Does cheating make you a bad person?

Question

I 100% believe it doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s all about pleasure. Everyone has needs therefore I believe it’s 100% ok.

MsLoli · Accepted Answer

It does, because cheating involves a knowledge of what you're doing to your partner, and then doing it anyway. You're making a conscious decision to hurt your partner, damage their self-esteem and trust, just for your own selfish physical pleasure.
You know what IS acceptable in seeking to fulfill your own desires and be pleasured? Talking to your partner. Asking them if you can have sex with other people. Either respecting their boundaries or getting out so you can have all the casual sex you want.
Go against that, you're kind of a shitty person and you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship to begin with.
Having needs does not make it okay to emotionally devastate someone you claim to love.
And cheaters can rationalize it any way they want; "it was just sex", "it wasn't love", but that doesn't matter. They've already fucked over their partner regardless of their reasoning for the disloyalty.

goddess87 · Accepted Answer

I believe cheating is a bad thing, but to say they are a bad person completely is too far of a reach for me. I don't think it's my place to judge someone else on their past behavior that didn't directly effect me.

If I had a friend that was cheating, I would help her understand that her actions effect others and how she should think long and hard about her behavior. Would I call her a horrible person and quit being her friend? No, I wouldn't. I would encourage her to make right of the situation.

Isn't that what a friend is for? To be supportive and to help. Not to suddenly turn against them at a low point in their own life? If someone has a pattern of unstable relationships, then there is probably some other type of issue going on within that person.

witherwing · Accepted Answer

If someone can't break off a relationship before hopping into bed with someone else, or even worse, is too greedy to only have one partner (even when first agreeing to a monogamous relationship), yes I think it makes them a bad person. It's hurting someone intentionally.

abond008 · Accepted Answer

It means you are either weak or bad and selfish person. I really believe weather you are guy or a woman, if for any reason you can't commit hundred percent to the one you promised to be exclusive with. Than it is time to end the relationship.
At the end of the day we are humans, we are weak infront of temptations but sex is not a joke as pleasurable as it is. You never know if your are pregnant, who is the father bla all a and it is not the kids fault that mom or immature enough to have fun on their expense.
So do not be too hard on yourself, because we all make mistakes if you did it but know that you have done something bad, wrong and immoral. If you feel you would do it again than break up with your partner, don't stay with him or her for whatever reason you have including you both having kids with each other. Hope you are not in a forced married or something.

PatKirby · Accepted Answer

It's actually the reverse. People with bad character and lack of values (selfish, narcissistic, remorseless abusers) favor cheating.

However, it's your justification for doing so that takes center stage here and warrants further review. Either:

1) You're being sarcastic in order to get honest answers,
In which case you've got plenty to read from here, or
2) You've already made up your mind and are seeking permission to cheat...
Then consider how it would feel when your partner cheated behind Your back which would reveal the truth about your own emotional maturity

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, cheating does not make you a bad person. You cheated because you already were a bad person.

krsajo95 · Answer

It's NOT ok. If you're in a relationship with a person who thinks it's ok to have sex with other people, then I guess it's fine. But you have to respect one another. The best thing is to be in a relationship with someone similar to you, with the same values and visions in life. You should probably be in an open relationship, but not everyone is made for that.

Relationships should be built on trust, respect and love. If you break the trust, it's wrong. Cheating means you have sex with someone/has a relationship with someone else but your partner, without permission. I don't think most people would like or accept that.

And honestly, the relationship isn't too good if there's no pleasure in it. You should probably work on that, and if it doesn't work - leave the person, not betray him/her. And if having sex with many people is your thing, maybe you should stay single a while.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

And I 100% believe that you are trolling. However to answer your question yes it does make you a bad piece of shit human being because you betrayed the trust of the person who trusted you the most, and if you cannot even respect their trust in you and be trusted to do what is right by the person you profess to care about what else can you be trusted with? A society requires that you trust the members of said society, if you cheated and destroyed the person who you claimed to care about then one can only imagine how you will use and hurt people you acknowledge to not care about at all.

Becalo · Answer

Does cheating make you a bad person? No. Absolutely not. HOWEVER cheating IS bad. But people do mistakes, sometimes willingly. You made a bad desigion, doesn't make you a bad person.
As to the other part of the question, cheating is bad not because multiple partners, but because of lying. Open relationships are a thing. While i never tried it personally i always wanted to be in one. Your both acknowledge that you'd like more than one sexual partner and don't fuss about it. Thus sateing your sexual desires while not being dishonest and not risking your relationship.

