Im planning to move out of my parent's home And searching for a share house or share apartment with a complete stranger - 2 bedrooms obviously Since all my friends are either still living with their parents or with their partner
Is it better to live with a male or female? And why?
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Is it better to live with a male or female roommate?
Men are generally messier but you can tell them to clean it the fuck up and they won't get all offended. Women are cleaner although they tend to make it about politics within the house and will hold a grudge.
Men tend to have girlfriends over that end up practically living there. Which for me is an issue. women tend to go to their boyfriends house. So tend to not be there.
Honestly find a gay guy to live with. They are the best roommates I've ever rented to. Introduced my last one to his husband. Went to their wedding. Married till this day. Rent was always on time. House was kept clean.
It's better to room only with roommates of the same sex, because otherwise it would inevitably be a source of conflict if you were to get into a relationship (with someone who is not your roommate).
Not to mention that in your case, given your roommates will be complete strangers, it'd be downright dangerous for you to room with a male. Especially since any guy who particularly chooses to room with a female already has questionable intentions.
@cmndo I didn't say all guys have questionable intentions. I said all guys who go out of their way to room with specifically a female roommate have questionable intentions--and I stand by that claim.
If you're moving in with a stranger a female would most likely be safer (not always but most of the time). But if you knew the guy for a while and he seems like a better option than the girl I would choose the male roomate. But messiness/dirtiness varies from person. I know some really gross girls and clean guys and vice versa. It really just depends. So if they're strangers, choose the girl. If you know them, choose whoever you're most comfortable with.
Being a girl, you should probably go with a female roommate unless you are in a relationship with a guy who you can room with. Most guys wouldn't, but there is a chance a guy might take advantage of you if you two are roommates.
I suppose it depends, really, on what sort of person you are and what sort of person they are. Reading through the comments, it looks like a lot of people have had wildly different experiences, so the answer to the question depends entirely on you.
One thing before I press on, I take it by 'roommate' you mean sharing a house or flat, not necessarily the same room. Just always seemed strange to me that in the USA in colleges people actually sleep in the same room in dorms, I'm used to the UK version where everyone has their own bedroom and privacy (we specifically distinguish between 'roommate' and 'house/flatmate').
I shared a flat with 8 people, a mix of guys and girls, when I was in my first year of university, and we nearly all shared a house together in 2nd year (a couple of changes but there were ten of us in a house then), again a male/female mix, about 50/50. In general it was alright and there was never any awkwardness, though the girls had their own kitchen, the guys had one, and I was lucky enough to have a kitchen and lounge area all to myself as it was a basement flat the house was built on a hill so it was more like the ground floor and windows and everything) connected by stairs to the main house. I was the only person there who ever kept anything clean and tidy, in my own space, and the rest of the house was infested with mice.
Third year, I moved out and shared a flat with two girls, one was a friend from the film-making society and the other was a friend of hers from their course. That was actually more enjoyable since everyone kept to themselves, we did do stuff together sometimes like nights out and such, but there was enough privacy and it was a lot quieter with them than the people I'd lived with before. The only problem was the walls were very thin, so when the girl in the room next to mine got herself a boyfriend, I learned very quickly that she was a screamer. It got to the point where every time he came round (and he was actually a decent guy by all accounts) I would grab my stuff and retreat to the lounge and just play Xbox until they were done :)
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Yeah I meant flatmate or housemate We just say roommate here
I've had 3 female room mates before. And their bathroom was a mess...
They all drink and have bfs so sometimes it gets kinda loud upstairs. And they're not even having sex...
They were lazy to take out the trash and wash the dishes. Even tho they cook the most crap.
Good part was that they were always on time with the rent.
I've had other friends with similar problems rooming with girls.
I prefer rooming with single guys. They're quiet and relatively tidy. Also the guys I roomed with don't drink so... You don't see a collection of bottles and cans in the apartment. Whenever I needed a drink I went over to one of my friend's place and ask him to make me something. He had a full bar in his room, but he's very simple. Just bourbon on rocks so I help him use up some of his other bubbly.
And believe me when you're in college I think starting a bottle and can collection is fairly easy and common.
