Guy pointing out my flaws to me?

[Anonymous]

What do you do when a guy tries to point out all your flaws to you?

I know at one point this guy was interested in me but I said I wasn't interested in him but he was the sweetest guy ever so we agreed to keep it friendly but after awhile this same guy started getting very rude to me for no reason. He started to pick out my flaws to me and even started accusing me of being a certain way that I know I'm not (he said I have trust issues when I never had them in my life - I actually have a problem with being too trusting with people while he on the other hand has them! - Oh the irony.) I ask him what's his problem and he says he says doesn't know what I'm talking about :|

How do I set this guy straight? He just started being a jerk all of a sudden I don't get it!

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He's trying to "punish" you for not returning his interest. he's angry with you so he wants to lower your self esteem like his ego was lowered when you rejected him. Set him straight by going OFF on him. I've had to do that before. Since he wants to pick out your flaws, two can play that game, and really you can play it better since it'll mean more coming from you since he's the one who had feelings for you and not the other way around. Pick out all of his flaws and emasculate him verbally. That will teach him to leave you alone. He'll probably never wanna talk to you again after but you don't really need people like that in your life anyway, everybody is not meant to be your friend. That "sweetness" was just an act, the real him is the him you saw when he got rejected. anyone can be nice when they think they're gonna get what they want from you but when you turn them down, you see their true colors. So point out his flaws and go in on him from top to bottom. he'll leave you alone after that.

[JohnnyTheBoy]

"Pick out all of his flaws and emasculate him verbally"

--pr3ttybr0wn the dominatrix

[htarmort]

You said it sister! It is true. That is his true color. Just imagine being in a relationship with and wanted to break up. That is his true color when he can't get his way.

[JohnnyTheBoy]

It's because he was interested in you and you rejected him, leaving him hurt and vulnerable, that he is acting out like an immature fool.

Steer clear of the raging bull until he stops seeing red. Time heals all wounds.

[sexyasianboi26]

You turned him down :/. Being a jerk/mean is a natural instinct lol. Its like when your driving and someone suddenly cuts you over, what is your instinct? you cuss.

[Asker]

I didn't turn him down to do that he would have to ask me out or at least call me up - he didn't & doesn't. He started being rude to me months after said understood mutual agreement and aside from all that he is friends with MULTIPLE girls that doesn't like him the way he's interested in them. Don't give me that excuse that's this is a cause & effect reaction because then he would treat all his female "friends" like this if that's the case. I'm sure he doesn't.

[sexyasianboi26]

Assumptions about how another person thinks is always wrong. Unless you can hear their thoughts, and subconscious processing, then you can say your assumptions are correct.

Rejection- Being lead on- Cheated on: These 3 things are on the same level of pain and hurt.

You said you wasn't interested in him, that is called rejection. Being friends with him, is called keeping the friendship, that's it.

[Asker]

I'm not assuming I know.

[KingsOfleon88]

People don't start being a jerk all of a sudden. You may have offended him in some way that you probably are not even aware of

[Asker]

I'm sure I didn't because I asked him multiple times why is he acting so weird/rude and he says in a dry way that he "doesn't know" what I'm talking about. He'll run into me and asks to hang out and treat me like an emotional punching bag and then after that he wants to smile in my face like nothing happened.