It throws out the burden you carried in your head and in your heart, basically it helps your heart to recover from pain but slowly. Tbh I never really cried I get emotional when somebody else cries any living thing specially.
@Lost_Spark Want to see me really cry and try to sing. Go look for the song (Dear Mr. Jesus). I can't even look up the song without crying, let alone try and sing it.
@Lost_Spark Thank you for the kind words on my photograph. I was just messing around the other day. Just looking something fun and crazy to do. So went to the river wearing a bikini. Had a blast.
Needless for some reason I ended up being the center of attention. It like they never seen a guy in a bikini before. A lot of people wanting my photograph.
I felt like a movie star or something. Next time its going on YouTube.
Its hard to believe that song is close the 40 years old. They used to play it every Christmas.
Then some messed up people complained that the song had to much realism to it and that it said Jesus. Claiming the radio station was not religion neutral. Now they don't play any kind of hoilday music
Right... Funny cuz that ties into my latest question... "Have people become too contradictory"... The people who want the right not to be religious (that's fine) end up taking away the rights of those that do..
I see where they're coming from. Once I start a debate on "Why it's okay for women to have an opinion", I'll be screamed down again, it'd be "antifeminist".
A lot of "bravery" in dire situations come from men thinking to themselves "well, if he can take it, I had better be able to take it". No man wants to be the "weak link". Like I said, it's all about context.
Not necessarily weird... Some people just find it harder to cry or show their emotions... My older dau more like me, but my younger dau more like her dad was, can't or don't show emotion or cry as easy
Yeah no doubt is okay to cry and be emontional but most of the time men dont have a reason to do it front of the partners sometime partners dont like the baggage that the other carries
It's okay to cry, because it's important to let Ur feelings out. if u r a man it doesn't mean u can be strong all the time u guys are also human beings and humans need to release their feelings.
If you are a man , don't take the advice. Its only acceptable for us to cry in a circumstance like a funeral of a close relative.
Crying WILL make you look less attractive to women, there are no ifs , ands or buts about it. It is what it is. Crying to a woman shows your vulnerable side to them, and women do not like vulnerable or weak-appearing men. They may comfort you but they won't be attracted to you. Women like to say things that sound nice, but female nature is very brutal and cold , especially when it comes to mate selection. Maybe they don't even know it and are delusional about their nature.
So if you want to cry, do so in private. Not infront of other people. ANd don't expect for a special woman who will accept you despite such behaviour, its not gonna happen man, we just have to deal with it.
Funny that that's coming from a man... So men know more about women than the woman themselves... And then men wonder why they can't get/keepa woman, too busy going off asshat wrong stereotypes than the woman in front of you.. Yeah good luck with that
of course it comes from a man. You don't ask a fish how to fish, you ask a fisherman. You women say a lot of things and do the opposite. What makes you think we should believe you then, men aren't stupid. We have actual experience as to what happens when we cry in front of a woman. why do you keep lying?
you women need to start being more honest and direct instead of sending wrong or mixed signals. Ever since 50 shades of grey and now 365 days topped ratings for movies, you exposed yourselves. It wasn't men who gave all those views to those movies it was women. We now know you aren't innocent , nice angels, female nature is a lot more complex than that.
I actually disagree with the whole making you look less attractive to a woman... Believe it or not woman like to know that the person can be themselves, to show emotions when they need to, it shows that they're able to give that emotional support if they need it, there's understanding & compassion, Empathy stuff like that, rather than someone that's going to go you'll be fine, toughen up or just stoopid shit really... So I really have to disagree with this opinion... But its obviously still valid.
@Spyke_34 you ๐ฏ got that right. Men are the ones that shame men for crying, not women. Because again the cry makes you weak shit is BS... FOR anyone... I cry, I also survived childhood abuse, a physically abusive husband, miscarriage, a sick for 13 years husband that I had to be caregiver for and the loss of him and my friend of 20 years a year later. Yet I'm weak if I cry? Yeah ok... And if it was a man going through those things? Should he not have the same right to cry? Again thank you for your great reply!!
