What is your personal opinion of selfish people?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think selfish people are vile and disturbingly wicked and sinful. They are just a disgusting human being overall. I can't comprehend how another person can only focus all about themselves all the time. A ugly mindset of what I need, what I desire and anything that doesn't benefit them directly or indirectly is of no interest to them.😡

[Cakewalk]

In our society, people labeled as selfish are just doing it wrong.

Everyone has goals they want to reach, short or long term. Every interaction we have has benefits for those in them.

Wanna borrow money? I'll loan you some, but pay me back with some interest, or do me favors until I think it's paid off.

Obvious that we get something in return, but it's not only one way still.

You're feeling down? I'll comfort you until you've had enough.

We're definitely selfless here, but we do get something in return mentally, their love towards us, experience.

These are what smarter people do, maybe without realizing it. They are people who know how to get what they want without being direct. Manipulative? Possibly, but hard to say right away.

Selfish people seem to be honest that they want to benefit themselves, that they're straightforward. Maybe they aren't knowing about it or they are direct about it. In either case, they have the "wrong" mindset for the right reason: to have it better than before.

Can you argue why there is "joy in serving another person and loving them without expecting anything back" without making a reference to yourself?

The question itself is contradictory, you still experience joy, but for someone that isn't selfish, it looks like it's only because they want to, not that they have the ability to.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

"Can you argue why there is "joy in serving another person and loving them without expecting anything back" without making a reference to yourself?"

It isn't necessary about "Joy" its just the right thing to do to others.

You wouldn't like at all if no one ever considered your needs and wants?

[Cakewalk]

In justifying unrequited love, you talk about the right thing to do, a moral standard. Morals aren't necessarily born with every being, I would even go as far to say no one, because I feel society and religion teaches them.

If morals would have developed somehow to be selfish, it could still work. I think that morals could actually emphasize the good, the effects, that certain selfish actions have on others. If I show love to someone without expecting anything in return, would I be wasting my time?

[Cakewalk]

There's a reason, whether it's loving a child, your kin, someone you are related to, you do it for the progression of your genes, to ensure they can go on.

A stranger, of whom you're trying to show affection towards, you believe they can help you in some way, or if not you, your species.

I think love in general leads to the end goal of survival for humans. Your brain rewards you for love, you feel good. The reasons above are why, others might argue it's more of a divine reason however.

For the last note, I've felt ignored, that I shouldn't exist. I've gotten depressed to the point where I felt like no one cared, or maybe the other way around. You think irrationally and some will do very bad things. So no, I prefer enjoying life's progression ☺

[Barrabus_the_Free]

That is probably one of the dumbest quotes I have ever seen.

Love is horseshit. It's a myth. It doesn't exist.

I tried that whole "not being selfish" thing. It sucked, it didn't get laid, and it got me fucked over again and again.

As soon as I started looking out for Number One, things started coming together. My life is VASTLY better than it ever was before I decided that concentrating on/caring about my own needs and desires first, and being an evil sumbish whenever possible, were the way to go.

[TacosRAwesome]

Pretty much this.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You probably tired being extremly selfless in which that is bad too. I'm talking about people that won't give a darn about anyone at all. Trust me those people have zero love in their heart. They are cold. Smh

[Barrabus_the_Free]

No, not extremely selfless. I'd say average.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I believe everyone, to some degree, is selfish. So I guess it depends: is selfishness alone inherently evil? Not always. We all have to look out for our best interests and our desires first, knowing when to deviate and consider others.

People who simply just take, take, take, and then feel owed are just annoying, shitty people who I don't associate with.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm talking about excessive "Everything is about me." For get everyone else type selfish people.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Yeah fuck those people.

[GetMeBleach]

Selfish people care about themselves more than other people. I have a couple reasons why I think they do:
They're afraid because they don't want to get hurt
They just do because they love themselves
They just are

[GetMeBleach]

Frankly I'm selfish myself actually, but aren't we all? we have to look out for our own wellbeing.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Everyone has to think about themselves and care for about their interest. But I'm talking about excessive self centered people.

