"CRYING" Why It's Okay To Cry

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

There's so much debate if it's okay for a man to cry, if that makes them strong or weak, etc. blah blah...

And not just men, women get it too from other women or even men ("women are over emotional"blah blah)

But there's lots of reasons people may cry. And who is anybody to say it's not okay?

Some examples of when tears are okay:

Loss/Grieving

Anytime you suffer the loss of a loved one, there's bound to be tears. But they can be tears of sadness, bittersweet tears, nostalgic tears. What they can't be is wrong... Everyone grieves in their own way and noone should ever be made to feel weak or wrong for that.

Empathy/Compassion

Some tears we shed are for the pain and suffering of others. That doesn't show weakness to me. That shows a kind, caring, compassionate person who doesn't always just think of themselves and their own happiness/unhappiness but cares about the happiness/unhappiness of those they love. And sometimes for any fellow human. Never something to mock, but rather admire.

Broken heart

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I know I just did a mytake on break up jokes. But for some people, breaking up is no joke. The loss of love can be very hard and a broken heart can sometimes take awhile to mend. And it's okay to cry. Sometimes we need to cry to heal and before we can learn to laugh/love again

Billy Ocean said it better:

But the tears we cry, aren't always in sadness. Sometimes we can be so moved by love or a special moment in life that can move us to tears....

Birth of a child

To bring another life into this world is one of the most beautiful wonderful things in life. The first time they place that baby in your arms, or when that tiny bundle grabs ahold of your finger, it also grabs your heart. Tears of joy in a moment like that just makes it a beautiful moment.

I'm not ashamed to say I cried when my grandson was born. Although they were also tears of relief because my daughter had a traumatic delivery and it was a close call to her having a stroke. But, I'd of cried even without that.

Major milestones in a loved ones life can bring tears of pride and joy. They're also bittersweet because sometimes for some people those can also be the moments you miss those dearly departed who would otherwise be their to celebrate the joyous occasion.

And then we have my favorite kind of tears:

Laugh till you cry

Life can be very hard and stressful. We can all use that laugh till your sides ache, tears streaming down your face kind of moment sometimes. And those are the funny moments in life that you'll better remember.

I guess the points I'm trying to make are:

1. Tears are a result of emotions we may be feeling. And emotions are a normal natural part of life and being human. So why then do we try to shame someone for showing/having emotions?

2. Unless you have walked in someone's shoes, felt the pain they felt, lived the life they have... how can you/who are you to judge or say if it's okay for them to cry. Strength isn't not crying, strength is knowing when you need to cry, strength is living past the pain, strength is being yourself no matter who tries to knock or put you down.

Thanks for reading

"Brainsbeforebeauty"😘

[1CentWorth]

Yeah... I think about this sometimes. Honestly, I do believe that crying is at least a little bit selfish. Even at the loss of a genuine loved one, but especially if in front of others. I just feel there is some self-pity or desired to be seen and/or heard.

Regarding anyone who cries, I do believe that it is weakness the more often it happens. Not in the sense that anyone who cries is weak, but simply their emotional threshold is more easily reached than those who cry less often. If something devastating occurred to my family - say they all were killed in a plane accident - I would be sobbing uncontrollably. The emotions were too strong for me to keep my wits and control of myself. Emotional overload = crying. I believe this is absolute in all cases.

Do women cry more than men? I believe so... I think we all believe so. should women be considered special to my logic? No. But, perhaps it's because it is general instinct from super long ago for a man to offer protection to a woman in exchange for comfort. Perhaps there's the other side where the women shows more vulnerability to help attract/keep the man.

Either way, women somehow cross the threshold of emotion (s) being controlled much quicker than men do. (I assume women resist crying like men do because crying isn't fun - so no one tries to cry except weirdos) Men, on the other hand, have had to show dominance (by instinct), and that means being tough - in the body AND in the mind. In that, men learn to control themselves better and gain some resistance to emotional overload. Over time, the child grow to be an adult in late 20s to late 30s with a high level resistance to emotional overload.

