Shooting the messenger is why I really don't do this anymore unless I know the person who's being cheated on like the back of my hand.. acquaintance, new friend- hell to the no.
If we're all friends, it depends on what friendship is more significant. If its all equal, I try to confide in another friend within the group about what to do- usually, we just encourage him or her to break up with them instead of continuing to cheat... and if whomever suspects the cheater, we don't indulge but we encourage them to look into it or break up. We play the fence and encourage a break up.
If I'm better friends with who's being cheated on, I will get a few of us that are close to confront him/her and make sure he/she knows. If I'm better friends with the cheater, the friends and I will wail on him/her to break up for their shitty shit. Most of the time though? They're both cheating!
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I think it would be best to talk to the friend first. Let them know that you are concerned about their actions and you feel it isn't fair to their partner that they're cheating. If things don't work out, I would tell the person being cheated on.
I would have a serious talk with that friend, making him/her understand that he/she did something wrong. I would convince that friend to tell his partner about that. If not, I would definitely tell that person about it.
I'd definitely tell them. Their partner deserves to know.
I've been cheated on and wish someone told me. I've also been in a situation where my ex's best friend was trying to cheat on her boyfriend and I wanted to tell him so badly because he was a great guy and his girlfriend was a pos. I didn't though because firstly she never cheated, only tried to (still completely fucked up and she would have cheated on him in a heartbeat if the guy she was chasing wanted her) and secondly if I told him it would mean that his girlfriend would be furious with me and my now ex which means my ex would have been furious with me. I told my ex that if she ever cheated on him and I was better friends with him I'd tell him in a second. Same ex ended up cheating on me a few months later. If your girlfriend is good friends with cheaters it's usually a really bad sign, lesson learned.
i would advise my friend that he or she needs to come clean. that would be my first step. if they don't come clean then i would probably feel compelled to tell their partner. but this is hard as it is my friend... but having been cheated on and in one of those cases it was the best friend of my girlfriend who told i think the virtuous and moral thing to do is tell the person who is being cheated on
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I'm very picky about the people I call friends. They wouldn't do that. And if they did I would cut them off. I only associate with people who are good to everyone, not just me. And yes I would tell. I ended a friendship over it before and I'd do it again.
I would confront the cheater, and ask him/her to stop it and to come clean ,, but dont tell the girlfriend/boyfriend directly, it's something that they are supposed to resolve alone...
Sometimes getting involved can do more harm than good. Personally I would encourage my friend to break it off before the other person finds out. I would be hesitant to get involved unless I knew it would help the situation.
I just asked the same question last week. The answers were all over the place... Personally I would tell them, even though often they will be more angry at ME than at the cheater!
I'd normally say mind your business but it's hard bc if it were me I would want someone to tell me if I'm out here looking stupid
Yes, telling the truth and letting someone know they're being betrayed is more important than friendship.
Stay out of it. If it's That nasty then confront the Cheater. Tell them it's not nice... n that they should stop
Telling the truth. Also its hard for me to get friends because I pick the ones I really trust, so probably that situation wouldn't happen.
Being currently in this situation, I have to admit it's a difficult choice to make. I decided not to say anything and act as if I didn't know even though it burns me not to say anything.
They usually suspect or know it already. Do they want to get it rubbed in? I don't think so.
No as it's not your place and your betraying your friend.
If it's a friend of mine then hell yeah I would tell them!
Always tell the truth. They'll find out sooner or later, and the sooner the better.
yes. why not. imagine yourself in that place. wouldn't you like to know the trurh?
Confront the cheater?
I don't know what I would do if my friend did that
I would tell the person if I know him/her.
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