What are you waiting for to get married?

Question

Last year I felt like I was so ready for marriage but this year I started to think that I am too young for marriage 🤣 yes I am really young

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

Yes, you are too young. Take your time, love.

To be honest, I'm not waiting for it. I just don't want to get married anymore. When I was younger, I thought it would be nice to get married and eventually have kids but after few bad relationships and after witnessing some people have bad marriages.. when I say they had bad marriages- I mean marriages in which they're cheating on each other. No respect or love between them still staying together because of kids or something else. Marriages in which they're being abused be it verbally or physically.

After few bad relationships it made me feel like what if I marry someone and he'll end up being like my ex boyfriends who lied to me to make me fall for him and by the time he will reveal his true self, it will be too late. What if I get cheated on or abused? That will break me.

So, I started being more and more scared over the years. I won't mind staying together with him long term without marrying however that becomes a problem because my partner expresses wish/interest in getting married.

Sawyerblu · Accepted Answer

I’m waiting because I refuse to settle for someone who doesn’t meet my standards (consistency, kindness, intellect, driven). I don’t want to get divorced, so the man I pick needs to demonstrate emotional intelligence and the traits I would like my kids to have.

I heard something that said “if you wouldn’t want your kids to be just like them, they’re not the right person.” I use that as a guide for who I give my energy to. If I wanted to be married just for the sake of being married, it could’ve happened many times by now, but I’m looking for something beautiful, special and rare.

TodsShadow · Accepted Answer

Not to sound condescending, but I have been honestly trying the past 4 years to find someone who loves and cares for me before money or resources and benefits are involved. Unfortunately things are much more transactional now. I've had women I've texted for 2 days ask me to pay their bills or fund a certain lifestyle for them without them knowing even 3 things about me. I think I may try in other countries. I'd really like to become a husband and father before im too old to play with my future kids. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

YourFutureEx · Accepted Answer

Last year I felt like I was so ready for marriage but this year I started to think that I am too old for marriage 😭 yes I am really old

Actually I couldn't find the woman I wanted, I don't just want a woman

I want a woman with character. If she can't be a good mother and wife, she is no different from other women.

ohsheeT · Answer

You haven't even started living life yet there are so many things you need to experience first

AviatorTom · Answer

Not waiting at all. I'm 8 years into my 2nd marriage. First marriage ended in an amicable divorce after 20 years.

Simslover92 · Answer

The right man to come along which I'm accepting might not happen anymore.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Perhaps this might help:

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I will never marry. The laws surrounding marriage and divorce have to change dramatically before i’d even consider it.

HawkPerception · Answer

Financial stability and a partner that I've been with, trust without a shadow of a doubt, and is my best friend.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Probably some ten years or so, or if she offers me one million or two; or she's some queen/princess and I become ruler consort.

Jokes aside, I think I won't entertain the concept of remarriage for five years or so.

Anonymous · Answer

in my opinion marriage is overrated and a relic of the past. As an ace, I'm not attracted to men physically/sexually at all and most men will expect sex as part of a relationship, which grosses me out. Plus being single, means you have more freedom to do whatever your heart desires, pursue your own dreams without any pressure, or obstacles from anyone.

I would love to travel the world, publish my own book, start my personal enterprise and not be chained down or become anyone's slave

ilistengood · Answer

I got married at 32, it was shortly after id had a serious motorcycle accident, and it was , I felt, time I should be married ( dont ask me why) It didn't last long, I won't say id never get married again, but It won't be because I think I should be.

Kelley1 · Answer

I have been trying to get married since age 18. I'm not married because I haven't been asked by a guy I was willing to marry, and/or my standards are too high. Since my sexual market value will soon be dropping, if I am not engaged by Christmas, I will lower my standards.

Miristheiss · Answer

21 years old?

Too young?

Well, I bet you aren't too young tobe having sex with guys. Something tells me you are not a virgin so you are not too young for that.

So you need a few more years of sleeping around, aging and looking older, your eggs to get older... then you are ready to be a wife?

Whi raises modern women?

love13eternal · Answer

I’m 35 now and i thought i’d find someone by 25. you know how they set a timeline for everyone? Well that was my assumption for myself. Growing up i dated a lot of guys, not 100 or anything but I’d be in a relationship after relationship. i was okay with that as well, however I think I reached my maximum number of “men”. I’m not ugly or anything and I have an awesome personality (so I was told). I workout, have a nice shape, I have this job I love. But where I live which is new york, it’s reallllly difficult to find someone who isn’t a tool. I guess I was waiting for the right guy, but i realized he doesn’t exist - you make him the right guy once you meet him. But I’m slowly realizing that he isn’t out there for me, it’s kind of sad.

rachel776 · Answer

we said 3 years when we got engaged. we thought it might end up being sooner but so far it still looks like it will be that. and before this i didn't think i would get married until age 30

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If you want to get married get married lol..