Therefore, women are emotionally weaker in that their emotional threshold is not developed as a woman's is.

So, exceptions everywhere, obviously. Ever met a woman who's had a tough life? That's usually a tough chick and she won't cry anymore - she's done with it, her control is hardened, and her emotional tolerance is high. Then there's the guy who's always emotional. I think every guy know at least one like this and because he cries, he's weaker, and pitied. In a wolf pack he'd be an omega. Other exceptions not excluded.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

This answer is wrong on so many levels and exactly what this take is addressing...
"Ever meet a woman who's had a tough life? Yeah ME! I've dealt with a lot of tough things in life beginning at the age of 5-6. I still cry when I feel the need.
Men don't emotionally overload? What do you call it when men can't control their temper? Cuz anger is an emotion too!
Tears don't determine strength or weakness.
Crying at the loss of a loved one is selfish? Omg ok that is one of the most asshat thing I've heard. When my hubby died, I didn't cry at the funeral, but YOU DAMN RIGHT I cried when the casket bearing the man I loved/lived with for 20 years, the Father of my children, was being lowered into the ground. Not for attention, because everything but that coffin and my sobbing girls ceased to exist!
Again this whole answer makes the point I was trying to make...
Who are "you" to think you can judge or know what makes someone strong or weak until you been in someone's shoes.
But thanks, cuz it also shows to the user that once again tried to use my post to blame"all" women, who said men don't cry cuz women judge them as weak... But it's men doing it to other men, not women.
And people that judge/falsely label others, that's what's weak to me

[1CentWorth]

you should probably re-read it. your personal experience may differ, but if you cry all the time as a middle aged adult, you are weak or have something wrong with you. Do you see people on the news crying all the time? sure, when something shocking like the president dying or the space shuttle blowing up. For them, it has to be too much, because as adults we need to compose ourselves better than children do. You tell kids to stop crying all the time, so why don't you, seeings how your are an expert on the subject of crying uncontrollably all the time.

Also, you took most of what I wrote out of the context in which I intended. The men don't cry thing was not real - clearly I've discussed men who cry. and they are the same as women who cry. you took a completely gender-free view on this and turned it sexist against women. Also, the minor part of being at least a little selfish it neutral in the simple sense that one is dwelling on their own despair. but, of course, you believe it is personal against you for some unstated reason that I would never know (nor care to).

The female that goes through a tough life and is "tough" wouldn't be crying all the time. Your tough life still include the progression of your family, a marriage, children, obviously a place to live, food, internet (obviously), and about a billion other amenities. Such a tough life. People die - it fucking sucks, but it happens all the time. Your life sounds like a daydream to many people on this planet, including me, who grew up on the streets, hungry for food, and literally begging before I could join the army at 18. Did you do that? Would you consider a girl that never cries, tough? Would someone who's tough, always, be bawling his/her eyes out all the time? Rhetorical questions - don't bother answering.

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[1CentWorth]

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I know you've been waiting on a conclusion to this book, so here it is. Now that I know how sensitive and weak you are, I can use it to my advantage to cause damage. You don't know me, so I shouldn't have any impact on your emotional state, right? If that's true, nothing I say should bother you (unless you are weak emotionally). But here's the thing, you've lived a comfortable life. not to YOUR standards, but to just about everyone else in the world - which are much less fortunate than you. You DO feel sorry for yourself, even when it's for loss. the way you argue about it shows how much you are willing to defend that till the end. you are mad at me for pointing out your hidden secrets. More so, being overly emotional, or a weak person, you want to deny truth to anything that puts you out of your [artificial] spot light. You are so caught up with yourself you can't even read what I wrote objectionably. It's driven you to the point of wishing people wouldn't respond honestly to question literally asked to everyone. No wonder you feel like you've had a hard life - no one takes sympathy on you, which is probably the reason why you cry to begin with. Everyone knows that woman who cries just to get attention because she always wants to be in the center. And, yes, if you cry in front of people, there is some level of selfishness to it - just like when you cried at your husbands funeral.

