Today is my birthday and I wanted to ask something fun yet insightful for a change-
As you get older, does your birthday make you feel better or worse about yourself, affect how old or young you feel, or make you reflect on how your life is going? Or does your birthday leave you feeling depressed?
For those of you that are my age or older, feel free to share some words of insight that you have learned over the years or think someone in their mid 30s should know.
Or you can share a random birthday meme with me! I'm just looking for some fun and laughs today :)
I am 35 years old and honestly? I feel good! I'm in great shape and health, and not to brag but I look better now than I did in my 20s. Plus I have my job, good friends and family supporting me every day. To celebrate my birthday, this morning I jogged 5 miles, jump roped, AND did a full body strength training session for an hour... and I didn't die! 💪
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It's also @gandolph3 birthday today as well! Feel free to wish him a happy birthday too, along with anyone else that has a July birthday on here.
Also, thank you to everyone that sent me birthday wishes. Y'all are so sweet~
Getting older is not for the faint of heart, ... but what's the alternative? An unfortunate early death? -- Certain aspects of aging are quite frankly, terrifying and disgusting and frighten me continually. I've witnessed steep rapid declines and slow protracted gradual declines, with benefits and drawbacks to both -- but all ending up at the same outcome. I think the world gets stranger and more bizarre the older you get, plus time speeds WAY the fuck up with each year, but an interesting thing you gain is PERSPECTIVE. I wouldn't say 'wisdom' per se, as many say, because most don't gain that. They just carry forward their opinions, skewed world view and erroneous ideas about stuff, with them into old age. Their own personal world-view-outlook that crystallizes and locks in place somewhere around early 30s +/- and for the most part, doesn't get a shake-up or pried from their brain, unless you have KIDS, which will of course bridge the generation gap and keep you more 'with it' compared to someone who doesn't interact with youngsters. But perspective is something younger people can conceptualize and 'logically' understand, but to fully embrace it and grow from it, I'm pretty sure one can only experience it themselves, and it's very individual and personal, and can only be attained through one means; becoming old enough. You kinda have to earn it, in order to reflect on things, beliefs, actions, ideas, and view things through the prism of time, to see them in a different light, and to be able to appreciate the new understanding. Perspective has made me more patient in general, more forgiving and tolerant, and yet at the same time less willing to tolerate people's bullshit, and far more carefree and willing to call shit out and speak up, and be direct. Other than that, it feels like I've hit a slippery oil slick at 25 and am hurtling toward a black hole or the grave at an increasingly fast rate. LOL
"I think the world gets stranger and more bizarre the older you get, plus time speeds WAY the fuck up with each year, but an interesting thing you gain is PERSPECTIVE." Yes, exactly! I feel like time is going so much faster the older I get! Yet when I was younger, time went by so slow: I guess because we were in such a hurry to grow up-
Oh I how miss those days now! Haha. Perspective seems to be something that (ideally) gets better with age and experience- at least for some people. I know some people that no matter how old they get, they will never gain a well rounded perspective on life.
Yep, you're welcome. It's true about the time thing -- each year seemed like an eternity... & Couldn't WAIT to grow up. Now you blink, and each year flies by -- Strange.
My birthdays make me feel good because I'm getting older, and getting closer to big points in my life that I'm really excited about. However, anytime I really think about my age and the point I'm at, I look at it alongside the little timeline I've outlined for the next bit of my life, and sometimes I start to feel a little anxious about whether I'm doing enough to stick to that, whether I'm making the right choices and moving at the right pace. I'm 19 (gag age is wrong). When I really think about it, it's scary that my high school and teenage days are behind me, all those chances to fall in love with a childhood best friend or do dumb teenager stuff or whatever. Another thing that makes me anxious is like "scouting out" cute guys in public. As a teen, it was smooth sailing because everyone was either my age or older (in which case it was on them to decide I was too young) and so basically anyone was fair game? Not that I really acted on anything much. But now the 16 year olds look the same as 20 year olds to me and now it's my job to tell how old someone is and I can't, and although this hasn't actually been a problem for me, it's kind of a little nagging anxiety and so I stick to people I know are in college.