PhenomenalPancake · Answer

Cheating is only cheating if you betray the trust of your partner. If it was agreed upon that sex outdid the relationship is cheating, then it's bad if the person does it. However, whether someone is a bad person or not is determined by a variety of factors. Just cheating doesn't make you bad if you're a good person in most other aspects.

SelfIsolated17 · Answer

Cheaters deserve to die alone and miserable for stabbing people in the back and betraying their trust and what makes it even more despicable is they make up bullshit justifications like this to convince themselves that they aren't doing anything wrong.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I say you're weak, insecure and totally lack compassion and empathy. If it's about pleasure then you're also a sadistic person. Why the FUCK not tell the guy I don't love you anymore& I'm leaving. That's all that there is to it. I knew a guy who committed suicide. His wife had a whirlwind affair. She threatened to take the kids. He killed himself in front of her and his 2 sons. A bad person? Nope. An angel? Nope. A FUCKED up c*** with no empathy. Yes...

poopedmypantsagain · Answer

It may not per say make you a bad person overall, but in the eyes of anyone who knows of this and dates you it should send a red flag to the person who dates this cheater, but then again I think the person who at one time.. Cheated.. will not tell the other person and may not get this info labeled on to them.. and that is the saddest part of all of it all... there should be no cheating in a relationship... or any lying.. if there is why bother even dating

Eyes_On_Me · Answer

It's horrible to cheat. If you have your "needs" or whatever, tell your boyfriend. It should be his call whether to break up or not, because cheating is the act of lying to your bf/gf and sleeping with someone else. If your boyfriend isn't the type of person to let you sleep with someone else and you did it anyways behind his back, that's despicable.

JulyBug · Answer

Cheating is wrong. Period. If you are going to cheat why not leave the relationship you are in?

pcybae · Answer

I think you have to respect the person you are in a relationship. And it's a bad move towards them. Nobody wants to be cheated, right? The only thing we do not care about it till we get cheated cos as you said "its all about pleasure". Don't you feel bad hurting other people feelings? If you can't stand with one partner get the open relationship.

dragau4 · Answer

It absolutely does you are in a relationship to be with someone and only someone if it wasn't established otherwise of course so cheating means you went agaisnt your unwritten agreement of relationship therefore you are a huge dick. If you want pkeasure go for it but at least tell the one you are with before and let them decide what will be your relationship after that

winterfox10 · Answer

While I agree that cheating doesn't make you a bad person, I disagree with you that cheating is okay or that it is all about pleasure. Emotional cheating is the worst kind and that has very little to do with pleasure.

I believe that relationships ought to have some rules in place about things like that. For instance, I would love to have a once and done once per year type rule. Screwing around once isn't a statement about the relationship.

chris1984 · Answer

does it make you a bad person? not directly. but breaking the agreed upon rules of a relationship does make you a bad partner.

hugs4rentSocialclub · Answer

Cheating is fine if both people in the relationship accept the terms and conditions. If one or the other does not approve and you do it in secret, then that's a breach of trust.

kiara23 · Answer

Yes it does. By doing it you hurt people and relationships, destroy trust and burn people. It's not okay to do any of that, especially to someone you love or loved

Greaver · Answer

Cheating makes you a horrible person if you cheat you don’t deserve love

McKellar · Answer

This will be in a black & white form to think about this,... but if you're in a romantic relationship & you are cheating on your partner,... yes cheating is a bad thing considering your partner is trusting you to be romantically loyal to him/her ( depending on your sexual status of course )

If your polyamorous, (which that isn't something I do agree on,.. that's just my opinion ) & you're partner knows about your other lovers & is okay with it,... than no that isn't cheating at all.

mr_mxy · Answer

Its selfish. If you need pleasure that much its better to break up with someone than go behind their back because frankly any guy would deserve better than you. Instead you want to have you cake and eat it too which in this case hurts someone else. Willingness to hurt someone else emotionally makes you a bad person. How would you feel if a guy fucked 8 different women because your pussy was too loose. Bet it would hurt. Honestly people like you are the reason i refuse to date.

cavmanier · Answer

Would it be okay if a person finds pleasure stealing all your money or making you their slave? They wouldn't be bad because they get pleasure from it right. Sex isn't a need.

AzureGirl · Answer

Please never get into a relationship with that mentality.

