If my husband can’t satisfied my needs, is it okay to seek it outside of our marriage?

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serious · Accepted Answer

The answer is No. That is just an act of cowardice. If satisfying your needs are important which I can understand then there are only 2 ways to go about this. First is try to sit and talk with your husband and work out a solution. Communication is always the key.

If that does not work then you should consider ending the marriage and then you can do what you want. However, while being in marriage if you seek to satisfy your needs from outside then that is of course cheating and is also an act of cowardice.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Only with his consent, otherwise it's cheating, and if you plan on cheating, you are best to file a divorce and go your separate ways before you jump into bed with someone else. cuz how would you feel if your husband was doing that to you behind your back?

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

Of course, it is okay. You deserved the pleasure of fucking a sexy young guy. That is better than fucking some pot-bellied out-of-shape guy whose body doesn't turn you on. It is good for everyone. The sexy younger guy enjoys it, you enjoy it, and it is good for your hubby because it makes you less bitchy. It is best if your hubby doesn't know.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

try to fix why he isn't meeting your needs before doing anything like that. i'm sure there's a way to fix your problem through dialogue. if you can't fix the problem even after trying hard, maybe divorce is better.

AviatorTom · Answer

Only if it's okay with your husband.

And remember that what's fair for the gander is fair for the goose, which means it would be okay with you for him to have fun with other women.

Think hard about this question. Are they really needs? Or strong desires?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Does he agree with your plan or would you do this in secret?

HawkPerception · Answer

Leave your marriage. Cheating makes you a scumbag.

Master_Debator · Answer

Takes a vow to belong only to him, in sickness and in health, unto death do you part.

Proceeds to seek more penis because that penis isn't doing it for you.

That's you right now.

Have you considered a dildo and some videos to flick the bean to? I'm just saying you can take care of those needs very easily without dragging other humans into your world.

I mean a cheater is going to cheat and if that's going to be you, nothing I say is going to stop you. No point in looking for justification here with us retards. Go slob some knobs.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Is it ok? No never

Should you consider it anyway? Probably yes.

Truth is, marriages aren’t perfect.
But trust and honesty are more important than other details

If he can’t satisfy you for physical reasons that can’t be fixed he should allow you to seek satisfaction elsewhere
Or end the marriage if it’s not something he can live with

Cheating behind his back is more of a problem

But ultimately your choice

blueonblack22 · Answer

I think you already know the answer to this. But seriously if roles were reversed how you feel about your husband “getting his needs met” elsewhere?

I swear the majority of the female responders to this question would respond much differently to a man asking that then a woman.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

No, it is not okay. A marriage is supposed to be a sacred bond which symbolizes God's love to us.

If you can't keep your marriage vows, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. You're literally asking people to give a "thumbs up" to you acting and living like a complete whore. You're exactly the sort of person who spreads AIDS around and doesn't give a care in the world what happens to other people.

Nik1hil · Answer

It is Okay, as Long as your Husband knows about it!.. .

First, Talk to him, tell him, "You cannot Satisfy me! But I don't want to Cheat! So things that you cannot give me and satisfy me with.. I will Get those needs from others, but You will be aware of all of it!"

Then keep this Open to Negotiation, and Negotiate and don't do anything behind his back and Respect Him and I am pretty sure it will work out

queenofcardio · Answer

You should discuss it with him , he may be open to adding a partner

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I thought you already had 7 other dudes? Why do you keep asking stupid questions and trolling?

Anonymous · Answer

That's cheating, dear. If you start that, begin a divorce decree and get out there on your own but don't lower your standards by cheating., It sounds like your marriage won't change. But you need to now.

Jerre · Answer

Depending on your religion and moral beliefs, that shud not be a problem. Two of my friends with benefits are married and cannot get orgasms from their husbands. I see them and we have sex at least once a week and I give them multiple orgasms which they love.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Divorce him. It might be painful for your kids, but in the long run it’s better for everyone, including them.

capriVib · Answer

Of course, a husband is one thing, the guy friend you sleep with is another. Balance both and you’re good. Who among us doesn’t cheat on their partner from time to time? 😂👍

NoDecision · Answer

Cheating is never okay. Either get it worked out or get divorced.

