Do you hug differently when you're into the guy/girl?

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I thought about this after answering another question. I find that if I do happen to like a guy, my body will make sure that my arms go around his neck when hugging him. It's weird lol.

dangerDoge · Accepted Answer

Dude hugs often have what I call the “bro pat.” That is, as you embrace your dude friend in a hug, you firmly pat the other person’s back 2 to 3 times in a ritual signifying that you are still bros. Now, it’s important not to go over 5. Not only will this start to turn into a baby-burp hug (creating an awkward embrace between bros), but the hug would be going on too long. Pats on the back help give a hug timing.

Also, this kind of hug does not particularly happen with those outside the bro circle, however. Usually those are just firm handshakes. (Limp noodle handshakes will make you lose respect and man-points. Avoid at all costs.)

With women, it’s usually more of a softer hug, otherwise known as the “warm embrace” hug. Giving the firm tri bro pat may be misinterpreted as a back attack, which could result in unpleasant consequences. The warm embrace hug is more of a warm wrap. It’s less abrasive. For those the guy isn’t particularly close to, it becomes more like a half-assed warm embrace (aka a lukewarm embrace). Usually the wrap isn’t as strong, and in some cases, it may even be a one armed hug.

For cases of tall people, bending down to the person’s size may be necessary haha

Also, it’s a hug— apart from some SO situations, it’s generally a greeting. It’s not an invite to feel the person up. Geez. Some of y’all chill out.

DodgersGM · Accepted Answer

Oh, definitely. Friend hugs are sooooooooooooooooooo different from I'm-into-you hugs.

Romantically hugs are longer. You engage the person who with more of your senses (you're more aware of their touch, you smell their hair, there's more contact -- and the contact is more sensual -- between the crooks of your necks). You let go slowly, separating from each other by just one point of contact at a time.

😍

_bunny_ · Accepted Answer

For me yes at a young age my guy friends would always get upset at me when other guys outside of our friend group came up and asked if they could hug me I have a large chest and one day they got tired of it so they pulled me to the side and told me that guy's only hug me so they can feel my boobs on their chest so they taught me how to side hug guys so if a guy ever came in for a hug just side hug them they ask for it they didn't say what kind LOL so from then on if I actually like the guy then I would front hug him

aconfusedgirlie · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I hugged my boyfriend tighter than I would hug friends and for longer. I used to hug him around his neck because to me it seemed more intimate but I was too short so just resorted to being the underneath hug arms lmao. But yeah there’s a difference I think.

Iwant2kno · Accepted Answer

I hug my friends with more distance and friendship like hugs. When I hug someone I’m in love with, that is different. I would like to hold hat person forever. Damn I love those hugs!

BeeryNice · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. When I'm into someone I hug with my whole body pressed into them. I'm trying to occupy their space. If I'm not into them, the hug is warm but not hungry.

pineappleshortcare · Accepted Answer

Let’s be honest, you try a lot harder to not let your breasts touch a guy when you don’t want to give him the wrong idea.

pervertedjester · Answer

I just hug people if they look like they need it. (Fyi Cops aren't big huggers.)

Shane_B · Answer

Yeah, I hug them closer and a bit tighter to me, and it lasts longer than a normal hug.
And I really like hugs either way, I'm a huggable guy 😂 I like the feeling of them, I also like to smell her hair if its smells nice, like fruity shampoo smell.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Yeah, if I like him I actually let my tits press up on him, otherwise I will pat you on the back before I hug you.

oliviaroseleroux · Answer

I hardly ever shake hands. I’d rather hug, you never know how much someone may need it. It’s like an embrace. If I was into someone I’d probably give them a longer tighter hug than I would to a friend.

DejectionControlled · Answer

Hell yeah. When I hug a dude, it's a bro hug. Clasp hands, and bump chests which are blocked by the clasped hands and arms.