Goodwifie · Answer

Not in general no but as a partner or spouse yes. It can take years to get over such a betrayal of trust.

cancan73 · Answer

It doesn't necessarily make you a bad person but people are going to get hurt, If you want to play the field you're better off single

JRA97 · Answer

Cheating makes you a bad person, because you're neglecting your significant other's trust. If your significant other is not fulfilling your needs, then break up with them (or let them know about your needs). A relationship is about being exclusive to each other, you can't go look elsewhere and then expect to have a perfectly good relationship with the person you just cheated on.

Drooogie4 · Answer

Cheating makes you a shit person. Because you betrayed someone's trust.  Have as much sex with as many people as you want if you're single, sure. But if you chose to cheat, you are scum.

BKings · Answer

Did you do it on purpose? Fully aware that you were cheating and knowing you were going to hurt someone, but still did it? Then you're probably a bad person,

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn’t make you a bad person, by comparison to what’s out there setting the bar for bad people. Are you a good person? No.
There’s cheating on tests, cheating on taxes, not really shitty. The betrayal of someone who would probably gladly die to save your life... damn that’s a special kind of garbage.
If you’re cheating, you’re using your S/O in the first place. If not you would break it off instead of cheat. So you’re a cheater and a user. Hopefully you get what’s coming to you.

Cammy137 · Answer

So when someone gets sadistic pleasure from harming animals or other humans, that's ok because its all ahout pleasure?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure if it makes them bad people, but they certainly are not good. There are a lot of reasons for why a person might cheat, but it's still a bad thing to leave your partner hanging and to treat them like that.

Hypodermic · Answer

It's never ok you betray someone who loves you and if you cheat you dont love them..

madgoat · Answer

Cheating is counter to building a strong trusting long term relationship.  That's why it's called cheating.

Missterio · Answer

It makes you a bad person if you deceive someone you led to believe you would be faithful to, and if you subsequently hurt them.

HamAndCheese · Answer

Yes. It does. It being all about pleasure has nothing to do with cheating as it pertains to ethics, which is the field in which we would determine if someone is a good or bad person.

kabureck · Answer

100% bad people. just need to say hey I don't believe we are working out break up. the do what ever don't be a ho and cheat on people

kaskas19 · Answer

You're still a shitty person.  Defending cheaters also makes you a shitty person.  There is no way around it.

LegateLanius · Answer

Nope. It makes you a bad person because all you had to do was end the relationship but you chose to hurt your partner.

MLGbreezy · Answer

If you want an actual answer cause im not sure if your trolling no i dont believe it makes you a bad person cause you made a mistake and thats life

KingAfricano · Answer

Yup cuz if you have no interest in ur partner just tell em it's 100 times better than betraying them , and keeping in mind cheater never change

DanishSaint · Answer

Not necessarily a bad person in general, but it says a lot about your ethics and morale as a person.

Kat_puppies · Answer

lol your belief is so stupid you need to be loyal and not cheat its not all about you missy its what your partner wants then you

Kuraj · Answer

Does rape make you a bad person? How about child molestation? Everyone has needs, therefore it is totally A-OK.

KhoryESM · Answer

Coming from a beautiful woman like you ( im guessing ) that makes sense but it depends on the situation & how that person reacts if they feel cheating is bad or not

Davie1575 · Answer

Cheating is a bad person why you want to cheat on your girlfriend or wife or boyfriend or husband and you say cuz of pleasure that's bad that you don't need other ladies with other men to make you happy

Anonymous · Answer

Are you stupid? Why even be in a relationship if you can't control your urges? You're hurting a person for no reason. I hope life really knocks you on your ass one day.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

I believe it is a form of treason, of betrayal. You betray the one you love by fucking someone else. Cheating is 100% bad in my mind

California24 · Answer

it makes you a bad person because you have to think about how the other person feels

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating makes you an untrustworthy liar.

Ms725 · Answer

Andddd you’re a piece of shit. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

Not bad, just liberated. And a feminist waste basket filled with cock snot.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

It makes you less trustworthy

imbadathis · Answer

Yes rotten to the core

psychosam · Answer

It 100% makes you a fucking cunt

Maverick24 · Answer

If you cheat lose your trustworthyness.

rgb008 · Answer

Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

It makes you an awful person

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

No it makes you a good person

Anonymous · Answer

No, just worse person

silvershine · Answer

Noppeee

Lumberman53 · Answer

Yes.

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