Do you think lack of options help a marriage's survival?

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows of a youngster in their 20s who married then divorced in 30s. Then they marry again in their 40s and are able to maintain that marriage successfully forever. Or someone spent their 20s and most of their 30s dating around, keep complaining that they can't find the right person- dating so many people. Then as they get old in their late 30s or 40s, they manage to scramble for someone and maintain that marriage forever.

do you think that it could be because these people realize that they can't attract dates like they used to since they're getting older, so then they will just settle for whatever is left?

People date around when they're still young, hot and still have options. But get married only when they realize they can't play around like they used to... so they will settle for marriage

[DishLady]

"Foreveeeeer is a looog looog tiiiiime..."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_mIrszby2Y

It's not about age, it's about the difference between allowing an organic connection or forcing one out of desperation. If you're forcing one out of desperation then the relationship is doomed before it's started. If you're allowing an organic connection to thrive, then that's the best way to allow good healthy things into your life.

[Asker]

organic connection doesn't mean the relationship will last.

[DishLady]

Forcing ensures it won’t last.

[Asker]

most people don't force their connection. Attraction is attraction. I dont know of anyone who wants to marry someone they don't love

people don't divorce due to lack of real connection... they divorce because they don't want to work on problems, don't want to compromise, don't want to sacrifice for each other. They neglect their relationships once they encounter problems... "ok. now we have a problem so this must be the wrong person for me" , so they keep looking for someone better than the last

[Asker]

you need to stop obsessing over "connection"

connection means nothing when you're not compatible with them.

connection means nothing if they are constantly looking for someone better than the last

connection means nothing if they start neglecting themselves and start weighing 400 pounds

[Nikki1989]

People stay because leaving feels impossible.

Financial dependence, social pressure, or fear of being alone can make people stay even when they’re unhappy, or so I have been told. I have never actually seen it happen to anyone I have known.

[Asker]

t here is a reason why young people break up/ divorce while the old stay married

[live2dance25]

Perhaps. But a marriage’s survival depends on a lot of things. Compatibility, acceptance, and ability to forgive the past. There may be some truth to this statement but in other cases, may be pure luck. It depends..

[Asker]

i really don't think its due to pure luck. Young people divorce more cuz they know its still easy enough for them to attract new dates. Old people stay in crap marriages because they know they can't get anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you have a point.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[jazzy34]

No. I think it depends on the couple’s maturity and how seriously they take marriage. My parents married young. My mom was 20 and my dad was 24. In March, they’ll be married 37 years.

[BCRanger10]

No, couples having a sense of honor and integrity and choosing to love each other through good and bad helps a marriage survive.

[jahaims]

No, being mature and healthy does. If the only thing stopping someone from doing something bad is opportunity then they are bad regardless of if they carry it out or not.

[slatyb]

No, it's because they learned enough the first time to make a better choice the second time.

[Anonymous]

It definitely can for some people.