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[1CentWorth]

(Final page) (I know you've read it from top to bottom!)

Your husband probably committed suicide to get away from you. I doubt he loved you - probably just wanted some kids, and when it got too tough he just up and shot himself, or something. You turned things around so much you probably had a bad marriage that you don't want to admit to because you would loose the attention you get for your loss... if it's even a "loss". See what I did there? I made use of quotes a correct way, where I indicate that the word "loss" is not really a loss. Also, you can follow my paragraphs, where yours can only be followed by yourself. You're bad at composing your thoughts compared to my 6th grader. You're contradictive to yourself in that you only want certain answers to your questions... keep the blinders on, anybody? You fear comprehension, social exclusion, and being an adult. You are a middle aged child who seems to want to cry every time you stub your toe. This is why none actually loved you - they only tolerated you secretly. Your husband hated you too, but you're too blind to see it. you're a joke of a human being, heading towards the end of her life, and yet still feels she is somehow the victim in the exact same game we all play. No one is going to cry when you die because it's not worth it. not for you. You're worthless - you know it - and your usefulness died with your husband.

[jhnny1331]

I cent worth , your name sums you up, I can't believe what horrible things you said , she experienced unconditional love and I honestly say that it's apparent that you never have. I have one question , what's more embarrassing? Being a guy that cried or getting your ass kicked by the who cried?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@1CentWorth your reply ain't even worth that... You really need to get educated about life and know wtf you talking about before you try to act like you know how I lived my life... But again thanks for showing what happens to people that bottle up emotions and can only release them by trying to insult strangers online yeah that MAKES you such A tough STRONG man and I'm just a weak little old female boo hoo hoo 😂😂 ha funny reading 😅

[1CentWorth]

@jhnny1331 Well, at least you got the meaning of my username. That's a first, finally.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh and my husband died from heart, kidneys, and diabetes complications... Again maybe don't put your one cent worthless rants out there unless you know wth you talking about 🙂🙂

[1CentWorth]

@Brainsbeforebeauty meh. was seeing if you'd cry and admit to doing it. Seems that you're stronger than you led on. [shrugs]

Obviously an internet person shouldn't give a shit about others on the net, either of us, so for that I'm not sorry. But, I also never really cared enough to insult you on this level... it was just to prove a point about mental strngth in regards to emotional control. Seems that you don't have to cry every single time you think of your husband, even when someone insults you memory. So, why didn't you cry about it? Probably because you decided it wasn't worth it, and you'd probably feel embarrassed at yourself if you cried because of what some guy on the internet wrote.

So, looks like I proved my point as far as I am concerned. It was not about you, but people in general. Hope you learned that mental strength is a choice, and crying all the time is pointless if you can resist it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No still talking out your ass... If I missed my husband not being there for the birth of my first grandson and cried (specially cuz my daughter was in danger of stroke) that don't make me weak. But yeah, why would I get upset or cry (like wtf) over someone talking out their ass who don't know nothing bout me or my life. I'll cry and not be ashamed over things that matter... Don't give yourself or your ranting that much importance 🤣
All you're doing is proving my points, so thanks Sir👍🙂🙂

[1CentWorth]

Well, whatever. I don't really care much about what you say, either [shrugs]. Gotta love the internet!

Try not to feel sorry for yourself all the time, else that is what your life is all about.