So yeah, it's fun until I think about it in perspective to my life. According to my timeline I'm supposed to meet/be with the guy I'm gonna marry either this year or next (in two years would work but that's really pushing it) (anyways I might already be on track with that one we just have to see) and so it's tough to think about what if I mess up and throw everything off.
Oh you're 19! Enjoy it, you're in for a roller coaster the next few years of your life! Growing up is mostly a lot of trial and error... LOTS of trial and error! I did some stupid crap around your age, and it taught me what I shouldn't do as I got older
As for dating? Yeah it gets worse, sorry to tell you that, lol. College is going to make meeting guys a lot easier since you will probably see and be around some your own age range in your classes and around campus- though be warned, there are older guys (30s and up) that attend college as well, so it still might be hard to tell someone's exact age without asking them.
But seriously, enjoy your life! There is no set "timeline" for when you need to do x, y, or z... you just do the best you can and let things fall into place over time :)
Well, I'm young yet, so I don't know how much this counts, but I take a pretty contemplative approach: I think of all the things I've overcome: all the struggles I've had and won, all the trials and tribulations I've endured. I ask how I've changed the world, and how the world has changed me, where I've succeeded and failed, what I want to do next and what ideas I should probably decide aren't going to happen. I think of the people I've gained and lost, and the people who've gained me.
Then I head into a dark room, put on a pair of headphones, and listen to all nine of Beethoven's symphonies in a row (this takes a while; sometimes I do it on a different day). Hearing how they build on each other is always a powerful experience for me, and while it probably wouldn't be the same for people who don't like Classical music, it also serves as a handy test, in that if you listen to the whole buildup, all the way to the ninth, and can hear that crashing second chorus without leaping to your feet, hands in the air and banging your head as you shout along in gibberish German, you have no soul.
Then I go out and do whatever I feel like, because after that, nothing can stop me.
You're young but wise- interesting~ That's a mature approach to look at getting older Namer. Heck, even I didn't do that when I was your age! I especially find it interesting how you contemplate your life and its effects on you; I really need to do that myself.
Thank you for sharing your insight! You really made me think a bit~
Happy birthday 🎂!!! I hope you have a great day!!!
Feeling older is surreal. You realize that the 90s are the new 60s and you are starting to hear your songs on middle age targeted medication commercials 😂
It's the moment when you realise you are a placeholder in life. That you are officially an older person to teenage standards and that helps you to wake up and realize the age placeholders ahead
Thank you @Jjpayne! Those memes put a smile on my face (I think you're the only person to post any so far, haha).
You are so right. The 90s feels like a memory to me now: those in my opinion, were the good, carefree years! Now my nephews consider me like their mom (uncool) and kids are calling me Ms and ma'am because I am "old" to them, LOL
Each birthday I have makes me feel better, so many people I knew aren't around anymore. That used to make me feel sad, but it's like a fast version of highlander, also you're only a year older than I am. They're just anniversary's of trips around the sun.
Ditto, getting older doesn't have to be bad, only if you look at it that way, I may have longer to recover from hangovers when I drink, but with skin starting to sag, my manly bits look bigger than they did at 20 hahaha! Glass half full
I was fighting with this issue for awhile. Still am I guess.
But I watched the new Jumanji movie yesterday. With the Rock and Kevin Hart. But it also stars Danny Devitto. In it Danny mentions that "getting older is a gift". You have to watch the movie to get it more tho. Sorry no spoilers allowed here.
But even hearing that... I think about how yes, I like being older cause I keep learning things. BUT... I want to be/stay younger so I can apply what I have learned. Hence the contradiction.
"Getting older is a gift" Indeed it is. Better to get older and experience all life has to offer, than to die young and not have experienced much at all.