@Spyke_34 dude that's that bluepilled mentality. you still believe what they say instead of looking at their actions. everytime a man cries in front of his woman they lose attraction towards him. If you don't believe me , look at testimonies from men whose relationships went sour after they cried or started opening up and being emotional. This is such a big misconception/lie that men keep falling into. Don't listen to what they say, watch how they act and the aftermath that follows
its okay for you to cry because you are a woman. Women get a pass for it unless they are doing it on purpose or something. But that's not the case for men, we don't get a pass for it.
And men shame men for crying because that's how we teach each other to be masculine. Back in the day both men and women did it, mothers and fathers would tell their sons not to cry , mothers might just be a bit nicer about it. But nowadays women bought in to this " men should be able to cry and show emotions " bs which only sounds nice but isn't attractive at all.
It's ok for you to decide that for YOURSELF... Who are YOU to decide that for OTHER'S? How bout you worry about being a man YOUR way and let others be a man THEIR way!! This blue pill/red pill crap or incel/whiteknight feminist/feminazi crap... You all need to just stop already... Be you/worry bout you, and let others be them... Life is bout so much more than that petty shit
im educating men on how to be successful. You are just adding to the confusion. Back in the day women would teach their sons to be successful and attractive, why don't modern women do this? Its like you want us to fail. So ill have to do my part to counter that.
Omg okay good luck with that... I'm not trying to make men fail... Only one person can blame themselves for failure... Women aren't why men fail anymore than men are why women do... Spread your women hating crap somewhere else... Have a nice day... Stay safe
well you certainly aren't helping. I think I need to reach a certain level of xper before I can post pictures, or I don't know if they removed this feature. But id like to post a lot of ss I have taken from conversations. I got a lot of stories that prove what I said, you would understand if you read them Maybe when I can, I will make a mytake on it.
and none of this is women-hating lol, why so defensive its just a conversation
But you're making judgement on something that if not your place. If a man shows emotion to his wife, and she had no problem with it, who are you to say it's it's right or wrong... Society views have no place in someone else's relationship! Don't cry to your spouse, deny her that chance to comfort you... Fine... But that's not your choice to make for anyone but yourself
Im not saying its good or bad, or right or wrong im just saying its not attractive and I have the conviction to believe in it. Its like you are saying string theory is right and im saying quantom loop theory is right, im just disagreeing with you and pointing my reasons why I believe your theory is wrong.
Well there's the dilemma, you talking about "theory" and In talking about "real" life and " real" human emotions and why people have to be true to their "own" emotions and not someone else's "theory"๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
well, you can choose not be believe in evolutionary theory, for example but there is plenty of reason in "real" life and in nature to believe it. You can just go with whatever emotions you feel like or believe in what actually makes sense.
And the reason boys are taught not to cry is to create mental toughness. How is crying and giving into your emotions gonna help when you are facing a wolf? same applies to complex problems today. Who would respect a world leader who starts crying when there is a crisis? You can say whatever you want but deep down you know im right.
Who said cry in the moment... Be strong in the moment like I've had to... Cry later to release the pent up emotion so YOU CAN BE STRONG the next time you need to be... The problem isn't what "you" believe. But not EVERYONE has to live according to your beliefs... Nor "mine" ... Difference is I'm not "shaming" anyone!
" Cry later to release the pent up emotion so YOU CAN BE STRONG " lmao, women think really weird. We don't need to cry to be strong, it only makes us vulnerable. We get stronger when we don't cry after facing difficulty. Maybe women work different and you can't relate to men.
when I face a difficult situation I try to remain levelheaded, but sometimes I get angry. If im victorious after a difficulty then I feel powerful and proud. If its something where I just grind through and feel exhausted then I get angry. I Don't see how crying should fit into this equation.
