sorry.
Yes I worked 50 plus hours a week I did outside chores. Mow grass, repairs to home and yes I did my share of dishes no I wasn't watching porn and no I didn't tell her she gained weight. Did she appreciate all I do? It's not always the man thank you I get tired of that shit
Do you watch red pill content? Or part of the manosphere community?
They like to scare men into thinking women have the upper hand in divorce court... not true though! Divorce your wife. Let her move on and find herself a new man.
Are you okay with your wife cheating?
u Cheating on your spouse just because you aren't getting any sex is childish and wrong. It will also lead to a divorce where you will lose all those things you are worried about especially as the cheating party.
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 Reason number one why I tell men to make sure you have multiple options. When you have side chicks your main chick can never leverage sex against you.
Pathetic reasoning. I'm sure you would just love it if it were a woman doing it to you.
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 Solves two issues, the woman doesn't have to worry about being pressured into sex, but the man can still do what he enjoys.
So basically, you use women. Got it.
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 Interesting what makes you feel like that?
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 Don't women already do that? Especially in the initial phase of the dating process. Thanks to that, woman have far more power in modern relationships.
(until they get too old)
Don't women do what? Use men? Not really. You are again conflating the few with the whole. Sure, there are some women who use men for free food/money in the dating phase, but that is far and few between.
For the most part, it's an equal give and take from both sides. It's a feeling out process to see how each of them like the other. Some men pay for things because they expect sex and some women have been programmed to be swept off their feet by some prince charming, meaning they accept the gender role of letting the man take care of them.
I'm in the camp of splitting the bills, only having sex if I want it, not because I feel obligated to, and finding someone I want to be with because their personality is one I like. There are plenty of others like me as well.
It doesn't mean women have all the power unless you are breaking it down to sex only. If you are, then that's discounting everything I said previously and breaking women down to a hole to get off in, similar to what Vegasrunner does with women.
Equal roles? The math doesn't support that
How so?
If both are age 20-30, then the woman has significantly more options. The man is replaceable, and the reverse is much less often the case.
Oh this tired old argument. Didn't Vegas here talk about having multiple women? Isn't the whole incel talking point about how we only go for the top 10% of men? Now the men are the replaceable ones? Men need to get their stories straight so we can keep up as to what we are supposedly doing wrong now.
No that's not my argument. I don't relate to that, personally. But it's my understanding that the men are far more replaceable in that age bracket. It's counterbalanced by what happens in the older bracket, though.
Actually I've seen convincing evidence that dating apps are actually as bad as the "incel culture" says they are. But dating apps are not real life lol
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 That's a bad argument considering I would fall into the top 20% of men.
You wouldn't even qualify in the top 99% of men.
Lets face it, everyone has an "acceptable' reason to cheat... I cheated on a long term girlfriend when I was in my late twenties, because I had a girl 10 years younger that I worked with that I wanted to screw. That was not 'Acceptable' to anyone but to me and I did it anyway. I was cheated ON later, and understood the rationale.
You don’t have to divorce on paper to breakup in general. My friend and her ex have been “divorced” for almost 9 years. They wrote out an agreement and both signed it. Now they coparent and are with new people, so if they wanna divorce officially in order to marry someone new then they’ll cross that bridge later. But the moral of this is — cheating is never ok, you just don’t need to do it. They recognized that and split up, with two small daughters.
In a situation like that you can:
Don’t cheat! Talk to her about it reasonably without anger or pointing fingers. Let her know your needs and maybe she will let you have something on the side for sex only.
Not all people are into that but I do know of a woman that lets her husband do it because her health has gotten so bad that she cannot.
no, cheating is a decision you make to avoid dealing with issues in your life.
Step up, make the hard decision to LEAVE, and move on. Anything else is just an excuse.
Yes, if you're despicable lowlife trash. Then it's OK.
No even in a sexless marriage you can't cheat. You can absolutely have a discussion and hope that your spouse is reasonable.
Yes. But it should never be the first option.
If you are going to "cheat" then you leave your job, and cut your expenses, so you don't need to pay support or alimony
I don’t think so. Maybe if both partners have agreed on an option relationship. But that’s it.
Don't cheat - negotiate a deal - if she can't provide great sex once a week, then she will have to let you find it elsewhere.
I really think there is no acceptable reason to cheat. Any argument that supports indulging in attraction to someone who is not one's Partner fails to justify not telling him/her about it or not revising the contractual agreement accordingly.
Nope. Never a good excuse to cheat. EVER. That is the ultimate betrayal and to make excuses for it is unforgivable.
I been punched called names yet cheating never crossed my mind.
I think talking to your spouse is like A1
What if you have and they say not interested anymore then what?
They arnt interested in you or the idea? I would cheat 😂😂 my last resort tho
Well the idea or maybe both
No. There is none. Understandable, perhaps. Acceptable, never.
No.
HOWEVER if you support harming men who cheat, it's only fair if the same was done to women who cheat.
That is one example.
Another is neglect.
No. Either break up or go poly. There's never any excuse to deceive to deceive your partner.
no, none. If you no longer love the one you're with, end it then fool around.
No, it's never ok. Just leave the relationship if you are not happy with it.
Whatever is the problem then TALK and be honest too. Cheating is never acceptable.
None whatsoever.
NONE WHATSOEVER.
Cheating is never, ever acceptable. Period.
If your spouse is being abusive
Nope
Nope
None.
Cheating is a no go for me
N. O. !!
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