When I hug a chick I get alllllll up in there, like I'm trying to absorb her body into mine. Tight and body conforming.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Gotta be honest with you I don't even really hug women unless they are close friends. Otherwise it's handshakes for everyone.

So if I hug you at all then I'm either into you or your a close friend or family member.

LearningTin · Answer

My hands would (almost) always go around the neck with guys (I'm shortie and I do need to breathe), but the position of my head and the duration of the hug will change.
Although, I can hug my dad and partner with my arms and beneath theirs - a protecting hug, I suppose.

JustAsking_1991 · Answer

Yea if I am really into someone or really care about a guy. I will hug him in different ways
1. Both arms under his and my hands placed on his back (front)
2. One arm on his back and the other hand behind his neck (front)
3. Resting my head on his neck/shoulder and hugging his body (side hug)
4. Hugs from behind, resting my face on the back of his neck or on his back.

Everyone else, gets the normal hugs lol.

mattai787 · Answer

Yes definitely!! If I do not know a girl.. like if she is just an acquaintance I would just offer my hand rather than hug, if I know the girl like say from childhood and we are just friends I would just give her a slight hug, if I knew that the girl is into me and I like me.. then I'd hug differently..

jimyee · Answer

I think there are at least a few varying degrees of hugging. If I see someone I don't really care for and they go for a hug it's gonna be a meh kind and for every step up how much I like you at this point platonically, guy or girl it's going to gradually get more affectionate. So by the time we get to a girl I'm romantically interested in I'd say they do get a different hug.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

I'm retarded with hugs.

My cousin for one demands that I hug harder.

One girl that had a crush on me who I was trying to friend zone (also my sister's best friend) I have a hug goodbye (following after my sister) and i get a text a few minutes later "Hey, did you mean anything by that hug you gave me?" I was like noo dangit why am I so bad with hugssss

Decentguy · Answer

im always like this

MrMAC777 · Answer

I hug like I'm allergic to them... unless its my girl.

mssimest23 · Answer

This is interesting. I find that i do tend to hug a person i am interested in longer than if i am just friends with the guy.

ManOnFire · Answer

Yes. I will even be kind of open with her about how I like feeling her. They usually laugh about it.

Framboise · Answer

Well, yes because I don't hug people. I really dislike when people touch. I wouldn't even have hugged a person I was into. I'm only confortable doing it with my boyfriend and it took me a week to feel at ease doing it.

Whyhellothar · Answer

Usually no, because I have a frustrating tendency to develop feelings for attached or otherwise unavailable women. It would be entirely inappropriate if I did anything that might give that attraction away to them, or to anyone else for that matter.

cth96190 · Answer

I used to want to hold the woman close and not let her go.

Naxwi · Answer

Yeah a bro hug is totally different from a hug with a girl.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

I usually don't hug, so if I hug you, just know I like you.

DeterMind · Answer

I don't hug anyone. Personal space is high on my priority list

cheriya · Answer

i only said no because I've never been hugged by a guy. also, im not a hugging person and tend to just stand there when receiving a hug, if it’s my friends haha. i will return a hug but im not a fan of it

SwimWithFish · Answer

Yea, I'm not someone who is normally a touchy person but when i do hug someone I like its an embrace around the waist or a neck hug and if its a normal person, like family, I'll give them a light shoulder hug.

PlsWork · Answer

Pretty sure I've never hugged anyone that's not my family member

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Haven't noticed, I don't get the chance to hug anyone.