TTYL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Dude stop with the assumptions... Discussing life events ain't feeling sorry for yourself... Stop assuming you know Jack bout my personality... Or my strengths or weaknesses... As we ALL have, your kinda showing yours more, by trying to insult people instead of having a conversation... Only weak minded people Have to do that... So yeah... Peace out ✌️✌️

[1CentWorth]

lol why the heck do you think I'm on here? You're the one who couldn't handle an honest humble opinion that you asked for. So, why are you on here? At 47 do you really need to know more about men? Come on.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Umm how didn't I handle it? Cuz I disagreed? So who couldn't handle someone Disagreeing so you weren't on the attack... And AGAIN... This wasn't just about men... This was about ANYONE having the right to cry without small minded people trying to judge or shame them... Yet that's exactly what you proceeded to do. So what made you think I'd agree... And why would I have to... And if you can't handle disagreement without anyone like an ass... At your age? Really? But again... You just making yourself look bad... So so far, you tried to insult using the death of my husband, all people hate me, now you trying to insult my age? I'd rather be me at my age with the wisdom I have, and the great relationships in my life I've had/ have than an immature, bitter person that can only feel smart or feel better about themself by trying to put others down... But that shit don't work on me... Nice try tho 🤣

[1CentWorth]

you just starting insulting a person that was responding to your very public question. look at you - you can't even stop. you're so obsessed. you still are trying to convince me of something. I'm sorry, but you don't need my approval to cry all the time and feel sorry for yourself. I'll answer questions, but I'm not part of your decisions. Do whatever you want - cry all the time and be one of those people. Glad you love doing it so much you have to try to convince people with other opinions. I never asked you for yours, and all I did was what you asked: posted an opinion. For that, I'm all the things you called me and think all the things you said I think. Totally legit. You're such a fair and wise person, aren't you?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You keep replying to my post with stupid assumptions... So WHO'S OBSESSED... Of course I reply... It's my post duh... So why don't you get off it already before my oh so weak ass cries 😭😭🤣🤣 dude your friggin hilarious 🤣🤣 like get over it... Or get over yourself... Or something 🤷🏼‍♀️ but who said I cry all the time? Once more assuming that's a lot of ass🤣🤣 and I'm reread the thread you started insulting cuz I didn't agree with your opinion... So who's "crying" or whining about it 🤔🤔 but thanks this been entertaining... Now tuck your narcissism in and walk away... Bye now, peace dude ✌️✌️😁🙂

[1CentWorth]

You said you cry all the time whenever you want to. You defend crying as if it's your best friend. I think you know exactly that I'm right about the whole thing - you probably knew this when you posted the question, hoping everyone whould have your own view on this. you're 47 and asking a question like this, and you clearly believe you already know the answer enough to argue with some guy on the internet about it?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 dude
https://youtu.be/7xa-QbyuLi8

[jhnny1331]

There is no shame in crying I lost my wife in Dec we were together twenty years i have moments that creep up on me all of the time I excuse myself and I have my moment alone it's how you do the actual crying itself everybody cries fuck everyone else they don't know what your going through

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

My sympathies 🙏 and I truly know how you feel. ♥️

[jhnny1331]

Thank you I really appreciate that are you ok with everything?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Think am, till certain times make it come back out.. It's been 6 1/2 years... Sometimes feels like forever... Sometimes like just yesterday 🤷🏼‍♀️

[jhnny1331]

Mine was Dec 13 of last year a day after her birthday

[jhnny1331]

We were together twenty years

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🙏I'm so sorry. I know it's hard. Even harder when the first's come so close after loss. Hubby died in October so all the firsts without him came right away: Thanksgiving, his and my younger daughter December birthday, Christmas... And same we were together 20 years. If you ever need an ear, I have two ♥️🙂

[jhnny1331]

I really appreciate that I would love to talk and I want you to feel the same if you ever want to talk I'm a great listener.

[jhnny1331]

And I completely understand what you mean about firsts. It's awful, it's like you just want the day to hurry and just be done, you can't get into it at all. It's just going the motions if you can even muster up that much. Ever since the quarentine I've been pretty much by myself which is hard.

[jhnny1331]

May I ask when your husband s Birthday is? You said in dec?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry just seeing now.. It was Dec.15th

[Mollynotgemma]

Crying is a scary thing to do when it’s unexpected... just like laughing at an inappropriate time.
Laughing could be deemed as being rude in a situation when actually it was a self defence mechanism for feeling awkward.