And yeah I know what you mean: I wish I could go back in time and knock some sense and knowledge into my younger self from the experience I've gained with age and growth. Yet would I want to be young forever? Probably not
I heard many calling me (Old Man) i will turn 36 in July, i have some white lines in my beard and am not hiding any of it plus am bald. The 36 year old me looks better than the 26 year old me. I feel good, i have a better job, better, salary, better health and body, i have a house, i have a garden full with greens and fruits that i harvest almost everyday for the last 6 weeks and this will be going on for the next 3 months (hoping) I feel good, i look good for my age, and am achieving more than i used to do when i was 26. I know better, i read more and am more relaxed, happier and am an uncle to 2 years old none sleeping machine nephew, am looking forward to be 40. I might take a luxury trip with the wife to a winery farm in Italy. The young kids can see what ever they want, it's just matter of time and they will be walking in our shoes.
I tell the kids today ( they're all kids to me lol ) To keep on living. One day, they will be just as we are today. And you, you are nowhere old! Older yes, but never old!
@Jaximus-Lion I really needed to hear that: thank you sir. It's really encouraging that several of us on here are not only aging gracefully, but embracing it and not trying to act younger, or revert back to our younger years (like people that have midlife crises).
I am similar to you: in my 20s, I was overweight, out of shape, not exactly the most attractive looking, and my life was a mess. But now life feels... right. Not perfect, but stable. I have a good job, I've lost weight and in great shape- better than I was in my 20s for sure! And I know what I want in life and work to attain it. Yes, I have some grey hairs as well, but I'm not trying to hide or dye them anytime soon; I just tell people they reflect my wisdom.
You keep living an awesome life Jaximus! We'll show these young folks on here what happens when you get to our age and have your lives in order. We lead happy, relaxed, fulfilling lives~
@ThongQueenFlirt Yes, exactly! I tell my nephews, and some of the younger people on here to just keep on living. They mock us or think we're so old, or think it's so terrible to turn 30, 40, and up. But no, age is only what you make of it. Most of us adults are living well rounded, happier lives than we did when we were their ages.
I think I had one ‘moment’ when I was about 38. I suddenly realised time was passing quickly, and my children were growing up. I thought about mortality and all that stuff fir about a day. It was pretty intense.
Since then, it’s been fine. I didn’t care when I hit 40. As far as birthdays go, they are boring. They don’t seem to be very important and I don’t care how old I am.
I’m 47. Look 30’s (someone said they thought I was late 20’s!!). I’m fitter now than when I was 20. I run 5k every few days, indoor row and weight train to condition. I do it to help maintain the spinal arthritis I’ve had since I was 22. As long as I move and stay flexible, my pain levels are bearable.
You will gain so much more confidence as you age. It really is wonderful! Do what you want, dress as you like and get on with life x
Awesome! Another fit, active woman living her best life! I'm the same as you: I'm way more active now than I was in my 20s... and I hope to keep that way. I started doing so to lose weight, but now it's more of an addictive (and to keep off said weight so I don't gain it back). I do ache and get sore; who doesn't? But I refuse to let little things slow me down!
So your moment hit you in your late 30s? Huh. But you kept on going. It seems like the older you get life seems to get easier, at least in some aspects. And YES! I love that I am more confident than I was in my 20s, and it's so much easier to speak my mind now compared to when I was younger; it's a good feeling.
For me, I'm proud to be old. (My mental age is an old soul anyways.) I would like to look more sophisticated, respectable and be looked up as a role model to follow.
I feel more confident to speak up my mind and share my opinion. Having been around some immature adults who have different lifestyles, flawed values made me doubt myself a lot. Now, I've grown older and been able to distinguish what the social norms should be like. I don't listen to ones who will always drag me down to their level because I am a "good" person and disagree with their twisted morals anymore.
Thank you @el_Te_de_la_Rosa! It's a pleasure to know you as well! Gosh I feel so special seeing awesome people like you replying to my post and wishing me a happy birthday :)
You're an old soul as well? I'm really not surprised after reading some of your replies on here. I've been told I have an old soul as well- which to me is a good thing. But on the downside, it made forming friendships, especially when I was younger, a bit harder since you tend to be more mature than those your own age.
I think you're already on the right path in terms of being a rolemodel, particularly on here. You give good, respectful advice, and have a good head on your shoulders.