That's entirely up to you and what you're comfortable with. People come in many different personalities and tendencies. Regardless of their sex/gender, you're going to have neat freaks, slobs, those that don't care to associate with you but share a space, those that are loud and those that are quiet. However, whichever way you go about it, I suggest getting a feel for any potential house/flat/roommates prior to moving in with them. I have a female house mate, but it was more of a way for me to make more money on the side, as she rents the other side of the house that I don't use.
It really just depends on your preference and comfort level. I personally prefer to have a female roommate because most guys are slobs. The military taught me to keep everything clean. However, with you being female, do you really want to deal with other females and their attitudes? There are pros and cons to both. Make yourself a list of pros and cons for both and decide that way.
I had 3 female house mates in 2 of those cases I made the mistake of getting involved, it ended badly and I lost room mates, in one case someone who was really a good friend, I dont think it matters, as far as gender goes, but in the case of my third roomie who was both a red head and very attractive, I made it clear that our relationship would remain strictly that of room mates, ( I felt like"i was really sounding full of myself) she quickly Agreednd said she was trying to figure out how to say it herself).
Over all il say go live with someone that is the same sex as you, it makes things easier If its times or feelings, and there is more likelihood that you have something in common that really helps on the start, and where you live you want someone you can really connect with as its your home
I have a female roommate, but me and the guys knew her for 5 years before she moved with us. She is a pretty great roommate, she doesn't complain and is very chill.
I would suggest if this is your first time moving out, to get girl roommates who you trust or know. Not some randoms. Also dont move in with random guys.
As someone with broad experience living with people id say female. They clean up more after themselves whereas some guys never do it at all. The cleanliness of a place settles in your subconcious even if you think you dont care and affects your long term mood. Other than that its hard to generalize it based on gender.
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Well, I guess it's hard to say by genders. I've lived with a male roommate who was a completely stranger to me. He was a busy student, so we always were only be in the same room at around 12:00 am - 6:30 am. We had some small quarrels due to my own stupidity and his short-temper. But, overall, It was a really nice and fun experience to me as I used to have someone talk with or make fun of at night during that time staying with him. I guess either one will be fine as long as they won't cross the line (Unless you'd like to have something spark between you and your roommate : P) and their personality is favorable to you, yourselves. It would be the best if either one have similar hobbies as you or is willing to listen to you and accept you as who you are. So, perhaps talk to your potential roommate (s) awhile before moving in if it's possible. Wish you the best luck getting a good roommate.
My mom always told me that two women can only live together if they were raised together ( personally I have found this to be true). Women are naturally territorial and it can lead to conflict.
I lived with 2 of my guy friends before. It was easy for me because I didn't have to worry about sexual tension. I shared a room with a gay guy, and I'm a lesbo. I wouldn't have been able to do the same with my female friends.
I'd recommend going for more than 1 other person. My first place away from my parents there was 6 of us, all total strangers. It's better because there's a higher chance you'll like at least one of them, also its generally cheaper for rent.
I have had experience with both but depends on the person really. Overall a female. I get along with since I like a tidy place too. Other male roommate of mine left shit everywhere he could. Would eat food I bought. Etc.
I’ve lived with both. And experienced both to be equally good and horrendous. Though I’d much rather live with guys because because they don’t leave a bunch of clothes and shoes all over the house.
Neither, it is more a matter of how you get along with them. If they are unwilling to compromise and understand your differences and try to fix them you will argue lot or feel like they are a burden.
Personally, I think it would be a very beneficial experience for me to have a female roommate. I would no longer be quite so clueless around girls and perhaps possibly maybe begin to somehow understand their actions. (I’m talking about those random squeeze and dances)
You being a female and you are moving out of your house, when it's going to be your first experience stay with someone who knows what a person you are also who knows what are the needs requirements and habits of a usual female
2 girls will definitely know each other nicely then 1 guys in the beginning
Lived with mostly girls (one guy) for four years now, and never been an issue. We're quite a quiet and friendly bunch though, so there's only been issues when one housemate has taken things too far with wanting to do the cleaning or something that affects everyone else and causes stress
Girls, i like my privacy. Even though in my current dorm which houses 6 of us is open to every male on the 3rd floor and they’re always here which is annoying asf
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