5 Reasons Why You Should Stop Caring About What Others Think

[Anonymous]

Here are some of many reasons to stop caring about what others think. Be careful however: the goal here is to minimize the impact of others' opinion on you, to allow you to express yourself with less anxiety. It is not a matter of inflating your ego until you are convinced that you can do absolutely everything you want without caring about others.

1- Others' judgement is a reflection of ours

We apply to other people our own system of values ​​and evaluation of what is acceptable and what is not. So, for example, if we think that showing emotions is a sign of weakness, we tend to imagine that others think so too. And you know what? It's usually not true!

2- Others judge ... not more nor less than we do

Sometimes the fear of being judged is directly proportional to our propensity to judge. For the same reason mentioned above: if I systematically judge the actions of others, then there is a good chance that I will be persuaded that people are doing the same.

3- The negative impact of the judgment of others is almost nil

If we measure as objectively as possible the real impact of others' judgment on our lives, it is very small. Ask yourself: what will happen if people see what you are trying to hide?
If X thinks you are not as tall, handsome, or strong as you ought to be; what are the real consequences?

4- Self-acceptance makes us beautiful and approachable

Accepting what we consider as defects or failures makes us deeply human: we are like everyone else, imperfect and fallible, and that is so reassuring for people around us (and for us too). In other words, self-esteem makes everyone more attractive.

5- The more we care about people's opinion the more we give them more power over us

The more we value the judgment of others, the more our own judgment loses value. That's how we give others the power to determine our value. So learn to value yourself, rather than waiting for others' approval.

[DocilexElle]

"Those who mind--don't matter and those who matter don't mind." All you can do is love yourself, accept what you like, and be the best version of yourself. If others don't agree; don't worry. Do you really care if your best friend HATES chocolate ice cream and you love it? No. That's silly. Well, if you asked a 5 year old that question they might care a bit more. If you asked a 14 year old girl why she's upset that her friend/the popular girl hates her outfit; wouldn't she look at you like you're nuts? I used to care if people liked my art too--right away, I'd say it's really weird before they even saw it. This one girl said, "Why do you say that? It's like you're judging your art before I can!" This hit me... like wtf do I do that lol? I've overcome all of these judgments. I used to be upset if people thought I was a bad driver--but as long as I'm improving THAT is what truly matters. I even cared if my Dad liked my bf/lover... now even that matters less! Woah! I've really matured.

Anyway--worry about what you can control. Everyone has an opinion and you can't take people THAT seriously. Kick some ass and move on!

[Soft4u]

Everyone cares about what others think, to what extent is the question.
If someone is close to me and genuinely cares about my well being their opinion matters, not saying their right but I'd definitely consider what they had to say.
If I don't know someone what they think or say about me negatively isn't done with my best interest at heart, it's usually done out of jealousy for some reason, mostly when others wish they could be a little like you, or even look like you, or have what you have, those type people say things for reasons only they know and those type of people I have no time for.

[Browneye57]

Correct. Practice 'outcome independence'. That is, you're okay with how everything is going to turn out, regardless. This frees you to choose your course of action to the best of your ability, let the chips fall where they may.

But why post anonymously? You're guilty of your own claim. [shrug]

[stormbreaker06]

if i don't care. who is going to put them in their place?

Who is going to stand up against mean bully stupid people?

There thoughts often become words the actions. I rather care and slay these villains. Enough is enough.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Excellent article and read, but I'm not sure I agree wholeheartedly.
People can hurt or help me based on how they feel about me.
So I try to help and be useful to them to make their lives happier and better, so they'll help me and not hurt me in return.
Also, I like to be of use. People always need someone helpful or useful around. So I try to be that person.

[Logorithim]

Good points. One should only be concerned to the extent that it affects functioning in daily life, being able to get and keep a job, etc. Life is too short to worry much about what others think of you.

[MissGee212]

The ego must not rule your emotions. When you do, you react without thinking it through and are quick to judge others.

[sjoes006]

Sorry, I couldn’t read this. If you don’t care or shouldn’t care then why post Anon?

[LoveLifeHome]

Sharp.

[annaflorez838]

Awww... despite all this I will always care about what others think of my... my childhood has influences that decision.

[torken]

"You'd like to think you're cool enough to not care if you're cool, but the spirit gets distracted... the flesh is fucking cruel. "

[Anonymous]

Very true. I dont care about any random positive or negative comments under every circumstances. All I care about is nurturing the positive vision of myself.

[JudgmentDay]

That's the kind of mytakes this site needs more of: FUCK WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU!! FUCK ALL OF IT!!

[elizamichale2]

You are right and i completely agree with you honey
all that matters is what we think and how confidant we are for our own self

[legalboxers]

I agree but when what others thing about you, rubs off on people who dont know you, and can't form an opinion about you when a group makes malicious statements about you. A lie, said many times, becomes the truth

[CassieIsTrans]

Who cares what you Think!
(see I'm doing it already)

[Paris13]

Pastor Joel Olsen: God Knows you're Amazing!
Nice Job Here!! xx

[clampfan101]

You should care. Just don’t let the opinions control you.

[massb]

Exactly

[Kayla45]

Oh good, because I've been doing this for years already.

[Eryxx]

Agreed, especially with the second and fifth.

Well written.

[Rangers]

Don't tell them! I like having them as my puppets, lmao. On a serious note, that wasn't a garbage display

[LoveLifeHome]

Again, one of those takes and/or takes that basically points out the paradox of the mere fact of being a Gag member presents. Good take. :)

[SketchForger]

I was expecting this to be a "block out the haters" kind of myTake, and it wasn't.

It was also pretty well articulated. I'm pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

I have better things to do with my time than be concerned about what others think of me.

[Armourdillo]

So men shouldn't take into account what their partner thinks? okay.

[myTake Owner]

That's not what I said at all. I wrote "the goal here is to minimize the impact of others' opinion on you, to allow you to express yourself with less anxiety. It is not a matter of inflating your ego until you are convinced that you can do absolutely everything you want without caring about others."

[Armourdillo]

i mean i know many men who get rewarded for the last part of what you said. Both are better than actually listening to people