I think that's one thing I love about getting older: like yourself I feel way more confident sharing my mind without fear of what others will say or do! When I was younger, I used to hold back my opinions or thoughts because I wasn't sure what others would say or think. But after I hit...30? I don't care. I speak my mind (in a mature, respectful manner but I am candid) and accept the consequences- be it good or bad.
I'm glad to have known you too! Cheers to us wonderful women aging with grace~
I myself tend to be on the negative side. It's not the days where I was in high school waiting to be 18 so I could drink legally. Every year I get older now makes me regret things I could have done differently in the past and time I've wasted. I'm only 26, but I'm definitely insecure about my current state in life. It's hard for me to focus on the good things I have. I have a kind, intelligent and supportive girlfriend that has great chemistry with me. I have a loving family that doesn't pressure me and just wants me to be happy. But financially and education wise, I'm a mess. I really dwell on those thoughts a lot.
You sound as cynical as I am and you're only 26! Haha It sounds like you have a good support system: family and a girlfriend that genuinely wants what's best for you. Now you just need to figure out how to stop being so insecure about yourself: that's something no one can do but yourself.
Yeah, we all have regrets; I'm not going to waste your time listing all mine but trust me, I got a lot. But I try not to dwell on them because that makes me feel worse and holds me back from progressing to better things.
I know it's easier said than done, but try not to dwell on the negative and focus on the positive. Use that to better yourself and DO better than you did in the past.
Glad to know your doing well and is happy with your life overall. You are doing something right. However for me, I say it gets a bit depressing after a while. Ever since I have suffered a lot when it came around it, it doesn't become a happy time for me. Now that I don't have my close loved one around like my late mom, and those who died, it's not the same. I just try. Right now, I am basically working around that and focusing on my education and life. Keep it up.
Thank you so much @btbc92! I know I haven't really talk to you, but I see and read your comments on here all the time and enjoy your worldly, insightful advice you give to others. You sure you're only 28- because you seem so mature for your age! (I mean that as a huge compliment)
I'm sorry your life has been depressing and rough at the moment. Especially when it comes to losing someone close to you like your mother; I know that cannot be easy for you. But you are a strong, intelligent woman; I know will get through this. Just keep focusing on your education and other priorities in life, they will act as a distraction to keep your mind preoccupied.
The way you were talking, I thought you was much older than what you are, I love my age. Will be 64 this September 2020. I don't feel old, look old or sound old. I'm always told I sound and look to be in my late 30s, early 40s. And when I tell them my age, they think I'm lying. As I said earlier about loving my age, I just don't like what comes with it. The ache, pain and Uncle Aurther. I don't feel old. Take my 63 and flip it around you get 36! You're as old as you feel, or young as you feel. I don't feel old. In fact, the young men I keep around me are MUCH younger. From 38 to 55. I've never dated older than myself. I did try once, but old men don't do anything for me as being attracted to them. Made me think I was dating my father. So getting older is how you take or make it.
You ma'am are living a wonderful life by the sounds of it- you still have men after you at 63? Wow. You will have to share your wisdom with us young ladies on how you do it! Haha.
You are so right; you really are as young (or old) as you feel! I feel...35. Which I consider to be a compliment to have made it this far in my life and am doing as well as I am. I know other people my age that look and feel terrible because they didn't take care of themselves and their health when they were in their 20s and now they are paying for it.
"The way you were talking, I thought you was much older than what you are..." I will take that as a compliment; thank you! I've been told I have an "old soul" so that is probably why I come off as sounding older than I appear to be.
more experienced and knowledgeable. I have noticed a lot of women do you like older men. why do you think that is? cuz men get more distinguished with age and their knowledge about other things, really doesn't for the women. let's just say you get some 18 year old kid giving his girlfriend head, it's kind of like giving a kid a power saw and a piece of wood and tell him to make a piece of furniture. that shit ain't going to happen. you get the older gentleman, and give them the same material, he might make a Chippendale chair! words of wisdom.
