What do you think about the person who does not like the gift because it is cheap?

[red-lipstick-girl]

I previously wanted to prepare a chocolate box for my boyfriend, which is an expensive gift, but he said that such a gift would be cheap, so I did not give it to him. Frankly, he bought me expensive gifts and I wanted to buy him a gift, but I got really cold towards him because of this behavior. Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore. I'm single, but if every man is like this, I'll continue to be single.

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We have been separated for 7 months now.

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I don't have a boyfriend, it's just a question on my mind and I think proud

[Blunky]

I will never understand that mentality. I actually feel rather guilty when people spend a lot of money on gifts for me since I grew up poor and am not materialistic. Like, save the money, your friendship is enough for me.

[glennos89]

It's the idea that matters not the gift itself. If they don't appreciate the gift then stop giving them gifts

[ohsheeT]

It's sad that he feels that way.. it's not how much the gift cost that matters it the time and energy that matters

My son was 5 years old. And on my birthday my ex mother inlaw brought him to my house to drop him off. When they got there I was outside he ran to me with a. brown paper bag and handed it to me and said happy birthday day and a hug

My mother inlaw smiled and said hi happy birthday and a. hug she said he spent a lot of time on those

I open the bag. And It was a bag of about 10 rocks.. I got all excited and said ong you got me what I wanted thank you so much . and I said let's check them out.

One rock at a time I pulled out and we looked at them it was eith the 3rd or 4th rock I grabbed ahold of it was heavy as I got it to the top of the bag and open my hand I smiled abd asked my son where he found these rocks in his grandma's creek he said I was holding a gold rock it was a little over an ounce of gold

[Shiprex]

Sounds like this guy is a materialistic adolescent. For me who grew up working class and was the first in my extended family to get to university at a time when only 10% of people went there, I was never one to be enamoured by the expensive frippery of logos or brands. The thought of having a "prepared box of chocolates" sounds absolutely wonderful (as long as they're not made with milk) and so thoughtful (I've done things like this for my SO though not chocolate usually cakes) that I would be over the moon. That we've never seen value in cost of something over thought of it is a good thing.

You're better off with someone who values YOU and not what you provide.

[Salaciousrouge]

Do not buy a gift for a man which you would buy for a girlfriend. Chocolate is not a good man-gift unless he is a massive lover of it. It likely had less tondo with the cost. You'd likely been better of indulging him with a supply of his favorite chips. I think most men care less about the value of the gift and more about if that gift indicates your recognition of who he is. Many men dont like gifts. Try asking what he wants. If he says nothing, ask his friends. It might simply be time alone to play video games. Men are pretty simple. If they aren't, get one that is!

[Phoenix98]

Honestly I'm the opposite I don't like expensive gifts. Maybe it's my humble background and the way I was raised.

But I really don't like receiving expensive gifts I'd much rather have a basket of snacks or something practical like tools then a 10,000$ watch.

[DrPepper12]

The cheap gifts are what I treasure. My son got me a plastic handle dental mirror at the dollar store so I can see all sides of the pipe I'm soldering to be sure I did a good job on tight spaces. It was.99¢ and means the world to me because he heard my frustration and worked to lessen it. That's a gift!! 🎁

[Grond21]

So you're saying that he was being ungrateful? He wasn't appreciating the effort you were putting into the gift and so you decided not to put any more effort into the gifts for him? If that is the case, then I can see how that would be frustrating and disconnecting.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I am not currently dating him, we broke up a long time ago but I was sad about it but chocolate is not cheap in Türkiye, it is expensive and even that is not cheap

[Grond21]

I can understand why you were sad. He sounds a but entitled

[Grond21]

A bit*

[QuestionObsession]

He bought you expensive gifts, (plural). You bought him one chocolate box.

Even if you bought him the most expensive chocolates in the world, you bought it just once while he bought you many expensive gifts.

Hope he is with someone more deserving of his gifts than someone ungrateful and self centred 😊

[red-lipstick-girl]

This is a ridiculous thought he was 20 years older than me, he only bought 3 gifts for me, yes it was expensive, but not much, I am unemployed

[QuestionObsession]

You didn't mention any of that in your post. There was no context or back story. So you were dating a guy 20 years older than you? That's admirable of you. I thought you are from a country where dating is not allowed, let alone someone way older?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Even though I had little money, I wanted to buy it. He said such things even though he knew this. Am I wrong? It is not forbidden to have a boyfriend in my country. I live in a secular country.

[QuestionObsession]

See, if you tell half the story, the response will be biased. Other people commented in your favour because they love to kiss a girl's ass and condemn guys without knowing the whole story. So he was mean to you despite knowing your situation, then my question is, did he ever ask you to buy him anything? Did he ever complain or say that you never buy him any presents?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Yes, he clearly said this and asked me why I didn't buy a gift. I said I didn't have money to buy a gift right now. Then I wanted to buy it when I had money, but he didn't accept it because it would be cheap.

[QuestionObsession]

Ok, then he was being a jerk. But not all guys are like him. I have been with girls who were selfish as fuck and did not want to spend money even when they had it. So you don't have to stay single thinking all guys are like that. Was he online or in real life?

[red-lipstick-girl]

We met on the internet, we met in a separate city, but we met, but I'm not stingy, I spend money on the people I love, but I can't take it.

[red-lipstick-girl]

We came face to face in real life, we met

[QuestionObsession]

Ok. What is your Zodiac sign? Let's see if you are stingy or not :-)

[red-lipstick-girl]

Scorpion

[QuestionObsession]

Yikes! Hmm

[Lliam]

It's the thoughtfulness that counts. I don't care about the cost at all. Someone who does is materialistic and greedy. They don't understand what is of true value.

[Mrtcn01]

of course not.. expensive is just only number.. it is important how do you feel when you prepare a gift..

[slatyb]

I think I should never give them another gift. If I were you, I would leave his greedy ass.

[nawtee_me]

Gifts are gifts and it is the thought that counts since they gave them because they wanted to and was thinking about that person.

[EmmaMary]

If I were you @red-lipstick-girl I would be looking for a new boyfriend.

[red-lipstick-girl]

We have been separated for 7 months.

[EmmaMary]

@red-lipstick-girl

You say "seperated" so are you hoping for a reconciliation at some point?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Never, no

[Staximus]

The best gift a girl ever gave me cost her no money at all.

[NathanDavis]

not the kind of friend you want...

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Intention matters, not the price.

[Bklynbadboy12]

If I take the time to get someone a gift and the tell me that they won't get anything. I don't even know why you'd except that type of behavior

[Anonymous]

Marry me, i dont care what presents you bring i just want your presence as my present

[red-lipstick-girl]

Who are you

[Opinion Owner]

Someone who thinks your beauty is eternal and your lips are made of stars

[LunarEclipse433]

They are not worth your time

[WatchMeCumXD]

I think theyre shallow and materialistic

[HelpfulWoman]

materialistic people rarely make good spouses.

[zombiewoof]

They only value money, not people

[wkhan_87]

I think they are selfish and immoral

[Anonymous]

I think such a person is kind of arrogant.