Crying is emotion... Anger is another... So it's okay to have the emotion anger? But not empathy or sadness or tears? But yelling in anger, or using fists in anger... Suppose that's more manly... You just making my point... You want to vent your emotions as anger... That's your way... Let others handle theirs " their way" ... But I'm starting to feel like a record on repeat... And still ain't hearing, so... ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
yeah, they are different ways of showing emotion and anger doesn't show weakness like crying does. If anything anger shows more power and can seem more threatening. The point is that men can't appear weak. Its not just our fault, women respect men less for crying as well, that's why we shouldn't cry. It doesn't matter how you feel about it, men shouldn't cry if they want to be successful with women.
Dude you really need to stop.. You giving men the wrong advice... A man that beats his woman in anger over a man that cries? Wtf you think gonna have the better relationship... If men wanna know what women want, they should ask a woman not a bitter angry person with obvious bias against women... LMFAO
nah i'm giving them the right advise. " A man that beats his woman in anger over a man that cries " - where did I ever say that? although, to be honest, a woman is more likely to stay with the first one than the second. Don't be mad at the messenger :-)
Crying because someone else is in pain are just tears of joy because it isn't happening to you, but your mind isn't processing it. when you cry at someone else's pain around them you are just being selfish.
yeah, ur probably right, iv never cryed to someone elses pain and never understood why others do, u probably right... theyre probably subconsciously crying from the fact it could be them but it isn't, lol
Not for stupid reasons When you cry it's supposed to be only when you are seriously hurt, in pain and need help It's a sign to others something wrong
That's why i hate it when people cry over childish natters can't control they're emotions Cause it ruins it for when someone is really in pain and getting hurt and crying cause then it gets ignored when heard as nothing
Because theyโve been conditioned by society and mostly the older generation to just โrub some dirt on itโ or my favorite โbe a man!โ which doesnโt address the root cause of the problem at all.
Thanks feel better... But now too lazy to retype for who it was meant for ๐คฃ message wasn't getting across anyways ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ you know it's all us"evil females" cuz we "all the same" ๐คฃ๐คฃ
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It throws out the burden you carried in your head and in your heart, basically it helps your heart to recover from pain but slowly. Tbh I never really cried I get emotional when somebody else cries any living thing specially.
It's okay if you would though.
Hell I cry when I sing, I get so emotional when singing that I loose it
Nothing wrong with that ๐
I wish I didn't, because I can really sing well, but my emotions take over and the words come out as a forced yawn.
It even happens on fast pace rock 'n' roll songs
I get this too, lyrics are sometimes the reason I listen to music at all. It depends on mood at the time too.
@Lost_Spark at least I'm not the only crying Charlie.
@Lost_Spark Want to see me really cry and try to sing. Go look for the song (Dear Mr. Jesus). I can't even look up the song without crying, let alone try and sing it.
That song has my crying everytime.
@humanearth Your profile pic is amazing!
Will check the song out later
๐ญ๐ญ that song ๐ญ
@Lost_Spark Thank you for the kind words on my photograph. I was just messing around the other day. Just looking something fun and crazy to do. So went to the river wearing a bikini. Had a blast.
Needless for some reason I ended up being the center of attention. It like they never seen a guy in a bikini before. A lot of people wanting my photograph.
I felt like a movie star or something. Next time its going on YouTube.
I know if that song don't make you cry. Your not human
Well thanks for the cry... Guess I'm human after all ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ๐
Its hard to believe that song is close the 40 years old. They used to play it every Christmas.
Then some messed up people complained that the song had to much realism to it and that it said Jesus. Claiming the radio station was not religion neutral. Now they don't play any kind of hoilday music
That's so ridiculous
Thats the new world we have now. A world without freedom, just fake make believe your freedom is there freedom
Indeed
Right... Funny cuz that ties into my latest question... "Have people become too contradictory"... The people who want the right not to be religious (that's fine) end up taking away the rights of those that do..
We were discusssing that yesterday at dinner last night, the exact thing
@Lost_Spark Spark were you here before under another name, it was sparky something.
No, this is my first foray in this app
@Lost_Spark Well welcome have fun and don't listen to the horny boys. Some of them are just S. A. F.
