Why We All Need Sadness!

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Few things affects us as deeply as sadness, as sorrow. We fail, we embarrass ourselves or we fall, we loose our loved ones, or we make mistakes. So many people seek the key to lasting happiness, the secret to be joyful forever. Many of us also idolize our dreams, whether by night or daydreaming, for where could we be happier than in the place where all our secret wishes come true?

I am not always happy, I am happy, because I allow myself to be sad sometimes.
Sadness, is an emotion unlike others. You have dreams where your mind think you are the happiest, but in truth there is no real joy, only thoughts. Sadness makes us remember what is real, and what is not. It hurts, but everything will make you feel deeply when it is real. The thing about sadness is that most people think it's an abyss, and so they hold it back, they bottle it up, fight it, which only hurts. but it's not an abyss, it is a path, one which always has a light at the end of the tunnel. This is why some people say that wounds never heal or sorrow never ends, it never ends because it never comes.

It isn't a given in society today to accept sadness as a natural and good process. It is rather looked upon like something to be avoided, and stopped if it approaches.

When you learn to embrace sadness as something you need, whenever it arises, the need to cry, to feel down, lean on someone's shoulder, reflect over past tragic events, you'll grow to see just how bright the end of the tunnel is.

[Anonymous]

I am of the opinion that all forms of human emotion have their time and place. I don't think we are meant to just smile all the way through life with no cares and no worries. The harder aspects of daily life help us build depth of character.

Some people suffer a great deal from depression and anxiety, and other mental disorders, so we see how it can be a problem when emotions get out of control.

But sorrow, feelings of loss, missing people - these are all normal feelings for every person to experience at some point or another. Nothing to be ashamed of. And it's good to have ways to express those feelings.

[OverwhelmedMama83]

Where would we be without Poe?

There are chords in the hearts of the most reckless which cannot be touched without emotion, even by the utterly lost, to whom life and death are equally jests, there are matters of which no jest can be made.

Edgar Allan Poe, The Masque of the Red Death

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

The Raven is my all time favorite poem! Good taste.

[OverwhelmedMama83]

Thanks! You as well

[lightbulb27]

First off, that's quite a big fluffy cat you've got that doesn't want his picture taken:)!

Great thoughts. It is tragic how society shuns sadness, tries to turn it off. It's there for a reason, some kind of purification, maybe so the painful event doesn't hold a grip on us... washing away the badness?

I wonder though about what and where is appropriate to share ones emotions, especially for men. Women are more free to experience emotions but men are often shut down. Like it is a sign of weakness.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Aren't we as men expected to be able to withstand and endure pain? True grief can cut deeper than a thousand blades, so why is it not strength to face sadness and deal with it.
And I wouldn't be so quick to fear how your sadness is received, tons of girls find a man who can cry when he needs to immensely attractive.

[lightbulb27]

good. yes we are expected to endure... emotions and pain, but it seems like we just bury our emotions rather than experience them. agree, women do like a man that can cry when appropriate. but is only accepted in certain scenarios it seems. Im trying to sort out how to really make it work in practical relaionship. they don't want weak, nor closed off, they do want emotion, especially love and submission. I see all too many guys who cannot feel their emotions because they are shut down.

[passinby]

Great take and perspective. Sad is as I think you said a cycle in life that regenerates our being as a forest fire makes way for new life and light. I went through periods that lasted so long that I began to train myself to enjoy sad and like it. It is possible to retrain your mind to accept sad and begin to embrace it as the norm. So I think sad is a positive state.

[StingRayxoxo]

“Sadness is an emotion you can trust. It is stronger than all of the other emotions. It makes happiness look fickle and untrustworthy. It pervades, lasts longer, and replaces the good feelings with such an eloquent ease you don’t even feel the shift until you are suddenly wrapped in its chains.”

[laurieluvsit]

WOW!
Do you write poetry too Ms SR? ... lol

[laurieluvsit]

... because that was poetic! :)

[laurieluvsit]

Well, that is a very interesting myTake.

I don't feel the same way about everything you said, but I still like many of the things you said :)

[octopusrebellion]

The older you get the more in tune with sadness most people necessarily become. It's just part of life. I've always found it helpful to think of life as a waveform - peaks and valleys. Happiness / sadness let us know where we're at on the curve. Happiness is the upslope. Ecstasy the peak. Sadness the down. Sorrow the trough. If you're younger it's harder to tell where you're at on the way up / down - life gives you context as you go.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Short but powerful read.
I really enjoyed it - it made me see sadness is something needed to appreciate all the positive emotions and feelings.

And to not be ashamed of my own emotions.

[Purple_Babe14]

Wow this was depressing, and made me cry. The world is already a sad bitter place, so why spend your whole life or most of it drowned in sadness. Its pointless and its depressing.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

That's not at all what I said, and you completely missed the point.

[Purple_Babe14]

Yeah not gonna lie... I didn't read it :( It was boring from the "Few Things" part

[DanishSaint]

all emotions need contradictions. Where there is joy, there needs to be sadness. Where there is anger, there needs to be sorrow.

[dontgofalling]

I almost totally agree with you (;
Only there is no real joy, but there isn't also real happiness for when the is no happiness there is sadness and when the is no sadness there is happiness...
They're both the absence of the other.
Therefore when we accept the being of both and let them flow, we can make happiness from sadness and sadness from happiness ( :

[Logorithim]

Maybe one can argue that sadness has a similar function to physical pain in letting you know that something is wrong, but I'd still rather not feel it.

[prc84]

Good words, man. But sometimes you have to let the sadness go away, forever

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Yes, but you cannot send away what you haven't first welcomed.

[SpookySoup]

A very good take. You're completely correct. Hiding your sadness or pain will only make you more sad. You think you're alone, I've been there done that.

[Anonymous]

True--people need to feel different emotions to grow and mature.

[turnmypainintopower1]

you can take mine if you would like I think I have had a pretty good dose I don't think I need anymore lol

[avaawolf]

Sadness is good to experience because it can help you grow but if it's forced then it isn't good. It coming naturally is

[Kaneki05]

Despair and saddness=life without it would just be death. Simple boring death.

[SirRexington]

Too much of it is clearly bad and depression is very bad for your health.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

That's why you need to deal with it. Shun it too much and it ust piles up, and that will indeed lead to depression.

[SirRexington]

But i don't shun it. I let it out when i can. I not only have clinical depression but im also in a horrible living situation roght now and until that goes away (which no matter how hard I work it doesn't), my depression will continue being as bad as it is.

Regardless of anything.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Sorry to hear that. Depression is of course another matter entirely, still, not unbeatable.

[dantetheexplorer]

If we didn't know sadness, we wouldn't be able to fully appreciate happiness.

[MajorZero]

I think is a realtors that sadness is part of our lives. You see extroverted and apparently happy people but you never know what’s behind.

[Lance1965]

Sadness is painful but it can make you see the truth with some situations. Reality kicks in and it is not pretty sometimes.

[stormbreaker06]

darkness is nothing without light
light is nothing without darkness

they need each other to survive.

Like Thanos said. BALANCE.

[Partywithtom]

Without sadness happiness can't exist. Without death with can't appreciate life. You have to have the negatives in order to have the positives