Is America’s “Marriage Material” shortage real?

[HungTexan]

I recently read an article regarding the decline in traditional dating, and a decline in marriage. Do you think this is actually happening? Why or why not?

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2025/02/america-marriage-decline/681518/?utm_medium=email&utm_source=pocket_hits&utm_campaign=POCKET_HITS-EN-DAILY-SPONSORED&PAVED-2025_02_06=&sponsored=0&position=2&category=fascinating_stories&scheduled_corpus_item_id=f4a8fe8a-af85-4847-99cc-3f9db73b56ef&url=https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2025/02/america-marriage-decline/681518/

[loveyouoak]

Believe me, the same problem exists all over the world. People are now cold towards others from their own culture, and instead of establishing relationships with them, they are turning to potential spouses from different cultures. Additionally, marriages have started to become boring. For example, the only priority of an average intelligent woman today is herself. Spending time with children and her husband has become a real chore. Being single is more comfortable than being married.

[HungTexan]

It’s sad things are the way they are.

[loveyouoak]

Yes, unfortunately, the world and people have developed and changed with technology. In this case, this change was inevitable. By the way, if I made any spelling mistakes in my comment, please excuse me.

[HungTexan]

👍 no problem

[Crazzyyworld]

I am so feeling this as a trend. It’s like you see handsome nice men but then oh well I need money and turn around. People are probably the same these days.

[oldpigg]

In the modern Western context, marriage is a system of legalized prostitution whereby a man bribes a woman with food/drink, housing, emotional security, job stability, transportation service, an expensive ring, and a lavish wedding.

[NicholasRedone]

I keep telling you all I don't want the whole offspring and white picket fence pressure package 💍 ♀️ lol 😂 *breaks in sweats and smiles, 😀,

[DishLady]

Oh yeah… you don’t see that?


Everyone hopping into bed with everyone else like sex is on clearance sale? All sales are final, everything must go… like the apocalypse is nigh….


Very few of us are “marriage material.” I had a debate with someone once about his comment about someone being “girlfriend material” — his comment made me laugh bc I thought of it as an insult to someone who is “wife material” but he’d apparently meant it as a compliment.


Truth is that most guys and gals today aren’t marriage material. They’re looking out for themselves and so obtuse about understanding what love is that they need at the “love language” guideposts and are addicted to app usage and social media as tools to find and communicate with each other.


Love itself is a vanishing thing now. Those of us who have felt it for a moment are very blessed. Those who couldn’t care less bc they’re busy calculating whether or not they and their person of interest are exchanging love languages properly are missing the point and the gift of what love is and how transformative it is to a person’s life.

[HungTexan]

@DishLady very true

[Miristheiss]

With the divorce laws the way they are, no fault divorce, you can divorce at any time, one person's assets are often taken even if there is provable adultery, alimony, women always get sole custody of the kids.

Women today being so promiscuous and studies show college educated women, women with over 5 sexual partners divorce like over 70% of the time.

As women make their own money their hypergamy always requires they will only want men who make MORE then they do so their "standards" pool of men is very small.

Social media has women thinking they their options are endless and that any guy who is above them on the sexual market is her "league" because she might get such a guy to have sex with her and she is alpha widowed.

Men have a role too. Men are weaker and more feminine these days.

[Anonymous]

Marrage isn't declining it doesn't exist among younger generations!

Many if not most of them have long been taught by our cultural leaders a completely pointless 'feeling' based definition of the institution, thus effectively abolishing the original one.

You don't external force to hold you together in a relationship based upon feeling. You need external force to hold you together for your commitments to the innocent 3rd party of your children.

Because most people are taught the feeling definition their 'marriages' naturally fall apart and are never formed precisely for that reason. Its the children who suffer either way for want of parents or even being born in the first place.

[Alwayreckles93]

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[LiamJHayden]

There are a few issues:

1. No-fault divorce in many places means a cheater can still get half of everything plus spousal support (alimony).
2. Many already get all of the benefits of marriage without the legal obligations. Why sign off on the contract under those circumstances?
3. Rampant porn addiction has created absurd expectations among a large % of the population.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Jobs which require more schooling, taking people who in decades pst would be in first marrying years out of the market, plus the housing shortage which has made it nearly impossible for most under-thirties to buy a home at an age their cohorts from bygone eras began to settle and marry, home-buying being the first sign of a family in progress.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most people form a relationship with a person they met in highschool and they marry them.

The "marriage is in decline" internet posts are always just fake news.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the number of people who even want to marry is decreasing over time. Marriage in itself being too expensive is one main reason, not to mention how expensive it is now to raise a child. It's also become a lot riskier now too.

[seeyounexttuesday]

This is actual demonic corruption in our culture to brainwash people into avoiding relationships and families.