I don't like them. But it depends on how people define those people. I've been accused of "stirring drama" within my family. When in reality, I only bring up recent conflict so there can be a resolution. My family often doesn't like that kind of confrontation/admitting to their faults, so they say to me, "you always starting stuff" or "you can't ever let anything go."
I cringe so hard when they say that. They don't even realize my goal no matter how many times I say it. Their reactions are causing more trouble than my attempts at a resolution. People like that can be very irrational.
But people who unprovokingly cause trouble/start drama are just pathetic. Those people are very hard to reason with. They're not worth anyone's time.
Low quality human being. Remember the first time I met someone like that. I was 17 and she came up to me to tell me what someone else said about me. It was super benign and I didn't even care (what was said). What bothered me was, even if I were to just assume she wasn't lying. What good was there in telling me what he thought? I can't change what he thinks and telling me won't change it even if I were to believe it.
Like if someone is lying about you behind your back that can tangibly hurt you. But if they just think xyz about you it really means nothing.
They are unhappy in their lives so to stir up drama in others it makes them feel like their unhappiness is normal.
They also like the feeling they get to be able to manipulate people and situations.
They haven't got enough shit going on in their lives to be worrying about others and causing trouble
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I love to hear juicy gossip but I only tell people who are completely outside of that gossip. I dont like pop stirrers.
Honestly, some groups need people like this. Causing drama for the sake of causing drama is certainly immature, but I've seen it have a wide range of positive results. Typically, people can only stir the pot when there is something going on behind closed doors, and sometimes, when such a thing is brought to the light, it is forced to be confronted.
Also, even though I've been on the receiving end of such behaviour and it drives me insane, it can also add a lot of humour and bonding to a group's dynamics.
The question really depends on the extent to which someone stirs the pot!
It depends on what the drama is about. If it's about not being invited to a party or what someone's wearing or something stupid like then they are high conflict people.
My father is a high conflict person with narcissist traits. His priority is to cause chaos and drama. It is very exhausting. He has assaulted police officers, assaulted me, and always made himself out to be a victim of his own kids (to those who believe him). He would try to stop me driving and send me to psychologists as a means of controlling me.
He was a bully. Everything is conflict, he is always the victims. There are always, at any given time, adversaries victimizing him. I don;t know where this mentality comes from but it is cruel because other people, no matter how distressed by his actions, will always be the ones being cruel to HIM.
If someone is creating problems just to make life more exciting for themselves, that is awful! Get a hobby because it sounds like you're getting bored easily. Plus it makes it difficult to deal with when there is an actual issue that needs addressing. Don't make mountains out of mole hills.
They have issues and are a bad influence on everybody around them. The true trouble makers who need to be reprimanded. Many of them have mental problems and will get you killed if you're not careful. Its everything above. They need to do something in their lives, stop being toxic that makes others not like them, dragging others in the middle of their mess making the rest of us sick and ill, because at the end of the day they don't change.
Use to have a few friends like this. Gave them advice to grow up and calm down on the rumours and they decided to spread more. That being said, I'm now living drama free while they still send the occasional abusive text.
You have to stir the pot occasionally or else the shit sticks to the bottom.
I do some photography on the side just for the fun of things,... when I take pictures of an event that I'm a part of & so are a group of people I know who are in the shots,... holy shit for some strange-ass reason that can ever spark up drama right there & end friendships no problem.
Now that I have to be VERY frickin' careful as to where I shoot the camera & legal action and so on,... now there are the same people I'm not going to be around if we are going to have the same issues.
They're fun to talk to for a while, but I'd never class then as an actual friend or tell them anything personal. And honesty I don't fully respect them because they most likely take joy in causing other people stress and that's petty af
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Experiencing this after hearing my son tell me ( despite not talking to his educator in class) a man who will always look me deep in the eyes for quite some time,
Ok thing is he’s telling little kids mostly my son I’m chasing him down.
The older I get, the more I enjoy my peace. But when I choose to socialize I wish to find peace with the people that I encounter. I have faith that peace won’t become extinct so we can begin to remain social creatures.
That card thing described my friend perfect. He likes to stir shit up and troll but as soon as you dont agree with him or give him a response he dosent like he crys about it.
Unless they’re my mom/dad I cut off all contact. If they are mom/dad I limit contact to a minimum. Btdt.
Anyhow these drama queens are too self centered
I roll my eyes IRL and hope they may find a hobby while walking far far away. if im really annoyed I hope the grim reaper takes one of us. Either way, I'll still be far... far far away.
I just think they have nothing better to do with themselves. Also their lives suck, so they wanna make other people feel like shit too.
if it's online I can usually tell they are stirring the pot. I grab popcorn as long as it isn't anything too crazy. lol. in person? they annoy me.
I run fast and far.
They're probably bored and have sad lives. I just assume they didn't get enough attention growing up.
Avoid with a long stick! You become like who you surround yourself around, so do you want to be like them?
I think they are bored amd just want some dram in their lives.
Once in a while sometimes i do that too, however if its all the time its annoying
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