Crying... is something we all do... wether we admit it or not. We all do it. What I find so sad about crying is that as a man they fear crying with each other. They all know they cried when their baby was born, or their mum died. But when do when chat with their friends and cry about their struggles in everyday life!

Social media is constantly talking about mental health and I see most people post stuff about it... well I won’t say that’s bad. But sharing a post doesn’t show you care. Call your mate... actually ask if he’s ok...

And foremost... we must remember when we see the person we never thought we’d see cry actually cry... how lucky we are they feel comfortable to do so with us!

Crying is strength! Every tear is a release...

We are carriers of our tears. A bottle is a carrier of water... the bottle can only hold so much water until it explodes... once it has its drained if everything and ha to start again and fill up...

Learn to release gradually and consistently...

We’re all made of water anyway!

Cry on! Let the tears flow... if no one is there to catch them... nevermind... perhaps next time you’ll let someone drink

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Great, great answer ♥️♥️♥️ agree 💯

[Lost_Spark]

It is always good to have a cry every so often, although the reason may not always be good but it is the release it brings.

I don't think it weak or pathetic for anybody to cry, it shows we have heart and soul.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree. 💯

[Lost_Spark]

My partner cries when watching heart wrenching shows or movies. The Gladiator is a fine example, he always years up when Maximus dies in the arena and Lucille addresses the arena.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Glad he had someone like you who don't give him shit for being that way 🤗🤗

[Lentebok]

What's this talk about crying? It's just a normal human behavior we should not have to talk about it. When I was a young man, I felt nothing could touch me. Now I am middle aged and life has a way to get to your sences! Now s almost every day I cry most of the times just a one tear or just water in my eyes. I am crying because I care the oppositie is being indifference. Real men really care that doesn't make me weak but strong. The crying helps to release stuff that is building up. Sure perfect people don't cry they probably don't t really laugh also.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Great answer... Should've been MHO!! I agree... Being true to yourself and the human emotions we"all"have and "all" need to release makes you"stronger" than the weak assess that behave the way they think they're "supposed" to... Always be you... That shows the greatest strength ♥️👍🙂

[Unit1]

I feel how I feel. There's no denying in that.
My issue is with how women perceive that. One moment they say it's strong if men can cry. Until they do. Then it's the opposite (I saw this coming). I trust actions more because words are cheap. I'm not blaming anything or anybody for why it is the way it is. Can't argue with basic biology and centuries of evolution.

There's no choice but to win or die trying. The price for winning can't be too high. If it means becoming single because of the crying, so be it. I'm not a robot and not a superhero. I'm a man, not a bionic!

"To bring another life into this world is one of the most beautiful wonderful things in life."

Gotta disagree right there. For me it's having sex with beautiful women! Sex with beautiful and sweet women is euphoric!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Now I have to disagree... Anyone can have sex... Not everyone can bring another life into this world... And sex is just in the moment. A life you helped create? A little person that will love you like no other. My grandson touched me/my heart in a way no sex ever could...

[Unit1]

If you neglect that little person, then that little person can move out in 25 years, live alone and keep no contact while mourning what happened to it and battles to resist getting drunk in the process.

Without a bachelors degree, an adequately paying job, money, support, normal health condition or medical treatments/surgeries, a place they can call home - it's punishing the innocent.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah but not everyone does that... You focusing on just the negative not the positive...

[Unit1]

That same 25 year old is me. I will never inflict what happened to me on anybody.

I see no positives on multiplying. It's not on my wishlist at all.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry for what you went through in life 🤗

[Unit1]

Yeah, thanks! 🤗

[startingfitness]

you can cry in your own private space if you have to. Just dont do it in front of women or any other people for that matter.