๐คฃ๐คฃ I mean you're right and they are, just gave me a chuckle to read ๐ not to deal with tho
I see where they're coming from. Once I start a debate on "Why it's okay for women to have an opinion", I'll be screamed down again, it'd be "antifeminist".
Yeah ok whatever
Yeah that's kinda not the same thing my guy
It means we strong. We are able to face our most painful emotions
Exactly!
I rarely cry, but I prefer to be alone when it happens. I don't like others seeing me in such a state.
I'm same way.
For the same reason?
Yeah, crying is natural, doesn't mean you like people to see..
It's all about context. In general, a man who cries in front of women is seen as a weak little insect.
The man who worries so much what other men think are the weak ones
A lot of "bravery" in dire situations come from men thinking to themselves "well, if he can take it, I had better be able to take it". No man wants to be the "weak link". Like I said, it's all about context.
Tears or no tears is not what defines strength. Not all men that don't cry are "strong" and not all that do are weak.
Which is why I said it is about context.
thanks for making this mytake... Q w Q
https://www.youtube.com/embed/JWnUItw1ElUOk... Just have to ask? What's up with all the Johnny Cash songs?๐ค๐
Q - Q i am obsessed with cash's work rn... someone reintroduced it to me
Oh ok yes he was great singer
he's really a good model for me to sing after
Yes, ability to cry is a gift actually. It gives a lot of relief and makes us feel better.
Some people are cruel by saying boys shouldn't cry. Sometimes we too need to cry
Exactly. Everyone does. And people should just stop saying otherwise
Some said that if we cry it lowers the burden from our mind and heart so it is okay to cry
Very true regardless if you're a man or a woman
Tears are drops of overwhelmed emotions be it sadness or happiness that's all I have to say 🙂💐
Very true
I just feel like there is a block stoping it gets close then it gets pushed down, but I do find older I get is getting more likely to happen.
Yeah that happens sometimes
But all my life though even if I'm on my own, I think it's strange maybe
Not necessarily weird... Some people just find it harder to cry or show their emotions... My older dau more like me, but my younger dau more like her dad was, can't or don't show emotion or cry as easy
Not at all, even for a loss? Nobody has ever told me this is normal and I don't believe it is.
Yeah no doubt is okay to cry and be emontional but most of the time men dont have a reason to do it front of the partners sometime partners dont like the baggage that the other carries
Then maybe it's wrong partner
It's okay to cry, because it's important to let Ur feelings out. if u r a man it doesn't mean u can be strong all the time u guys are also human beings and humans need to release their feelings.
Very true and very well said ๐๐
I think it's natural for human being bcz we are full of emotions
Exactly. ๐๐๐
I lost some one in the past at that time I cried a lot and even now when she came in my thoughts I cried and that's natural
I honestly think it's kind of cute when girls cry 🤷โโ๏ธ
That's sweet ๐
Thank you, lol ๐
If you are a man , don't take the advice. Its only acceptable for us to cry in a circumstance like a funeral of a close relative.
Crying WILL make you look less attractive to women, there are no ifs , ands or buts about it. It is what it is. Crying to a woman shows your vulnerable side to them, and women do not like vulnerable or weak-appearing men. They may comfort you but they won't be attracted to you. Women like to say things that sound nice, but female nature is very brutal and cold , especially when it comes to mate selection. Maybe they don't even know it and are delusional about their nature.
So if you want to cry, do so in private. Not infront of other people. ANd don't expect for a special woman who will accept you despite such behaviour, its not gonna happen man, we just have to deal with it.
Funny that that's coming from a man... So men know more about women than the woman themselves... And then men wonder why they can't get/keepa woman, too busy going off asshat wrong stereotypes than the woman in front of you.. Yeah good luck with that
of course it comes from a man. You don't ask a fish how to fish, you ask a fisherman. You women say a lot of things and do the opposite. What makes you think we should believe you then, men aren't stupid. We have actual experience as to what happens when we cry in front of a woman. why do you keep lying?
you women need to start being more honest and direct instead of sending wrong or mixed signals.
Ever since 50 shades of grey and now 365 days topped ratings for movies, you exposed yourselves.