Anonymous · Answer

Would you be ok w him seeking satisfaction outside of your marriage if you weren’t fulfilling his? I mean I say no. But it also depends on how he feels. He’s in a relationship w you, not me. So if he gave you permission than I guess it’s ok.

OneViewpoint · Answer

That decision is yours alone. I did it. No regrets or remorse. I gave my wife every chance to step up. She made her decision. I made mine. Life is short and we only get one chance at it.

loveyouoak · Answer

Why would you do something like that when you’re married? If the roles were reversed, would you accept your husband cheating on you? If your husband can’t satisfied your needs, then divorce him and find someone you want.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would say yes. As a woman your needs are security and protection. If your husband can't provide those two things then you should find a man who can. If he does provide those two things then you need to provide sex, silence and sandwiches.

Agape93 · Answer

Sure, but get his permission so you don't become a piece of shit.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Those aren't needs their wants. You should never have married him in the first place. I feel bad for him.

slatyb · Answer

Why do you want to stay in the marriage? Have you spoken to him about it?

UrLoveMocha · Answer

if it’s something that can be taught then I would try this before going to the deep end.

abc3643 · Answer

NO. What part of the marital vows do you not understand?

Berethor · Answer

That's a very slutty thing to do, why don't you leave your husband if he can't satisfy you?

genericname85 · Answer

Flip it around. Would it ok for him to seek out his needs outside of your marriage if you didn't satisfy his needs? Remember. Marriage is contract. You may be on legally thin ice doing that.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

yeah, unless he's a cuckold I suggest you end that marriage first

Purpleronnie · Answer

Hmm let’s see ….. the marriage vows you made? , what do they have to say on the subject?

Anonymous · Answer

No, cheating makes you a monster, end of story end of discussion. If him not satisfying you carnally is the shallow shitty reason you want to do that then just divorce so he can find someone who actually loves him, cause obviously that's not you.

loveslongnails · Answer

That depends on what your marriage arrangement is all about. What does your husband have to say about it?

Anonymous · Answer

Sure. You gotta ask yourself is your happiness more important than your family and kids. In short buy a vibrator

truthteller234 · Answer

not everything is about your needs. this is why never advise selfish self centered people to get married.

fivebyfour · Answer

Imho yes it is, you are entitled to happiness,,,

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Well, your first problem is you can't spell. Adultery would be your second problem.

idekJeremiah07 · Answer

No, you tell him and talk about it, if he can’t satisfy you, tell him to buy a toy for you or something, don’t cheat, you even asking this shows a lot?

Anonymous · Answer

Wouldn’t that be cheating, or do you have his permission?

Sal_Monella · Answer

It's morally wrong but a rental is less unfaithful than a side relationship.

Brady · Answer

No unless it's OK with your his husband. That's cheatin.

AgentG111 · Answer

That's cheating, why ask us? Why not ask him or leave or divorce/end your marriage.

Mike_Hum · Answer

No it isn't. How isn't he meeting your needs?

LiamS95 · Answer

No not unless he agrees to it and even then it's not the best of ideas.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That all depends on you and your husband but if you have to go behind his back and do it then you know its wrong

msc545 · Answer

No, it's not okay but you're going to do it anyway.

robocop666 · Answer

an affair is a highly highly dangerous thing

Steve-the-lion · Answer

Of course it is. But then he has the right to slit your throat if you get found out.

Insecure1 · Answer

No it is not that will make you a cheater and untrustworthy. I do not recommend that.

Summeroflove · Answer

Get divorced.

Flower7 · Answer

Why stay married?

ginger_snap · Answer

Yes but only if he is ok with it.

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, of course.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Is it an open marriage?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just get divorced.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

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jshm2 · Answer

No. Buy a dildo or something.

SolitarySolace · Answer

No. Just get a divorce.

Alex-Snow · Answer

May buy some fun sex toys?

Lucianmagnus · Answer

with his apporval

_Troian_ · Answer

I think he should be cucked.

CubaPirate · Answer

Well I thought you were already doing it

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

No, it's not.

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