Friend told me I never get compliments because "you don't need them" and guys say "I'm not gonna hit on you, you're too obviously good looking" WHAT?

[Anonymous]

"Everyone knows you're good looking and talented, you don't need compliments".
Maybe I don't know because no one ever tells me (including my family)? Maybe that's why I'm shy and unsure of myself because I tend to think I'm not enough when everyone else is cheered on and complimented while that never happens to me? I don't like too much attention and I wouldn't care about the compliments, but when I'm always left out, at some point watching how everyone else is raised up and I'm ignored, it does start to hurt.

The only times I get compliments from guys are when they tell me the thing they're complimenting is actually a bad thing. "You're stunning but I'd never try to get you, you're too obviously good looking, that friend of yours, she's pretty in a way that probably everyone can't see" (that's when they go after her). Is it really a thing, being too much "for everyone's liking"? They tend to like me as a person and find me attractive but they don't want to risk it. Really? Where do these assumptions come from? I'm not a bad person who's way too full of themselves, I'm actually very sweet, shy and loyal person, even a little insecure.


And by the way. I've never had a boyfriend (and I don't sleep around).

[Giggles61]

I think its a matter of you seem confident, friendly, and pretty and you should be attractive but the people who say that turns them off probably just aren't attracted to you which is just the way their brains work. I'm sure someone is gonna fall for you and shower you with compliments, but right now people feel that you are in a safe mental space so they don't feel obligated to do so in some ways, which sucks.

[Liska98stad]

We can’t tell you, you don’t have any pics. You might be good looking or unattractive

[Asker]

Well this is not about "how do I look" but more about "Don't people really compliment the ones they see as already good and pretty?" AND "Is it really a thing, being too much "for everyone's liking" so the guys don't wanna go after you?"

[Liska98stad]

You’re probably too ugly to be complimented, they don’t know what to compliment you on. And they are being sarcastic. I don’t think they are being honest

[Asker]

Haha thanks for that... "let's try to make the girls feel worse about themselves", loving the attitude dude.. Also I'm not blind and unable to read expressions and body language, I know they were attracted to me, but for some reason I was wrong for them. Which is okay and understandable of course but when it happens often it sucks. Also if this is more of a pattern than just one random comment I doubt guys would always come up with the same lie. But nice try though, thanks.

[Liska98stad]

I don’t see why guys won’t compliment you if your that good looking

[Asker]

Who knows. They just usually blush, stare at me and say nothing. Or if they say something it's usually something very random that makes no sense and then they get confused themselves and lose their words and get all tense and uncomfortable 😅

[Liska98stad]

Your probably the prettiest girl in the planet lol never heard of being too much for everyone’s liking

[Asker]

Me neither. That's why I asked if it can actually be a real thing. Maybe these guys were just insecure? Or scared of being cheated on because they thought "she might get a lot of attention so she might very well just go with another guy" or maybe something else like "I'd be constantly jealous with her and that doesn't sound too good of a life to me"?