It wasn't men who gave all those views to those movies it was women. We now know you aren't innocent , nice angels, female nature is a lot more complex than that.
I actually disagree with the whole making you look less attractive to a woman... Believe it or not woman like to know that the person can be themselves, to show emotions when they need to, it shows that they're able to give that emotional support if they need it, there's understanding & compassion, Empathy stuff like that, rather than someone that's going to go you'll be fine, toughen up or just stoopid shit really... So I really have to disagree with this opinion... But its obviously still valid.
@Spyke_34 you ๐ฏ got that right. Men are the ones that shame men for crying, not women. Because again the cry makes you weak shit is BS... FOR anyone... I cry, I also survived childhood abuse, a physically abusive husband, miscarriage, a sick for 13 years husband that I had to be caregiver for and the loss of him and my friend of 20 years a year later. Yet I'm weak if I cry? Yeah ok... And if it was a man going through those things? Should he not have the same right to cry? Again thank you for your great reply!!
@Spyke_34 dude that's that bluepilled mentality. you still believe what they say instead of looking at their actions. everytime a man cries in front of his woman they lose attraction towards him. If you don't believe me , look at testimonies from men whose relationships went sour after they cried or started opening up and being emotional. This is such a big misconception/lie that men keep falling into. Don't listen to what they say, watch how they act and the aftermath that follows
its okay for you to cry because you are a woman. Women get a pass for it unless they are doing it on purpose or something. But that's not the case for men, we don't get a pass for it.
And men shame men for crying because that's how we teach each other to be masculine.
Back in the day both men and women did it, mothers and fathers would tell their sons not to cry , mothers might just be a bit nicer about it. But nowadays women bought in to this " men should be able to cry and show emotions " bs which only sounds nice but isn't attractive at all.
It's ok for you to decide that for YOURSELF... Who are YOU to decide that for OTHER'S? How bout you worry about being a man YOUR way and let others be a man THEIR way!!
This blue pill/red pill crap or incel/whiteknight feminist/feminazi crap... You all need to just stop already... Be you/worry bout you, and let others be them... Life is bout so much more than that petty shit
im educating men on how to be successful. You are just adding to the confusion. Back in the day women would teach their sons to be successful and attractive, why don't modern women do this? Its like you want us to fail. So ill have to do my part to counter that.
Omg okay good luck with that... I'm not trying to make men fail... Only one person can blame themselves for failure... Women aren't why men fail anymore than men are why women do... Spread your women hating crap somewhere else... Have a nice day... Stay safe
well you certainly aren't helping. I think I need to reach a certain level of xper before I can post pictures, or I don't know if they removed this feature. But id like to post a lot of ss I have taken from conversations. I got a lot of stories that prove what I said, you would understand if you read them Maybe when I can, I will make a mytake on it.
and none of this is women-hating lol, why so defensive its just a conversation
But you're making judgement on something that if not your place. If a man shows emotion to his wife, and she had no problem with it, who are you to say it's it's right or wrong... Society views have no place in someone else's relationship! Don't cry to your spouse, deny her that chance to comfort you... Fine... But that's not your choice to make for anyone but yourself
Im not saying its good or bad, or right or wrong im just saying its not attractive and I have the conviction to believe in it.
Its like you are saying string theory is right and im saying quantom loop theory is right, im just disagreeing with you and pointing my reasons why I believe your theory is wrong.
Well there's the dilemma, you talking about "theory" and In talking about "real" life and " real" human emotions and why people have to be true to their "own" emotions and not someone else's "theory"๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
well, you can choose not be believe in evolutionary theory, for example but there is plenty of reason in "real" life and in nature to believe it.
You can just go with whatever emotions you feel like or believe in what actually makes sense.
And the reason boys are taught not to cry is to create mental toughness. How is crying and giving into your emotions gonna help when you are facing a wolf? same applies to complex problems today. Who would respect a world leader who starts crying when there is a crisis?
You can say whatever you want but deep down you know im right.
