Do I have to spend Christmas with my boyfriend's family?

deargodwhy
Boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We live together. We have met each others' families and spent extended visits with them. He is from another state and spent Christmas with my family (in-state) last year because he could not go to his home state to be with his, due to work schedule. We are going to spend a week on a vacation with my family next month.

Last night he very sweetly asked me to spend this Christmas with his family- out of state. I don't want to. I adore his family and would be delighted to visit them any other time, but holidays with my family are very special to me. I feel that, since I am not married or engaged, I'm entitled to be selfish about spending holidays with my own family. I am totally cool with us spending holidays apart, with our respective clans.

Is there a non-douchey way to decline his invitation? I know the holiday-sharing starts for sure after marriage, but I kind of thought that was one of the perks of being single.
Do I have to spend Christmas with my boyfriend's family?
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