Lovethecountry · Answer

I would hug the same, however I hug women and handshake for the men.  I have several that will hunt me down to get a hug because they say I give the best hugs, whatever they mean by that

jeremythedrummer · Answer

1) Family and friends get the side-hug, or a short normal hug (rare).
2) Bros get the normal wrap-around with a slap on the back (the hug is very brief)
3) Crush or girlfriend gets a wraparound, but one of my hands will be on her head and the other wrapping around her mid-back.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I usually hug the same way but if I really like them I usually hold them a bit longer and rub their back/arms to indicate I care about their comfort and safety

mermaid175 · Answer

Absolutely. There's a certain level of comfort you feel and project in a romantic hug versus a friendly one

ryanlightning · Answer

I don't hug outside of my family, I gave or was given a total of 8 hugs from outside of my family last year, 5 of those were a performer I got to see perform live twice and meet her

Kay_ca · Answer

When I like a girl, I hug tighter, longer, I touch her hair and I pay attention to how good she smell etc. Enjoying the hug more than usual.

johnhunter15 · Answer

Of course you do. Whenever you are around someone that you are attracted to, you act extremely differently than usual

DizzyDesii · Answer

All friends/fams get sidehugs. A crush/bf would get a full wraparound

Kenni · Answer

Yeah I don't know why but if i like him, my arms go all around his body and hug really tightly. Whereas if I don't my hands are just on his back but they don't cross or come around his neck

SarahsSummer · Answer

It’s been a while but I think my emotions always take over when I hug anyone. like how I feel about them.

misaqi-s-fan · Answer

Definitely different!!😱😱 omg😍 im also melting if he hugs me😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

reixun · Answer

If I like a guy, there’ll definitely be full frontal body contact

Plumy · Answer

Yes, there are many many diff types of hugs, obviously hugging for ❤ is different than normal...

avi1107 · Answer

When u are into a girl u dont care about the world and she means the world to you. You hug her with full enthusiasm and love and it is generally longer than friendly hugs

CindyRuns · Answer

When I'm really into a guy, my arms go around him completely and I almost instinctively mold my body to his !!!

shaman2 · Answer

I always wrap my hands around her waist or small of her back. I've had women hug me by wrapping their arms around my neck, it always felt especially warm and gave me this tingly feeling.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, when you have special feelings for someone it's common to hug them different I've always done that with my ex-girlfriend she would hug me different and it's very common to happen.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I squish my body intimately and longer onto that of who I'm into.

Hans222 · Answer

Yeah I think so. It's a more tight hug - an "I don't wanna let her go hug" <3

archiz · Answer

Yess cause if I am not into the person, I usually just high five or shake hands cause I don't like to be touched.

bubble_tea · Answer

Yes, I probably hug him less long than everyone else.

nickyBBB · Answer

Yes I hug longer people I like in general lol, sometimes I just squeese them from behind 😂

Kiki98 · Answer

I don't hug people, so if I hug someone it means I'm into them

MindYourEyes · Answer

Yeah I’ll tend to embrace a little tighter or gently.

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

Yea, I'll hug the guy with both arms if I'm into him, and the others get the one arm side hug haha..🤣

Dtegesd123 · Answer

I give non interests a side arm huge or a quick one with pats to the back. But for an interest I hug around the waist, no patting.

Logorithim · Answer

Definitely. It's hard not to hug someone differently if you're attracted to them.

LadyJade007 · Answer

When I hug my friends, I hug them comfortably and tightly but I don't hug the guy I'm interested in. I just placed my hands on his shoulders and hoped that I didn't make a wrong move😂

Galen01 · Answer

Those times I do hug others it's generally short and I tend to go for one-armed hugs. But with my girlfriend, the hugs tend to be longer with both my arms around her waist.

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

yea lol. if i dont care for them our shoulders wil tough and my hand will touch their back but if i care about them my whole body will touch their entire front.

Prof_Don · Answer

If I'm into the girl, I will rub and gently grip on her hips as I hug her.

NoOneSuspicious · Answer

I like letting my arms down to the lower back and pushing it towards me a bit

SirHac · Answer

I only actually hug people if I'm dating/in love with them or if it's a family member who I think really needs it

nearly · Answer

If I like the girl I am hugging, and she like me too, our pelvises and lower halves of the body will come closer. Otherwise, it's like we hug over a fence.

Nate1941 · Answer

The hug usually lasts longer and he usually rubs my back a little.

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