[Unit1]

@startingfitness I figured that much.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Unit1 and @startingfitness
There is times okay to cry in front of people and not ALL females shame men for crying.
Example:
The morning out of EVERYONE that cried or was grieving, what touched me the most, comforted me the most... My husband's best friend of 15 years pulled up on motorcycle red rimmed eyes, we ran to each other and both broke down on my front yard, clinging to one another and YES crying... I don't know if he even knows that that shared moment of grief mad me feel better than anyone else that tried to... So is he less a man for that? FUCK NO... He was MORE a man to me... Cuz he man enough to not give a fuck bout what's considered a man...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

* the morning my husband died

[startingfitness]

funerals and deaths are exceptions, im not talking about mourning, that is a bad example. Men shouldn't cry in general. At least not openly. Extreme cases can call for exceptions but no man should be a crybaby.

[Unit1]

So it makes him more manly in your eyes. But it may make him less manly to the other women.
It is noble that you find him to be more manly because of it. However for us it's a risk, a minor gamble. It can make, not affect or break women's attraction towards us.

I am not saying you should chase after him because of it or anything to prove what you say to be true. I am stating our men's perspective on these kinds of issues. We don't like putting up an image to impress women. But sometimes it's either that or singlehood.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Are you kidding, all the females at the funeral young and old minus me and my kids wanted that dude, including one my sister's and my best friend lol again you can listen to a man's biased view of how women feel, or you can listen to women who are speaking from experience, your life so up to you 🤷🏼‍♀️

[startingfitness]

there is no point in lying , we don't live in basements we have seen and observed plenty of women.
And don't even start with the" im a woman I know better" bs. A fish doesn't teach you how to fish, a fisherman does. The fish will teach you how not to fish.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@startingfitness dude I'm really done with your close minded views.. You wanna bash women DON'T DO IT ON A WOMAN'S POST.. Create your own... Not my fault if it wouldn't get much interest... That's on you... a lot of people men and women tired of you bitter men making asshat assumptions... Take your whining bitterness cus obviously you have a problem getting women somewhere else lol but Happy 4th Sir 🙂🙂

[startingfitness]

lol u mad at me for exposing women?
great, then i'm doing my job. You don't need to be passive aggressive with me you can be quite active I welcome it.
Its hard to deceive someone, but its easy to show them the truth. That's what I am doing and its the peoples choice whether to be mad at women or sad or just accept things.

I will make a take on the " hating women" or what I will call red pill/bluepill rage.

[startingfitness]

I have yet to see an erotic movie made by a woman about an emotional man who opens up and cries to women who fall madly in love with him.
There is a movie called 365 days about a man who kidnaps a woman are forces her into a relationship and women loved it.
Lmao I don't even need to try these days , dudes just need to look at what is popular with women to see your true nature

[Unit1]

"dudes just need to look at what is popular with women"

He's got a very solid point right there. *coughcoughfiftyshadesofgreycoughcough*

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think another reason would probably be someone's mental health issues. Like people who have anxiety disorders, depression, etc. tend to cry a lot because it relieves them of their stress, worry, anxiousness, fear, frustration, etc. especially during episodes and breakdowns (very much needed at those times).

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree.. I don't get why people think crying is weakness, we ask have emotions, abd trying to just lock them up instead of releasing them and working through them is not healthy and not real strength...

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Not only that, but most times it's much harder for people like that to control and manage their emotions how they're suppose to be. I know when I get really stressed I can look like I'm having a flu/fever, not just that but I also don't act as sweet when I'm like that (i get mean and that's not how i usually am). So yeah, I can definitely tell you both sides of when i didn't cry and when I did. I can honestly say that crying all that out was much better (and healthier) then letting things build up to a point where I could possibly say or do things I don't really mean to. I mean, sure, it's 2 hours of crying but that's the average time for most.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Glad you're doing better 💜🙂

[Lliam]

That was a beautiful MyTake, bbb. I'm not ashamed to say that I've cried many times in my life for many reasons, not only in sadness or grief over a loss, but over things like empathy, love, nostalgia, happiness and beauty.
I'm not a cry baby, but I do tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. I've never broken down in public, but my eyes can well up and you can see emotion on my face, especially when I am overwhelmed by empathy, compassion, sadness or beauty, such as the beauty of great music.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's a great thing. And I'm the same way. Emotional doesn't mean less strong, just more compassionate ♥️🙂

