Most people have some sort of dream in life. A dream is a combination of a goal or set of goals you set for yourself in order to achieve something you feel you are passionate about, care deeply about, want badly, or need badly. Dreams, however, are hard won. They often take a lot of effort on our parts and a long journey to obtain them if they are even achievable for us. Along that journey many people crumble, fall, and give up, but before you do that, you need to consider a few questions that may help you hold on to your dream.
1. Are you over it already?
We change as people. When you were five, maybe your dream was to be a doctor, but along the way in life you realized blood freaks you out, and you hate working long hours. It's okay to be over it and want another goal, but ask yourself if you're over it because you are actually over it and wanting to move on to something else, or someone is telling or demanding that you should be over your dream. If you are still passionate about something and you still want to achieve it, then now is not the time to let go and move on.
2. Can you still afford to try?
Many dreams require some form of sacrifice, and often times that is a financial one. You may need to give up a lot to get to where you need to be, however, it is extremely hard to do most things in life if you are starving, homeless, penniless, or drowning in debt. You need to be reasonable with your dream if the financial consequence is you will be in ruins. Consider taking on a second job, rooming with friends, or cutting back on expenses that are not necessary to your survival. Sometimes thinking outside of the box can help you not just automatically throw in the towel.
3. Are you doubting your abilities?
This may be a time where you need to swallow your pride. If you find yourself on a constant road of rejection and push back, but the comments as to why are all the same---rather than just give up, actually listen and try to improve on that situation. If no one will hire you for your dream job, what extra qualifications and training or schooling can you get that can help you stand out as a candidate? Can you take on an internship? Can you get advice from someone in that position already? Maybe you need to move somewhere where the competition isn't as stiff. If you feel as though you are actually capable of doing what it takes to achieve your goal, then make it so no one can say no (or at least make it extremely hard) by going the extra mile.
4. Does no one believe in your dream?
Haters are going to hate. If you want to give up because everyone is saying your dreams are stupid or that you personally will never do that, look around and find someone who will stand in your corner. It's really hard to stay motivated every day especially when things aren't going right, but a friend or a family member who knows how hard you're working and believes in your same goal for you can help you get over those bad days to get to the good.
5. Is your health suffering?
Dream achievement can be extremely stressful. You NEED to find a work/life balance and if you can't, it is not worth it for you to be sick, or strung out, or freaking out every second in order to achieve your goals? You absolutely should take a step back and re-evaluate how things are going for you on a physical and mental level. Maybe you need to give your dream more time, or break it down into smaller less stressful goals, or maybe you just need someone else to actually help you. Do not be afraid to ask for help or to vent to someone you can trust. You don't have to do everything all the time by yourself or take on every single burden on the road to your dream.
There are many dreamers in this world who have been where you are where they are questioning if it's worth it or if they are willing to move forward to get what they want, but if your heart is still in it, the most important question of all, then do not give up on your dreams and seek out other solutions to the many bumps in the road that may come your way.