Do you like it or does it bother you when your boyfriend/girlfriend buys a very expensive gift for you?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

It bothers me a lot. My mum has taught me never to accept something from anyone for free, and if it is a gift, I would feel very uncomfortable if it was expensive.

I would not want my partner to splurge and waste his money on me. I would much rather prefer he spends quality time with me. That would mean a lot more to me than material possessions. However, I wager he would feel bad if I did not accept his gift. If he was my partner, he would probably know that I’d prefer affection/something less expensive and meaningful than an expensive gift.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The money does not always effect my enjoyment of the gift. I’ve preferred cheaper foods over more expensive foods at restaurants before and I’ve preferred cheap places like Taco Bell to more expensive places like red lobster. I’ve also preferred cheap $14.00 movies to operas in the past.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Fine by me. If she insists I'll take it 💁‍♀️ however I need no expensive gifts.

But don't go as far as getting me a liquid cooled RTX 4090 (Ti). That's just overkill since I have a Liquid cooled GTX 1080 Ti and I play Dead By Daylight, not Cyberpunk 2077.

Do you like it or does it bother you when your boyfriend/girlfriend buys a very expensive gift for you?

Suppose we had $2000 to spare? I rather go on vacation and get massages than pay $1749 for this new GPU.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

Nothing is free. The money spent on children's education is also considered an investment.

If anybody is giving you something free, consider that you will definitely need to pay back that person in some or the other sense. Hence, I always think before accepting any kind of gift.

But I get a very small number of gifts. And that too is very rare. 😅

Summeroflove · Answer

Bother me? No. Really appreciative. The only thing is. If I can’t pay back the favor. Then I feel bad.

Love shouldn’t be measured in material value either. As well as some people once you start doing this kind of thing. They begin to expect it. Aren’t grateful and entitled.

menina · Answer

It would bother me. What happens if we break up? He's going to ask for all the gifts he gave me and he's most likely to humiliate me because I can't afford expensive presents.

This is a bad idea and I hope that my future boyfriend doesn't give me pricey gifts.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

It bothers me and fortunately he is aware. It makes me feel bad because it's just material. Life is short and you decide to waste so much money on some gift that probably only I can use. I don't think it's worth it.
He knows it makes me uncomfortable so he rarely does it.

MementoMori_ · Answer

I've never liked getting or giving material gifts. It always makes me feel like I am obligated in some way and that the relationship isn't the important thing but that somehow material things can make up for that.

Other kinds of gifts, like doing something kind, are completely different. That is the kind of gift I prefer giving.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I suppose I wouldn't be upset or anything. I would graciously accept and be very grateful.
But in all honesty, I would really prefer not to receive gifts. I just don't want someone to feel like they need to give me things. I'm not a materialistic person.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I feel bad when he does, as he doesn’t like receiving gifts so I can’t really return the favour in that way, but I return the favour in other ways so it ends up equal I suppose. I feel bad when anyone buys me expensive gifts though.

sweet-chocolate · Answer

It'll bother me because I easily lose things, so imagine someone buys me earrings for 25k, I can promise you that I'll lose them in less than a month. But maybe if their gift is my very own library then I won't be bothered lol

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes it bothers me! A dozen roses on Valentine’s Day is a bit much. You don’t have to spend all that to show me you like me. Get ‘me one stemmed rose I’m good! I don’t believe in spending extravagant to impress an S/o

Blackcupcake · Answer

well… if he knows me well enough, he’d know that, expensive gifts is not what would make me happy… it would be him buying me something he KNOWS I would be ecstatic about… and those things aren’t expensive at all… lol

Kori1236 · Answer

It would bother me. And I would feel like absolute shit if someone were to spend an exorbitant amount of money on me. Hell I feel bad when someone buys me a coffee:

Sere1706 · Answer

I’m a girl and it wouldn’t bother me. I would definitely feel under pressure to “pay back” somehow but I would enjoy the thought of spending big money on me. I think it’s a sign that the person is investing on you even in that way. Presents, gifts, are a love language. I think they must be read as such , unless you’re an escort and the guy is a sugar daddy. That is something else lol

humanearth · Answer

Hard to say, I make the money and she spends our money to buy me a gift Subscription for going broke

TheVigilantOne · Answer

I hate it when people buy me gifts as it’s like an obligation now I have to buy you something of the same value or more, it’s very stressful.

Baredog · Answer

No I do not like it. I'd rather her write a note telling how she feels about me and our relationship. Although the gesture is great material things are meaningless in the inner workings of a relationship.

Steamnir · Answer

I love to enjoy gifts given to me without thinking

Thatdude091699 · Answer

I wonder where you are from because where I'm from it's seen as gross or pedophilia fir men to date mire than 4 years younger than them, and women are just seen as lucky to have a younger guy.

sheikalana · Answer

Doesn't bother me at all. I used to do the same for my partner.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yeah, it can be nice, every once in a while.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I would NOT like it (and as she knows, she doesn't do it).

DevinAM · Answer

It would be nice but not necessary.

I've already established that I'm not much of a gift giver but on the rare occasion I give one it could end up being expensive.

I pretty much only give gifts if I feel inspired to do so.

libsaretards · Answer

It does not bother me, but gift-giving is not my love language.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Well I outright refused to let my second girlfriend buy me a £5,000 watch

AsaKyo · Answer

I wouldn't let him buy me an expensive gift

Anonymous · Answer

thats literally never happened to me so i can't say if i like it or dislike it.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t mind something expensive but I don’t want her to struggle over it financially

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

18 years and she’s never got me a expensive gift hell I didn’t know I could get one.

sub4uruse · Answer

It does bother me personally now as I'm not able to return the favor as I can barely afford a gift of any being on ssi for 14 years

Agape93 · Answer

Makes me uncomfortable

Brandi555 · Answer

Never happened

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only if it's something I needed.

oscaramy1060 · Answer

It is very nice move on

art84 · Answer

Don't mind if it's like a PS5 or a laptop.

User3191989 · Answer

I am single so I can't answer this

Zolly99999 · Answer

I don't know... I've never had it happen

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