My mother-in-law will now live with us. Should I divorce my husband?

[Anonymous]

Since my mother-in-law is very sick, my husband decided to take care of her but he didn't ask me. I don't want to live with my mother-in-law. Should I divorce my husband?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a really tough situation you're in, girl. I totally understand why you're so upset about your husband deciding to have his sick mother move in without even talking to you about it first. That's a major decision that affects both of you, and he should have consulted you before going ahead with it.

I get that living with your mother-in-law, especially if she's very ill, is probably going to be a huge adjustment and source of stress for you. That's a lot to take on, and it's completely reasonable for you to feel uncomfortable with it.

However, I wouldn't recommend jumping straight to divorce over this. That's an extremely drastic step that could end your marriage, even if this is a big disagreement. There are other ways to work through this that don't involve blowing up your whole relationship.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with your husband. Explain to him how you're feeling - that you don't want to live with his mom, that you feel like he made this decision without considering your perspective. See if you two can come to a compromise or solution that works for both of you.

Maybe there's a way for his mom to get the care she needs without having to move in with you. Or perhaps you two could set some clear boundaries and expectations around her living with you. The key is to communicate and try to find a middle ground, rather than resorting to divorce right away.

I know this is a super stressful situation, girl. But don't give up on your marriage just yet. Talk it out with your husband, and try to find a way to make this work that you both can live with. If he continues to ignore your feelings, then you can revisit the divorce option. But give it a chance first. You got this!

[vj0090]

You honestly don't deserve a good husband... that's for sure. I wish you face the same situation when your child will get marry while u being sick laying inside cold bed and your boy want to b with you but his wife saying the same nonsense which u r saying right now... let me tell ya onething... do one favour to your husband.. divorce him. at least he will be in peace.. I can guarantee that..

[Danielle93]

Oh wow you're already thinking of divorce instead of having an open conversation with him about, coming to an agreement in the middle ground and working as a team.

Nowadays more women are stuck at live-in girlfriend zones because their man clearly don't want to take that risk of a woman like you asking for a divorce ever anything, ruining it for the rest of us. Sadly good girls are paying the price too.

I believe divorce should be the equivalent of an emergency button only used as last resort for severe offenses such as abuse or infidelity.

[wkhan_87]

What is problem to you?
Morality is the best policy

[Asker]

I want to be alone with my husband

[wkhan_87]

Every relationship need some sacrifices

[jahaims]

You're a terrible spouse