" I have noticed a lot of women do you like older men." Haha, yes some of us do! Even when I was in my 20s, I would have loved to have dated an older guy, you know one in his 30s or 40s. With age comes wisdom- at least that's the case for most of us; I can't speak for everyone!
But yes, at least as we get older, we get more experience and knowledge- make sure you use it properly!
Happy Birthday! I spent mine in lockdown this year but it was fine, I tend to enjoy other peoples more than mine to be fair, I'm not a centre of attention guy so I'd rather be invited to the party than being the reason for the party! My last Birthday I seriously celebrated was on Holiday with friends in Boston (i'm from a sleepy village in the UK so it was a change of scenery to say the least lol) ... woke up and went to get a coffee in my hotel was met with champagne by the hotel staff and the day pretty much carried on in the same vein...24 hours later I was in New York... No sleep, a 4 hour train journey and plenty of booze inbetween! It's been much more mundane since then! lol
Yeah, same. While I appreciate all the words from friends, family and everyone on here, trust me, I'm very low key on my birthday. I basically spent the day relaxing and keeping to myself, other than going out to get some dinner for myself.
It sounds like your last big birthday party was quite the excitement! I cannot say I ever went all out like that before, lucky!
Awww, thanks mate, I know it's a long shot but if you need anymore boring story's then just invite me as a friend and you've got guaranteed disappointment! lol,
Older. I hate getting older. I want to stay forever young. Mostly because I didn't live a good life because I don't have money. Thus I am not ready to get older in life since I missed out on basically an entire normal standard life with freedom. Which is why I strive for eternal wealth (and hence why I am childfree). Some people call it greed. Some call it ambition. I call it pursuing my happiness.
It's not, that I get jealous when guys are having sex at 20 years of age. It's more about me not being able to escape a toxic kinda-north-korean environment as I am growing up.
Well sir, let me share some words of wisdom with you, and this is just my opinion:
You said you didn't have a good life when you were younger right? As you get older, you're wise enough to fix your mistakes, get money, and use what you learned to ideally have a better life. Yes, you age faster and may not be as young as you used to be, but now you can live the life YOU want to!
Enjoy it. And don't let those young twits at 20 having sex stress you out: yeah, they might come off as happy but they're not- No, really they're not. Otherwise, they wouldn't be gloating about how happy they are or how often they're getting laid. It's to fill a void they're missing in their sad, empty little lives.
Better than the alternative! (Think about it). I live in California. I am 60. I am fit and healthy (I take zero medication) and work out regularly. I'm told I look like I'm in my early 50s. Most of the women I date are in their early 40s. I have my job wired and its now easy and rewarding both personally and financially. I have zero debt , drive a nice car and own a nice place. The only negative is that when I got divorced 5 years ago she poisoned my daughter against me and I haven't seen her. Because she's 18 the courts cannot order it. Otherwise these are the best years ever! My family is long lived so I expect to cook on until at least the century mark. Seriously, your best years are ahead!
Woot! I love hearing from older, wiser people on here assuming me age gets better! That really does make me feel better :)
Minus losing your daughter, it sounds like life is going really well for you. I hope I get to live that kind of life once I hit 60: it sounds like a dream come true. Thank you for your input~
Belated HaPpY BiRtHdAy!!! Hope you has a beautiful day. :)
Well, I guess it makes me a bit nervous and bit down as things didn't workout the way expected, so I couldn't achieve the goals that I hoped I'd achieve at xyz age... But that feeling doesn't last long once my birthday is over or when I watch some inspirational videos of people achieving great things in their middle age or old age and then I'm like, life isn't over yet! I should try harder and my goals will fulfilled someday!
Thank you!!! And yes, I had a wonderful day. Still am actually because I got to eat lots of delicious grilled food today :)
That is understandable you would be nervous about getting older and trying to set goals for yourself. I was kind of that way when I was 28, 29. I heard about how "It all goes downhill once you turn 30!" So I was panicking about what I had or had not done, especially dating/relationship wise, it was a mess, lol.
