People need to get this through their head

[MissMam]

I know many people who care way too much about others. And I know that may sound wrong at first but there is a fine line, when you care and take care of others that's good loving them with all your heart. But there are people who car too much about what they say and it can make your life miserable and painful, weather it be that they are giving too much or thinking too hard about what they say and remodeling them selves after what they say. It is not healthy, and changing who you are to what they want, FORGET ABOUT IT! Do what makes you happy, what makes you feel good. IT IS OK TO BE SELFISH SOMETIMES!

[nitsuj86]

I think you will grow out of thinking this way in time.

Selfish is easy, and people will tell themselves whatever they need to, to feel better about how they have treated someone or been treated by someone.

Sure it's ok to be selfish, but I don't think it's ok to try and justify it to everyone else. Own up to what you did, if you did it. YOU have a problem with how everyone else is reacting to something that YOU did. So it's much easier to say they have the problem, and not me. I was just doing what I needed to do for my own happiness.

[MissMam]

What I'm saying is don't be too selfless its ok to be who you are and not what others want you to be

[MissMam]

And it was mainly talking about how other affect one another without reliseing and on witch end how it might be a good way to think, its basically don't care about what they say it will make your life easier

[Wise4myage]

Sounds reasonable to me.

[sheenagwapa]

i think you should know what's most important in your life for example some guys i think have this girlfriend competition among their peer who is better, who is more attractive and so they would brinh aling their girlfriend in some parties for instance and maybe tell their girlfriend to wear something nice that's fine but if you're already hard on your girlfriend your weight must be like this, your outfit should be like this and the like you are riskinj the love your girlfriend feels for yoy at the expense of beinh praise by your peers


ask yourself what's really the most important thing in my life? let's say you are happy with your girlfriend or wife you have harmonious relationship yoy love each othet you wanna exchange that for the praise of your peers who don't really care about you?


it's fine to conform human beinhs are social animals it's natural to wannq be praised or wanted and included but good company, good pips are acceptinh type of people. these are the people who will not ridicule you if you're not around. they're not fake friends.


my ex doesn't like me wearinh makeup and showinh cleavage i conform with that but i also complain when it's just v-neck and just a lip tint just some color he doesn't like. he has gone overboard and so at times i get high blood

[Apulu_Imback]

I understand your point but I guess you need to add something more.

The way you have put it, it seems like you can do EVERYTHING you want to do. No matter if you're hurting someone. Now this is selfish. You shouldn't hurt someone for enjoying your life. You don't have any rights to destroy someone else's life.

You should have put it in such way that you have the rights to control your life and you don't want anyone to interfere it nor will YOU interfere it as well. You should have added this point and people over the comments won't have been so negative. You're going on the right path. Don't stop. I don't regret thinking like this as a 12 year old. It is because of that that I'm leading a better life now, a stronger life doing what I want.

Sweetheart, enjoy your life your own way. You've got this 😊

[serious]

@apulu_imback

Very well said.

[Apulu_Imback]

@serious Thanks a lot

[MissMam]

Thanks and that's basically what I wanted to do but i guess I just forgot to add it. what I'm saying is control your life and be who you are and don't hert the others around you. Thank you so much I rely like this comment it is truly what i was talking about.

[Apulu_Imback]

@MissMam Yes, I got your point. You just needed to express your ideas in a bit better way.

[Wade12345]

i don't know who the toon is, but that quote is exactly what's wrong with this generation.

"Do what makes you feel good' is a line the devil himself tells people. That's why there's so much rape and murder and irresponsible recreational drug use and prostitution, etc.

[MissMam]

What I'm saying is don't be too selfless its ok to be who you are and not what others want you to be

[MissMam]

the line do what makes you fells good comes with rules

[Anonymous]

The people who tell you that selflessness is the ultimate virtue are the same people who will take from you and give nothing in return. Your selflessness makes them feel ok with their selfishness.

That's the most important thing to remember. People who have nothing to gain from you will tell you to take care of yourself FIRST!

[MissMam]

Neat, that never crossed my mind thanks

[DarkLegacy]

No, not really. This is a modern thing again, especially with feminism. No one can do just what they want. There are rules and moral and social responsibilities.

[MissMam]

True but what I'm saying is don't be too selfless its ok to be who you are and not what others want you to be

[serious]

Well, I am a very selfish person. In my own ways. I understand what you have said.

[Anonymous]

People who don't care what others think don't feel the need to tell people what to think.