Who said cry in the moment... Be strong in the moment like I've had to... Cry later to release the pent up emotion so YOU CAN BE STRONG the next time you need to be...
The problem isn't what "you" believe. But not EVERYONE has to live according to your beliefs... Nor "mine" ... Difference is I'm not "shaming" anyone!
" Cry later to release the pent up emotion so YOU CAN BE STRONG "
lmao, women think really weird.
We don't need to cry to be strong, it only makes us vulnerable.
We get stronger when we don't cry after facing difficulty. Maybe women work different and you can't relate to men.
when I face a difficult situation I try to remain levelheaded, but sometimes I get angry. If im victorious after a difficulty then I feel powerful and proud. If its something where I just grind through and feel exhausted then I get angry. I Don't see how crying should fit into this equation.
Crying is emotion... Anger is another... So it's okay to have the emotion anger? But not empathy or sadness or tears? But yelling in anger, or using fists in anger... Suppose that's more manly... You just making my point... You want to vent your emotions as anger... That's your way... Let others handle theirs " their way" ... But I'm starting to feel like a record on repeat... And still ain't hearing, so... ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
yeah, they are different ways of showing emotion and anger doesn't show weakness like crying does. If anything anger shows more power and can seem more threatening.
The point is that men can't appear weak. Its not just our fault, women respect men less for crying as well, that's why we shouldn't cry. It doesn't matter how you feel about it, men shouldn't cry if they want to be successful with women.
Dude you really need to stop.. You giving men the wrong advice... A man that beats his woman in anger over a man that cries? Wtf you think gonna have the better relationship... If men wanna know what women want, they should ask a woman not a bitter angry person with obvious bias against women... LMFAO
nah i'm giving them the right advise.
" A man that beats his woman in anger over a man that cries " - where did I ever say that?
although, to be honest, a woman is more likely to stay with the first one than the second.
Don't be mad at the messenger :-)
Crying is a normal and healthy human response to many things.
Exactly my point ๐๐๐
Crying because someone else is in pain are just tears of joy because it isn't happening to you, but your mind isn't processing it. when you cry at someone else's pain around them you are just being selfish.
That's so bogus it's almost funny
HAHAHAHAHAH
yeah, ur probably right, iv never cryed to someone elses pain and never understood why others do, u probably right... theyre probably subconsciously crying from the fact it could be them but it isn't, lol
Not for stupid reasons
When you cry it's supposed to be only when you are seriously hurt, in pain and need help
It's a sign to others something wrong
That's why i hate it when people cry over childish natters can't control they're emotions
Cause it ruins it for when someone is really in pain and getting hurt and crying cause then it gets ignored when heard as nothing
Depends on what you mean by childish matters ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
You cry when you feel you need to. It's your body's way of processing things
@Felicityoyo agreed ๐๐
I donโt need a list of reasons of why itโs okay for me to cry. Iโll just cry. Itโs an emotion, itโs normal. Bottling things up isnโt.
Exactly.. Why I don't understand why people make such a big deal about it... Or think that defines someone as weak or strong ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
Because theyโve been conditioned by society and mostly the older generation to just โrub some dirt on itโ or my favorite โbe a man!โ which doesnโt address the root cause of the problem at all.
Again... You're SAYING IT but I'm not SEEING it... So who's conditioned? To think "ALL WOMEN" are the root of all evil... Good luck with that ๐๐
Uhh... when did I say anything having to do with women?
Oops sorry.. That was not meant for you... Blame poor eyesight? Blonde? Lol sorry
No worries.
Lol thanks damn hope I'm not getting senile already ๐ค๐
๐ no youโre not. Iโve made the same mistake plenty of times.
Thanks feel better... But now too lazy to retype for who it was meant for ๐คฃ message wasn't getting across anyways ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ you know it's all us"evil females" cuz we "all the same" ๐คฃ๐คฃ
So evil. ๐ ๐
๐คฌ๐ฟ๐๐คฃ๐คฃ
Why keep the long hair... To cover my horns ๐คฃ
You shouldnโt hide that evil beauty. ๐น
Lol ๐