But then I said to heck with it and just decided to go with the flow and live my life as is: and things seem to be going okay so far! With emphasis on "so far." LOL.
Just keep thinking about what you want to do with your life and goals you have and shoot for them- you can do it!!!
Good thing you’re thinking positive about yourself 🙂.
Me, I get sorta anxious at times. Cause I don’t like being reminded I’m aging. And yes, I reflect on my life on what I have and have not accomplished YET.
My family reminds me I accomplished life/learning skills. But to me, I haven’t accomplished relationship skills.
Thank you! I'm trying: that is one thing I have learned about getting older. If you don't stay positive about yourself, no one will. That and getting older isn't as bad as everyone assumes; you seem to be on the right path at least!
Oh you don't have any reason to get anxious- you're 30 right? You're at an awesome because you know why? You're past those awkward 20s. Now you know what you want in life, and can work towards achieving it.
You're still young!!! Don't let a number tell you otherwise- you have plenty of time to accomplish anything you want to: just do it! Don't let others, especially your family, weigh you down~
When I was younger I used to get super excited with my birthday, but now that I'm older I feel sad. Birthdays remind me that I'm not where I was supposed to be in life, I'm not who I was supposed be and I don't have what I was supposed to have. They make look back and think about what I've done and I what I still have to do. Mine is also in July.
Happy birthday @menina to you as well!!! When is your birthday? Don't stress over "where you're supposed to be..." You'll figure out it, I promise. When I was around your age, that's when I finally started to figure out things in life and stopped stressing over nonsense.
You need to sit down and just think about what you WANT out of life, and how you want to achieve it.
Well happy early birthday! You'll have to make a post on here or at least remind us so we can have a "gag" birthday party for you, haha.
Yeah I get what you're saying; that happened to me before- being in the wrong place at the wrong time. But! Eventually you'll wind up in the right place; it's just thinking things through and seeing where your next path leads you to.
I feel better, birthdays used to be about presents and parties when I was younger!
Now... birthdays are about celebrating life and a checkpoint of self reflection. To re-evaluate my priorities in life & to adjust my life goals. Presents are not as important because I’m an adult that works so I can buy my own stuff (although they are appreciated ).
I usually celebrate with a cake and dinner, and a gathering of whoever is available. Celebrate life. ☺️
"Now... birthdays are about celebrating life and a checkpoint of self reflection. To re-evaluate my priorities in life & to adjust my life goals." I could not have said it better myself: exactly! And I am noticing several others on here, including some of the younger users are starting to realize that concept as well. Birthdays aren't about gifts or partying hard: it's a celebration of your life and seeing where you are in life- not to mention doing your best to keep living.
@Aakash_Hangargi Thank you!!! I was telling someone earlier, I have received more birthday wishes from random strangers and people on here than in real life- that is somewhat special how people I have never met can be so sweet~
Right? You know it's bad when strangers are nicer than your own friends and family! LOL. I still think you guys are awesome, even you!!! It is hard to forget you~
Cancer squad checking in. Happy birthday! Mine is next Wednesday and I'm not looking forward to it. I remember when I couldn't wait for my birthday to come and now I couldn't care less. It makes me feel like I've accomplished so little and that my time's running out. Talk about living in a perpetual state of panic. It feels like yesterday I was turning 21 😥
Happy early birthday fellow Cancer! Haha, I used to be that way too; though I never experienced the whole, "My time is running out" panic. After I got out of college, got a job I liked, I was pretty content. I mostly worried about finding a relationship- which honestly I stopped stressing over after a while because it seemed like a moot point.
Just enjoy your birthday; don't let it stress you out!
Its just another day. Until i legit need a walker... then ill feel pretty old... i never say im young but everyone else tries to convince me otherwise which i think is odd but meh. To some degree i guess people percieve your age by your actions and abilities
Haha, I've noticed that too. Apparently the younger and healthier you look, it doesn't matter how old you are, people will consider you young. On the flipside, if you let yourself go, of course people are going to assume you're old.
But you're only in your 30s, I'm sorry to tell you this but you're far from old.