[Lolololayo]

Self love is true love. At the end of the day, if you can't love yourself how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yeah, but hardcore selfish people don't "love" anyone. They are callous and horrible. I experience it in My life first hand.

[Lolololayo]

Those people probably didn't have anyone that cared about them growing up so I guess the mentality there is, "People suck. You gotta look out for number one."

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Selfish people are like my cousin, who wants more more but
never gives from the heart but may give just to do it and is
self consuming. She wonders why her life is so sad and boring
and always full of drama well she brings it all on herself no one
else did it to her.

[sushiluver]

I think that people are selfish dont care about other people. Trust me, my mom and I meet a lot of those people and they either use us or hurt us. The world is filled with all kinds of people

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

They don't give a half a penny about anyone. Smh. I'm telling you, they are horrible people.

[sushiluver]

We're in hell, my friends.

[Sam19XX]

Selfishness is just one of those things which are variable among the people. Whether you regard someone as selfish, depends on your personality and people have different personalities so...
What "unselfish" really is , is simply what seems unselfish to the majority of the people. Some people are selfish and they realize it but you know, they just keep it going.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A hardcore selfish person is callous man. Trust me, they wouldn't give a dust about you at all.

[TacosRAwesome]

Putting yourself first is healthy. Screwing over others to be first is not.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Agree.

[TacosRAwesome]

Still if someone will get screwed over, I try to make sure it is not me.

[awesometjgreen]

technically we all are kinda selfish in different ways but yeah I don't like selfish people (depending on the circumstances)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm talking about extremely overbearing selfish people.

[awesometjgreen]

in that case yeah I hate people like that

[FatherJack]

... All too common , the majority of people nowadays. This is due in a large part to toxic " media " programming , creating divisions & mistrust ( such as anti male " media " campaigns , influencing women to be negative towards men ) , so no-one gives a rats arse about each other !

[Anonymous]

I can tend to be selfish myself by I'm trying my hardest not to be.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A healthy dose of selfishness is fine. Taking it to far is horrible because it causes pain and hurt to others directly or indirectly.

[RD196]

They are the ones who are closest to us n they use people like a tissue paper use n throw.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Indeed.

[sarath1997]

I am selfish , people taught me how to be... wasn't a selfish guy before...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Samething happened to me. But I also understand I shouldn't cross a line. Balance is key. Otherwise your actions hurt others.

[sarath1997]

same bro

[Ciscoin]

You always have to look out for #1. If you don't, who else will?
Don't neglect others, but it's not your responsibility to cover their asses.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

"You always have to look out for #1. If you don't, who else will?"

I agree, but a person shouldn't go to far. Selfish people cause pain and hurt to others directly or indirectly.

[InfantryGuy55]

I am selfish, and why not? at the end of the day it's Me who matters to me, not you

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

So you don't care about anyone ever?

[Sluthater]

I agree with you. I'm selfish. I know I'm selfish and I have to work on it daily. Being selfless doesn't come natural to me. I have to work on it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A healthy dose of selfish isn't bad. Its just the being extremely consumed about self even at the expense of hurting othes that is terrible.

[Machiavelli]

Selfish people are smart, confident and happy, sounds kick ass to me.

[Anonymous]

I'm a selfish person because I only do stuff that benefits me?

[Arya_Christ]

what do you mean?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If all you think about is yourself in excess and never consider the well being of others at all then yeah that makes you selfish and bad person.

[Evan254]

cool guy, are you 15? everybody in this world are selfish no exceptions

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm talking excessive. You wouldn't want a person in your life that is hardcore self centered.

[Evan254]

With such people I do not communicate, if there is no great need and that's it

[BronzedAdonis]

everyone's selfish to a degree its human nature and more generally nobody is perfect

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm talking about excessive self centered "Everything is about me, nobody else interest matters"

[BronzedAdonis]

I still think that's perfectly natural, not likeable but natural

[Iron_Man]

I don't want to fool with them on any level

[Liisjak]

Everyone is selfish at the core.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Do you think its bad if its extreme to the point of hurting others?

[Arya_Christ]

people make people selfish.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I understand. But I also understand that balance is key.

[Arya_Christ]

yeah, anything in excess is injurious to health.