I sent my boyfriend $80 for his birthday, and he’s upset?

[Anonymous]

We’re long distance, dating for a year and a half. I tried for a couple of hours to come up with an engraving for a watch for him, but he ended up not liking how the watch looked. Then I decided to look up polo shirts (since I know he likes them) and one I liked was about 74 dollars, so I just sent him 80 cuz I couldn’t buy it for him from my location.

First he said he didn’t want money as a gift, especially from me. But now he seems to be suggesting that people usually send others a 20, 50 or 100 as a gift, and that 80 is a random number. And he apparently feels hurt because apparently I don’t care and love him enough to send 100.

I feel like he’s being ridiculous and it was a very nice gesture on my part. Any thoughts? Is he right about this?

[RHK36]

He's trash. Straight up using you. If you stick around don't complain.

[Asker]

But he bought me a bracelet and a perfume

[RHK36]

So? That's all it takes to treat you poorly. Girl get more self esteem and confidence before dating because those wolves will always prey on you.

[jahaims]

Something else is bothering him but he isn't emotionally intelligent enough to know.

[Asker]

Like what?

[Staximus]

When is the last time you saw this guy in person?

[Asker]

A couple of months ago for my two week break from school. Why?

[Staximus]

Just making sure you're not one of those dummies who thinks they are in a relationship with somebody they just talk to online and have never seen in person

[Staximus]

If you don't see the guy regularly in person then you are just wasting your time

[Asker]

No, we’ve been together in person even before that for a bit. But what do you think about the situation? Is it so weird to give someone 80?

[Staximus]

No, he's being stupid

[Staximus]

You should have just sent him a shirt that cost $20 haha

[Asker]

Yea, maybe, just thought that was too little. Cuz he has gotten me a nice bracelet.

[Staximus]

Ok then maybe a nice shirt, but him complaining about why you didn't send 100 is a shitty thing for him to do. That's not right.

[Staximus]

Don't ever send him any money again

[Asker]

Yep, I told him I won’t

[seeyounexttuesday]

WTF is wrong with you? Why do you tolerate this behavior?

[Asker]

Not sure honestly. Mostly cause he seems really caring in other ways. But I’m starting to think he just doesn’t like me enough if he can’t just appreciate my gesture.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Sweetie, you’re the prize. Do not tolerate this shit. Long distance even? WTF

[Asker]

What’s wrong with long distance? I had to leave for school.

[seeyounexttuesday]

It’s not a real relationship.

[Anonymous]

Send 80 Dollar is emotionless. Except it had a reason to send money. Without any letter to his birthday. No personal words...

1 minute bank transfer is not romantic.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He sounds like a bitch, dump his ass

[Asker]

It has been quite an off-putting experience, I’m not gonna lie. I not only feel unappreciated, but also turned off.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Ask him for $30 back so he can have $50 like he wants. He’ll either apologize or freak tf out, if the latter then that’s your sign the man ain’t shit

[Asker]

When I first sent it to him he did ask me how to return it, and said that he doesn’t like money as a gift. And he also said it was just the randomness of the number at first, but then I deduced why he was so “hurt” and he admitted it, and insists it’s cuz I think it’s too much for him and don’t care about him enough to give 100.

But I can’t ask him anything more now cuz we’re not really talking at the moment.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s being ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Soy Male gold digger run

[Asker]

Even tho he also said he didn’t want money as a gift?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah if he’s asking for 100 instead