I'm mostly indifferent. I don't feel one way or the other until I try and do something athletic and then I'm reminded I'm on the decline. Bum shoulder, can't run as fast, can't jump as high, joints get sore afterwards. Lol Outside of that I still feel young.
Ooh, don't tell me that! Yeah there are definitely days when I'm exercising I feel age trying to slow me down but I refuse to go down without a fight dang it!!! I know I can't fight it forever, but I'm going to exercise and go hard as long as I am able to- and have icyhot to soak my joints in
Old question but I like it ! I am bitter sweet towards it. I mean I would say I want to stay in 20’s forever but I am male and I have a baby face making me look 18 at almost 27 years old. just finally are people starting to guess 19-20
So yea I want to stay forever young so every year I feel a little sad about getting older but it’s another year closer to looking like an adult (I HOPE)
I also battle with the scary thought of time slipping away though. I mean time really does fly and thinking back on such awesome memories feels great but then it’s scary because you realize you’ll never relive those times. They only exist due to memory.. it’s scary. Like seeing your parents age? That alone scares me. I don’t know, I’m not emotionally stage when it comes to time. I enjoy a lot of things in life, I look forward to a lot of things as well.. but hell at not even 30 years old there are some points in time I really miss. This is a loaded question lol
I turned 50 this year, during the lock down, and I'm not really concerned. It seems quite old but it's really not. I think the key is to accept the age you are. Actually, I didn't really like being young, 30s were stressful but now I've grown into myself. My body is still strong. 20s might have been more fun if I was as together as I am now. You don't feel different just because you're a certain age. It's more about where you head is at.
Mentally I feel good 😉... physically I feel some pain but not too bad.. birthday an excuse to enjoy a nice meal or treat myself... other than that it’s just a number
I don't look at birthdays as age because. I will never act my age. What ever that means I look at birthdays. As birthday cakes how many cakes have I had lol
It makes me feel happy (on the days leading up to my birthday) I turn 21 in a couple of days soo 😊 & ig a bit odd at times since i have a few friends a year or 2 younger than me
Happy birthday. The birthdays have faded in their appeal these days, but still nice to celebrate them. Glad you feel good at 35, 40 will sting a bit :)
I enjoy my birthday because it's all about me that day. But it's the worst feeling ever. When I turned 17, I felt so old and how did time flied. June, I turned 21 and I hate it I feel like I'm so old now and depressed because I wanted to be a big celebrity but then I realised I didn't had BRAINS when I was a teen. I hate myself for that. I wanna be 15 again. I'm too stupid and immature for this cunning world.
Getting older makes me anxious about my own expectations that I had 10 years ago so I don't like to count anymore. And I'm not the kind of people who love their birthday, it's a regular day for me. Happy birthday for you, it's nice that you're satisfied with how thing are. Enjoy your day
Well lucky for us both, we're still in our 30s, so we hopefully have a long way to go until we have to start worrying about our mortality and what's to come after we're gone.
I hope you wind up as happy and relaxed as I am :) I know it doesn't seem like it now, but I'll let you in on a secret: once you get to your 30s, life usually gets MUCH easier. Mostly because you should be stable and have a grasp on your life by then.
I have to say that because you're only a year younger than I am, otherwise that makes me old too, LOL. It's like they say: you're only as old as you feel. You should feel happy and energetic having kids to keep you going!
Happy birthday🎂 mine is in 28 days , I feel fine and go bicycle riding on the weekends for 15 miles but every birthday feels like another day and don’t really do anything I just wonder where have the years gone and how many more I have left
Woot, happy early birthday to you as well! :) Wow, you cycle 15 miles every weekend? That is awesome! I could never get into biking that much. Now running? Absolutely, haha.
I hope you live many more years and enjoy each day to the fullest~
Really? You're still young (Yes really, you are). You still have plenty of time to accomplish things you want to! You need to sit down, think about what you want to accomplish, even make a list if you want, and figure out how to attain it.
My life has been on hold for some years now. Many failed relationships so still single, I'm doing a degree but don't know what I'm going to do with it. I know I want to move out before I'm 30 (I'll be buying a house on my own so it's expensive) but that's about it. I have health conditions that get in the way of what I can do/achieve a little too.