[DocT1977]

I don't see anything wrong with it. It's a release of emotions. I don't cry that much as I have a huge drumset that I take my anger out on. Whatever release works. Keeping it all in is illogical and pointless and can lead to results you don't want. I promise.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree... And also agree about the drums... My hubby was a drummer and did the same till he was too sick to play em anymore

[DocT1977]

It's enjoyable. Sorry to hear about your husband. I hope he's doing better.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Here passed 6 1/2 years ago

[jhnny1331]

Excuse me miss brains before beauty I didn't know your husband passed away, I'm sure as you migh know my wife had passed away. I think I may have mentioned it a few times in here. Is there anyway we could talk a little bit hard to ask you a couple questions about how you handled it and stuff if you don't mind if not I understand

[jhnny1331]

I'm sorry to hear about that by the way

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@jhnny1331 sorry to hear about your loss 🙏

[Annoyums]

I personally don't cry anymore and here why; tears are the body's way of letting other know your hurting. I once cried after my friend committed suicide in middle of my school. Nobody did anything besides giving me a pitiful look. I felt like a freak. Like I said tears let people know that you're hurt so why should I cry if I know nobody else will help?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Because it still releases emotions we need to let go... Even if you cry alone. That's when I usually do

[Annoyums]

I evolved pass tears and sadness. I've now leveled up to an internal rage and the need to yell for no reason. 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hopefully not in public, or you'll look like you have Tourette's 🤣🤣

[Annoyums]

Of course nobody knows what goes on in my head. 🤐

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah I hear you there. People think I'm this happy always laughing person I'm really not, just good at "faking" it 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Annoyums]

Same it tiresome.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's where I take that time to myself where don't have to fake for others

[Annoyums]

Hence the yelling. 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You yell, I cry 🤣

[jasontheasian]

Im not gonna lie, i have a tear jerk moment probably once a month or more. It feels nice because all of your pent up emotions that you dont want turning into anger gets relieved when you cry. In my opinion, the only way the "men dont cry" phrase would be true is if men werent born with tear ducts.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree 💯💯🙂👍

[Spyke_34]

I actually like this & I'll admit there in the last few days hell I've cried... Because of a girl aswell... But also I'm an Empath so I get randomly effected by other peoples energies & emotions... But I don't do it Infront of people... I did at my mums funeral last year but cos of my niece... But was always told men don't cry, men don't show emotions etc... But no we are all human, we all have feelings/emotions & we most definitely do all cry too.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

And that doesn't make you "less a man"... To me it makes you "MORE" of a man. 👍👍🤗🙂

[Spyke_34]

I know what you're saying & I agree with you for the most part, it's the feeling that I find hard, I never used to show emotions, then the whole Empath Gift stuff has thrown a huge spanner into things, but emotions are good to let out as I've learnt more recently, it helps if you've got someone to help you through, I could have done with someone yesterday as I was literally a wreck with grieving slowly creeping on, the whole girl thing just has my head n heart sore... Fingers crossed today is not a crying day 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If it is, I have 2 ears that somewhat work 🤣

[Spyke_34]

Aww that's sweet of you, thank you 😊

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍🙂🙂

[Tunasub]

Crying is natural. Everyone at some point and for whatever reason has cried. I feel that it's necessary to cry, it's a release of emotional buildup, whether happy or sad or just had enough of what life has given you. Crying doesn't mean that you are weak or soft. Crying means that you are human that you care. Crying is good for the soul.

