At what age do you think women should marry?

Question

Today I saw how 20 years old Asian girl who’s married white 41 years old men. When I see videos like that I feel anxious, cause I hope I will get married someday, but I’m 26 and will turn 28 when I finish my master degree. And seeing how 40 years old men marrying girl younger than me, makes me feel like I’m missing my train. And also I don’t have boyfriend with whom I dated for a long period, so I will need time to find someone and to date. Do you think it’s matter for girl to find husband at young age? And do you think big age differences are good thing?
(And I’m also Asian that want white husband 👀)

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Do you want children is the most critical question? How many?

If you want children than you are best off with a husband. There are hard limits on fertility. It declines after 30 and starts becoming unlikely at 35. Mileage varies though.

Lets build a conservative framework on this. By conservative, read pessimistic.

Lets assume you want two babies. Parents are spacing births 2-3 years apart. You could have your first birth at 30 but you may not have a second birth. A second birth at 30 would be better which means the first birth at maybe 27. A year of trying and pregnancy means a start at 26.

Most couples take two years to marry. Often couples take 5 years to have a baby but older couples do compress. Lets say after marrying you take a year to settle in together. So you need to meet your husband-to-be at about 23.

Very likely though some time goes on false starts. For whatever reason, over time a couple of guys turn to be not so perfect and you spent a year on each. Not that unrealistic. So you needed to be looking for a husband at 20/21.

In short there is your answer. Very early 20's.

Another problem here is a lot of guys are not wanting to marry or have children because of high likelihood of divorce. Men also prefer women in their early 20's as in your example. Not so easy for a 30s women to tell her date she wants to be married and pregnant in 6 months and get a positive response.

If the woman is primary care giver than she may need to wait for the last child to enter elementary school before she can resume working after 8 years absence. Many don't sure, but there is a cost to that.

Fitting in say 8 years of tertiary plus 5 years of working to establish reputation into the baby production schedule is going to be very difficult.

Women might well be better positioned to start on baby production in their early 20's because study at home could fit into the baby care giving role more readily than work deadlines. Then study into their early 30's and start working late 30s. Taking an 8 year baby break could see you out of a career. In IT that would make you unemployable.

That is just a framework - obviously there are lot of variables. You might find a great guy at 20 but potentially it could take most of a girl's 20s.

If your selection criteria are 1/ around your age (best for later on), 2/ single (always nice), 3/ 6ft+ (seems popular) than only 1 guy in 20 will meet those criteria. Want pa earnings of 100K, it will be getting up to only 1 in a 1000 men are suitable.

Such a girl needs to get out a lot in her early 20s, rather than studying.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

People should marry when they’re ready it’s a major decision and many people who are in a rush to get married end up getting married to someone they never should have been with. In extreme cases marrying someone whose abusive but many cases never making a genuine connection with someone just marrying to have kids, social status, and appearances. Those marriages never end well and many times leads to having affairs.

There is the other extreme too when they were with someone they genuinely wanted to marry who was just perfect for them but either broke it off or just kept rejecting any proposals as well as never making any until eventually it came to a end… But then again maybe it was never meant to be anyways. Some people may wait too long and struggle to find someone.

The timing is everything when it’s meant to be it will be meant to be it should take a lot of prayer and waiting on God’s timing. Not our own because some people rush into things too quickly and it ends in disaster.

fartingspinster · Accepted Answer

I was in the same boat as you... did higher education, finished when I was 27 and I felt I was starting life late because I had to put so much focus and energy on my education.

Its a sacrifice to do higher education, and we live by different rules than the common population. I've had many guys automatically assume I was a catch because of my degree/job, and others make me feel like I was soon to be expired and should be grateful they are interested in me and willing to settle down.

Im from an Asian culture also - so I always grew up with the notion that I should be marrying when im in my 20s to start a life together before kids.
That ship has saled and I couldnt find anyone that would provide harmony in my life, and it was a hard pill to swallow at first but turning 30 helped me shed all of those stupid arbitrary societal rules, expectations and assumptions about when to marry and the reproductive age of my ovaries.

Listen here - eat well, dont drink alcohol, dont smoke, exercise, avoid fast food/high sugar content and overly processed foods.
Incorporate the Asian medicine and teas we use to encourage healthy bodily functions - you'll still be able to be pregnant in your 40s and have the energy for the child also.

Get your ovaries checked (apparently you can check to see how many eggs you have left) if you need to... freeze them. Plan appropriately.

Once you stop listening to people telling you you've reached your peak... you will be free! And so much happier.
Women in their 30s are actually in their sexual prime, so to be in your 30s and dating is actually incredible.
AND lots of young males pairing up with older females now too. So there are more options, most people your age are probably already paired up or have focused on their education also and so you just have to meet them and figure out if they are right for you.

