Just don't try to be italian... o god! my cousins husband must have read a "how to be Italian" book right before coming over for dinner, he is white as ever but was saying things like the food is delicioso! I was embarassed for him.. just be respectful, help out in the kitchen(hopefully you know how to cook, or at least work the appliances) and most importantly show them you love your hubby, don't be all over him, respect him, show them you are smart and can hold your own, don't be shy! you got nothing to hide, you are part of the family, get to know them, make them laugh, relax, enjoy the food, drink, Italians know how to enjoy life and will fish out anyone who isn't being real with themselves or putting on an act, also my family kisses on the cheek so be prepared for that, ask your husband if there is anything you should know or do before coming over, if he is the shy type then try to bring it out of him, by going through a basic run through of a usual night at mama's house. Relate the italian culture with your own culture, tell them about your family(they will apprciate a strong family/culture, so avoid something like "I don't talk to my mom" say something more like "me and my mom loved to do blahblah blah", control the convo so you won't have to say anything you don't want to say) It might be a fun idea to look at family photo albums. Have fun, I was relating this to my dad's family who is 100% italian, of course his will be different, but basically this advice applies to all cultures.
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Is he the eldest child, and first son? If so... that is always the trickiest of situations-- it could take a bit of warming-up on her part, as no one is ever seen to be good enough at the beginning for her baby.
In certain mothers' eyes: their boy is Jesus.
Having said that, it could also be a less "stereotypical" Italian family.
Show up fresh, do not wear any (even slightly) revealing/flaunting clothing, no extreme make-up, remove oddly placed piercings, I suggest no unnatural hair-dye, be courteous and offer to assist in the kitchen, show affection toward your fiancé (but be cautious to not present too much), watch your language, be very open to answer their questions, and be yourself.
Even if they do not initially like you (which is getting less common in each generation, I would like to add), they will certainly grow to. When my father married my mother, from what I understand, his mother (my grandmother) was not over the moon about it.
I am sure that your husband-to-be, potentially, has some words of advice and ease to share with you? Do not be embarrassed to bring it up.
The first meeting is always full of nerves, Italian or not.
Well, my husband is Italian (he's from a small town in Abruzzo region) and he's not exactly a momma's boy... he does idolize his sister though (who is very sweet). I never had any problems with his family and we've been together for 5 years. Just be nice, polite, my husband's family likes "traditional" type of girls, you don't have to cook like his grandmother but knowing your way around the kitchen is a big plus. The most fun conversations I've had with the women in my husband's family were about good recipes. I really wrecked myself with my nerves before meeting them for the first time, but his entire family is unbelievably sweet and caring- much like mine (my parents are Dutch travellers, old-school style, the ones that don't steal or con people, we have much incommon with Italian people culturally speaking). I felt at home immediately and the relationship between us is really good. I was really worried for nothing, so I suspect it'll turn out wonderfully in the end for you as well :).
It is true that italians can be mama boys, many (most) are like that. It's a two way process, the mother just does not f***ing let go of her son, the son just does not f***ing let go of his mum (I'm italian btw). So, as a general thing, that's part of the culture. Also, if he wants you to meet his whole huge family, I'm pretty sure he is from the south or from the islands of italy. The italian ways is you'll come back home weighting about 50kg more (yet you'll have tasted really amazing food), you will be going from one home to another, it will be tiring, people will be very friendly with you and try to make you at ease as much as they can. They will be probably very insistent in wanting you to eat, 'try this' 'try that' 'you eat very little' 'you are not liking it?' and so on; so if you are concerned about your weight just be prepared for that, just let them know 'no thanks, it's really good but I'm very careful with my diet' or something like that. You will be welcome and everybody will want to meet you and perhaps try to exchange a few words with you (you don't speak italian do you?). Don't worry, it'll be OK but exhausting. As for mama boys, that's something deep in the psyche and don't know what to tell you about it, or what would you like to know? My mother and my aunts are really lovely persons and would make you really at ease.
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