Just one man's opinion. 😉

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

And no less of a man or a strong man if you cry. Great answer ♥️♥️🙂

[Tunasub]

Thank you... you inspire me to use my noggin a little...☺️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks and see not always about the "s' word 🤣🤣🤣

[Tunasub]

Well... I did take some stuff out of my response...😈.. kidding. No it is not all about that.. but since you brought it up...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂😂

[Tunasub]

🤷🏾‍♂️

[TheAfrikan]

Well for us guys in general crying is for the weak, Sissy and losers.
Guys do think that once you shade a tear it also means that you are worried, And hey we hate being like that. Since we where born knowing that we should be a strong sex.
BT what I can say if am to lose my loved one I feel bad stay speechless. And I feel like crying I would run to the forest and cry out loud in vein. Or you can even kick the brunches roll down yu knw and let out that feeling.
BT even on the other way around ladies do love seein g guys who at tiles get emotional and cry like. You know showing that they are feeling bad. Since it will show them how human you are.
So when a time comes to shade a tear and
worry do it my guys. It only shows how human you are and them girls love it too.

[8owen8]

Why do you think a tough man is so tough? Because he works hard to be tough so he can protect those that he loves so that he never has to feel the emotional pain of losing the ones he loves.

So yeah, I don't think I could trust anyone who doesn't cry when their dog/cat dies regardless how old they are.

If you don't cry at least 10 times a year, I reckon your soul is detached. Have fun. : )

[Dargil]

Since it's you and nobody else will know and think I'm a puxxy, I cloud up every time I see Robert Redford's "The Natural". And there are others. I try to conceal it from my SO and she fakes not noticing.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

She fakes not noticing lol nice and hey I tear up at movies. That's when you know the acting is really good.

[888theGreat]

I love that movie. When his dad dies , sad.

[888theGreat]

When Rudolph the red nose reindeer goes out on his own then gets hit in the head buy the snow monster, sad. Then when corneius falls over the cliff , sad. Also when Frosty the Snowman melts and girl cries , really sad. I can hardly watch those shows.

[Bhavin2184]

There is many benefits of crying
1 Release toxins and relieves stress
2 Enhances mood
3 After crying people also feel smoothing effects
So overall sometimes crying is actually good and it's okay.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Very well said! And yes, exactly... This men shouldn't cry crap... If a person don't know what that man been through, maybe they should just 🤐

[Bhavin2184]

Yup agreed

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍🙂

[Felicityoyo]

I think its weaker if a man refuses to cry because of societal expectations. People who judge others for crying are the weak ones

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Couldn't agree more!!

[ohshee]

If something breaks my heart. If for what ever reason grabs ahold of me and in my heart I feel it. I. Going to cry I don't care whst one person thinks.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Damn straight... As it should be.. And to me that's strength 👍🙂

[Amanda2]

I cry, but I have a hard time crying over guys as I got older. I don't know why, I’ve been in some really Shitty situations in the past so maybe I just got hardened

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah maybe.. Hopefully you find someone/something better ♥️🙂

[Amanda2]

Yes, fingers crossed

[Anonymous]

There are only 3 times when it's truly acceptable for men to cry:

1) When a heroic dog dies to save it's master

2) When his testicles are struck by anything moving faster than 7 mph

3) When his date use her teeth

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣

[I_make_me_anxious]

YOU DONT NEED A REASON TO CRY, A MAN IS A HUMAN AND HUMANS HAVE EMOTIONS, A MAN doesn't NEED TO HAVE A WHOLE REASON TO CRY

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Didn't Say they did... I'm not knocking anyone who cry's if you read the whole take... My point is if you don't know what that person has been through don't judge or knock someone for it whether it be male or female

[I_make_me_anxious]

Lol I’m not pointing the comment at anyone specific I’m just saying it in general

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh ok my bad... And I agree 💯 that's the whole point of this post... That ANYONE regardless of gender has emotions... Andy crying don't make you less... Sometimes make you more

[Jjpayne]

I completely agree with this. Crying is something need just as much as we need laughter. Sometimes the best laughter comes right after crying

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So true 👍

[SaintsSinners]

So I think it's ok to cry. The last time I cried was when my girl was born. But I dont cry in arguments or at a burial and not in broken heart situations something like this.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That can be a very special moment. And people cry at different times. And if it's their time 🤷🏼‍♀️ we shouldn't judge people as weak or less of for that. Congrats on the day🙂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

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