Just focus on your own life/path... itll lead you to the right person for your life. With the same aspirations or same hobbies or whatever it may be - itll just be more harmonious.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

So traditions have shifted (for the most part) from teen (sometimes pre-teen) brides to mid-20 brides to mid-30 brides. Personally, having married young I'm with the guys and gals who wait till they're in their 30s. Why? Because in your 20s you possibly have some schooling and a little experience under your belt but you haven't had time to discover who you are, gain your foothold in the universe, etc. You're perhaps a little book smart and a little street smart (or... ooopsy, only book smart) because you haven't yet experienced the world long enough to know what you can and can't handle.

Waiting till you're in your 30s has the benefit of giving you space between the time you leave school and join the workforce. It prevents you from making hasty decisions about who you're going to marry. It saves you the trauma of a divorce from a person you married at a time that you (and possibly BOTH of you) didn't know yourselves well enough to take on the life-long commitment of marriage...

HawkPerception · Answer

I would say whenever they have a partner they love and can see themselves with for life at any point in their life.

However, I would say a more ideal time to get married is in your 20s if you want a family of your own. Only thing is most people aren't financially ready to be married and settle in their 20s

AviatorTom · Answer

There's no ideal number. A person (man or woman) should marry when they are ready and meet the right person who is also ready.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

"When I finish my master degree" Congratulations on doing the thing for 4th wave feminism that will only impress chicks and will probably never do shit for you. Nobody cares about it except for gay guys and women that are on the 4th wave feminism train that are on the same train that has a track hitting a wall. You're doing something that makes women attracted to a man. You understand that? I'll say it again in case you missed it... you're doing something that makes women attracted to a man.

You're not doing anything that will pop a boner for a man with that statement. He knows it's just more standards to meet on his side or slide in the gap because he's a fuck boy but you have no, 0.00% appeal to a family man that has making a family on the mind.

Think about this. You know how many of us dreamed about becoming a rock/rap/whatever just some sort of fucking music star? How man made it? That's my point... you're currently looking at some 40-something year old that pulled it off and that's the dream you probably will never reach.

You need a non-female and non-sex hungry male's opinion on what you're doing to get an honest opinion about what you're doing. Where the fuck is your dad or brothers?

RingOfFire · Answer

Nature design women to be married young. I think the reason is pretty clear, it's about survival of the species. They have a limited number of years where they can have children, whereas men who remain healthy and literally have them their entire life.

More traditional cultures tend to have bigger age gap couples. Again I think there's a natural explanation for that. Survival of the species is about a strong family unit. That requires someone to bear the children and to take the primary responsibility for raising them while they are young and someone to provide for and protect the mother and children. Women are obviously designed for the former and men obviously designed for the latter.

An older man who is more experienced is generally a better provider because he has gained the skills and wisdom to be able to bring home more meat. And being able to provide is a critical element of his protection duties as well... It's all related.

I think that's why most women want to be with a man who is at least a little older because it makes them feel secure and protected. And some women find even a large age gap to be desirable for the same reason.

And I can tell you that many Western men find much younger Asian women very appealing in part because of their cultural attraction to this kind of relationship. It works both ways.

HighValue · Answer

Women past 30 have no value to good quality men, so I recommend not waiting too long.

Also, all a degree says to a potential partner is that she likely has lots of debt and would be a financial burden on him.

Don't listen to women's advice. Many women intentionally give bad advice because they want others to make the same bad decisions as them and be just as miserable. For example " date lots of guys." The exact kind of behavior that FOREVER disqualifies someone from getting a good partner.

Most women, and liberal men give the worst, most detrimental life advice.

Kelley1 · Answer

Men don't care about your degrees. Therefore, you cannot compete with younger women. You reached your peak, five years ago and at age 26 the downhill slope is beginning to be very steep. You can get married at age 28, but the men you rejected in your prime at age 20 will reject you in your decline.

PrincessC16 · Answer

You have PLENTY OF TIME! I got married right out of high school. We loved each other but neither of us were ready for a long term commitment like that. Give yourself a chance to love and love. Date lots of guy's and figure out how you like to be treated. You're going to meet some real Assholes who are wolves in disguise. You're going to meet some really genuine good guys. It's hard to find someone who's going to treat you right. Love your life first! You still so young!

SixFootSexy · Answer

Try to get married before 30 if you want kids. That way you can have a couple years to get to know your husband before you jump right into parenthood and the stresses that come with that.