Hopefully you will be married to one person.

Marry before 26 , later on you will hardly feel like getting married or you will put more thought into it and the prospects might also start to decrease.

Sugar100 · Answer

For a guy to ask me. I can’t ask mylsef to get married lol. But I think marriage don’t exist for me no guy ever ask to be his girlfriend which means no one will ever marry me 😞

Gaylordslav · Answer

Never desired sex, relationship or kids. Im blessed because if I did I would be very miserable. Im very. Unattractive so finding me worthy of dating is slim to none. Im nearly 31 and all i ever experienced from women was poor treatment for simply existing. Llife hasn't been good to me but I learned i was saved from some suffering - betrayal, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, divorce

chrissykerdock · Answer

wait until you have something for now practice with your dildos and work on your techniques

leahzrc · Answer

I never thought about marriage but I think God wants me to get married

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Uhh money... that shits expensive even when trying to do it on a budget

LiaRaven · Answer

You are very young for marriage, but also it depends on different factors like culture and families
I am not thinking of marriage right now, I want to establish my career first, I don’t think it’ll be fair for me to start a family now

BCRanger10 · Answer

I waited because I just didn't meet my wife until I'd turned 29.

tzdc21 · Answer

Just waiting for the right partner. This takes some serious thought.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Nothing, it's not really something that is on my mind for now

HusamRocks · Answer

I see myself as not qualified to get married yet while everyone disagree with me 😂

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think you’re too young to get married, if you’re 21 years old. Time moves quickly. Sure, maturity, finding the right person takes time. But it’s best to look now then be 32 worried about finding the right guy. It depends on your expectations - are you looking for a guy who’s 6’4, 270 pounds, handsome face, build like a football player 🤷🏻‍♂️

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Yes, you are correct. Most 21 year olds are not equipped to handle being married. A 21 year old is basically a kid in an adult body. Who said that I am waiting? I’m simply not interested in being married

anon1903 · Answer

For ozone layer to be restored. I'd really like those ice caps back please

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I am waiting for... a better alternative of being together with someone?

Grond21 · Answer

Finally, after years and years of waiting, I am not anymore

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I’m not waiting for anything & I certainly don’t want to get married or plan on getting married especially nowadays. I’m not stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone who treats me like an actual person and not complete crap. Someone who doesn't use my ideas as a lame ass PR stunt Someone who won't cheat or make death threats on me and won't cross boundaries

ProbablyClueless · Answer

A woman who genuinely inspires that level of devotion

Anonymous · Answer

The next life. It ain't happening in this one.

shortster · Answer

To find the right person; but at this point I would probably settle for someone who will just go out on a date with me.

McSteamy · Answer

Yes. 21 is too early. Earn an identity for yourself. Good Guys will run after you.

Anonymous · Answer

A god woman who brings to the table the qualities a man actually cares about. Haven't found one yet.

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Married no way jose , are you crazy 😜 maybe I should marry you. You crazy daisy

AlinaJanowska18 · Answer

I want to complete my education

DannyUk2017 · Answer

You are really young... Not Yet!

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

But in your culture that not to young married right

talka20 · Answer

Proper job/source of income

DrPepper12 · Answer

The laws on polygamy to change...

LiamJHayden · Answer

A change in the divorce laws.

Bloodparadise · Answer

Waiting for long distance crush

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Finding someone worth a damn. So far no luck.

Anonymous · Answer

To marry a woman and not the state

Phoenix98 · Answer

The right woman.

WonderingManII · Answer

I'm waiting for a woman to love me enough.

Amur8711 · Answer

A girl to even try to see if we are ment to be

NathanDavis · Answer

leap year..

maj1nall · Answer

Son, there is no one like the person I want

jamesgoldman · Answer

Dying so someone can inherit my estate tax- free

KostasKouvalis · Answer

The right girl

thegreenyogi · Answer

Meeting Mr Right.

Texasgal95 · Answer

Money

grega239 · Answer

A miracle i guess

renodnol32 · Answer

Someone to connect with.

Chocolatetwopointtwo · Answer

not really

Anonymous · Answer

I'm waiting for the right girl.

Anonymous · Answer

A man , I’m waiting on a man 🤣

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