As someone who is white, I'd be cool with a much younger Asian woman. They are generally considered to be desirable as wives in the West because they are seen as more submissive and nurturing generally.

silvermoon84 · Answer

It depends on you and what you want. If you want kids it’s best to marry young. If you just want love and companionship then yeah sure it’s easier to find that when you’re young, but there’s no age limit on falling in love. You can fall in love at any age. Just marry when you’re ready and when you’re with someone who you really love (who also loves you back)

sawno · Answer

Men may not be wanting to marry in a place where they get screwed over if she leaves. No equal terms and no benefits means we won't do it. Age wise its not to late, but just keep in mind men will prefer either life long commitment or a symbolical marriage without the government involved because otherwise the terms are to one sided.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Both men and women should marry at 18, to a crush they had prior.
For no reason other than the transition from living with parents to living with your spouse should be seemless, and 1. parents can legally kick you out at 18, and 2. your best shot at finding love is freshmen year of highschool, which gives you 3 years to get to know eachother before being allowed to have sex. Its the perfect storm for avoiding struggle, divorce, or ending up alone.

Wayneg89 · Answer

Age shouldn't be a factor. You should marry when you're ready and feel that you're with the right partner. So many marriages fail nowadays due to people rushing themselves into it before they are actually ready and find out that it was a mistake when it is too late. Take your time. Slow down. Find the right person. Then think about marriage.

Brendan824 · Answer

Please don't ever compare yourself to other people. Enjoy your life that's all you can do. If you want to travel the world travel. If you want to become a musician go for it. At the end of the day you should be proud of what you did whether it was a small step to a goal or reaching a goal.
Marriage will happen especially if you're living your life as not only will it expose you to new people but you'll be so much more liable

Lostgirl611 · Answer

I'm surprised no one has brought up the r@c! st connotations of this question. You're also reinforcing the stereotype many have of Asian women.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I married at 22. That worked for me. The ideal time to get married is highly individual and depends on various personal and economic factors.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

There is no absolute rule and - in most of today's societies - little social pressure. You have to make your own set of goals and the speed with that you want to pursue them. :-)

oldpigg · Answer

If you want to have children, do so before the age of 30. After that, no, because the chances of birth defects increase. In addition, a woman of 30 is already ugly and old.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

when they want and feel ready for marriage :D

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trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

How ever old the woman feels like I married at 24 but I know people getting married in their 30s, 40s and 50s there is no age cut off as a consenting adult lol

unknowngurll1212 · Answer

at the age when you settled with career , achievd goals also when u r completly independent financlly

Apple1996 · Answer

You can get married at any age. Those age gap couples are very very likely to fail so there not a good example to be looking at

RedThread · Answer

When they're good and ready to. Everyone does things at different stages in life. There's no shame in marrying earlier or later if you have the responsibility and maturity for it.

Anonymous · Answer

In fact, regardless of gender, marriage should generally take place in one's 30s. Because the 20s are definitely the most beautiful and productive years of youth, these years should not be wasted by getting married at this age.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Whenever they think it's appropriate for them n they r ready for it

Anonymous · Answer

20-25 to snatch high quality men 25+ to get whatever men are willing to put a ring on it

Anonymous · Answer

You qualifiers are going to make it harder for you.

There'll still be plenty of guys available still when you're 30. But they're probably going to be of lesser quality. As long as you're OK with that you're not going to have a problem.

msc545 · Answer

If you live in the US and you are a man you should NEVER get married. Marriage is financial suicide for men.

Professor-college · Answer

Women should get married when they find someone who they can be themselves with. Someone who demonstrates maturity when it comes to bad situations in life I think those are the ones that are worth it.

QuestionObsession · Answer

Try the sugar daddy/ baby thing. You will hit a jackpot with some white guy.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Master's Degree? What do you need that for... a back up plan?

SuperZonicGUY1992 · Answer

Eww ur old goods. Because the 20 year olds are easy to control. A woman our age r all nagging Karen's !

MasterKS · Answer

until you reach 30 I don't think you are enough mature for marriage saying that, actually marriage is big responsibility, think 100 times before reaching to sign for it. Freedom is so important.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

When ever they want if they even do want to get married

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think people should marry anymore. it's an outdated concept that serves no purpose

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

Never. Marriage, isn't necessary. The only reason people think it is, is the bible

MikeRJ · Answer

You should get married when you find the right person.

Anonymous · Answer

Heeey here your White man Who wants an Asian chick:))

itsannalee · Answer

Any age they are ready for it

NicholasRedone · Answer

Surely before 30 for most folk 😮

DrPepper12 · Answer

Whenever the fuck they want once legal

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Maybe she and the guy are ready honestly..

Anonymous · Answer

I married at 16. My husband was 28.

Chargirllll · Answer

No specific age

nawtee_me · Answer

At whatever age they are when asked….

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

when they feel like it

wkhan_87 · Answer

20 to 25 is best age for marriage

Anonymous · Answer

Mid 20’s I think is fine.

Miristheiss · Answer

18-23

Anonymous · Answer

20-25 is the ideal time.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

After 18

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