It really is just a number- I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels that way! I used to stress over my birthday when I was in my 20s- mostly what my future would hold, but now? I'm just living my life and trying to enjoy it :)
Each birthday is one less that I have to do. One less tax return, one less property taxes and insurance, one less putting those stupid stickers on my license plate, one less holiday’s blah, one less clean the leaves, and one less shedding my skin.
Meanwhile when I turned 20 I just wanted to pig out on pizza and wear whatever made me look good to attract guys, LOL. But you go young man, I mean "adult" and show them who's boss!
I tend to feel anxious because I'm overthinking about the fact that I eventually want to build a family and I stress about finding someone too late to build a family.
You're still too young to be stressing out over that. When I was your age, I was trying to finish college, get my first job, and... well find a boyfriend- okay I see your point! Haha. But the more you stress about it, the harder it will be. Just focus on yourself and other aspects of your life first, then everything else will fall into place when it's time: love and family included~
Yeah, I know I'm overthinking and that there are other things I should prioritize like jobs for now but it's something that tends to be in the back of my mind a lot.
I'm probably the oldest person on this site, I feel like I'm 25 and would still like to have sex with women that age, (I've been told that compared to me females that age are still young) I still consider myself younger than I am... It's not great personally because you feel that your no longer attractive
I wanted to have some real investments by now, not so I am rich but so I am better off than just fetting by. Every time I seem to maje progress on something happens and I basically have to start over.
I understand, same here. While I have started working on saving more (retirement plan at my job, investing in a few stocks, and trying to keep an emergency savings account), I still feel like I could do more. My parents have been harping on me to start preparing now so when I get to be their age I won't have to work or stress over money. So I'm trying but... meh, it's hard.
Life is going to happen, you just need to start promising yourself to set aside a little money every payday or month- whatever works best for you. That way you can start working towards having some investments for the future.
It's very complicated. My mom is ill, she has artritis, and none of my syblings are willing to take my place. They worked for years in a foreign country, and came back home, due to the pamdemic. One of them think I don't want to work. Yeah, well, I certainly don't have the same urge to work as him. He has 2 child's, I have none, neither a partner, but I have my mom, and it's tough when you are a caregiver. I just ignore him.
I had really good plans of opening a serigraphy business, sadly, the political uneatability would make that business really unsafe for me and my family. I would likely be forced to produce political propaganda for the government, otherwise I would go jail, with false accusations.
The plan of opening a business is still there, only that the pandemic got me worried with it's future repercussions. Is not only the political scenario I am checking out, the pandemic is also something to think about, now. I gotta be careful with the type of business I wanna start, otherwise it would fail.
I see. That is complicated to say the least; I am sorry you have all that stress put on you, and you're still so young (at least to me!)
I hope I am not out of place for asking, but is there any means of your family hiring someone else to be your mother's caregiver? For example, here we have caregiver programs where if the family or person has medical insurance, or is able to pay, various companies send caregivers to sit and tend to said patient/client all day. This enables the family to go about their lives without stressing over being at home all day or not having someone to care for their loved ones.
I hope you are one day able to get your business open and going. but yes, with this pandemic, please be careful and choose when you open it carefully.
Unfortunately no, there isn't any program for that and is extremely difficult to find someone trustworthy for the responsability of taking care of my mother. My only option is a home business.
Well minus the sex, it sounds like you're doing well and staying healthy: good on you! I know it's hard without your wife around, but the important thing for you is to keep living your life to the fullest :)
I jokingly say that... I had two surgeries last year One in the summer to remove my appendix, the second was in mid December for hernia repair near my groin
I like to celebrate my Birthdays with my friends. I don't mind because I'm often told I look younger and I don't feel myself getting older to.
Although I recently turned 40 so I got my tits clamped for the first time which really made my age catch up to me. At least it didn't make them sag like I thought it would LOL.
YES! That is the kind of attitude to have: don't look at growing older as a bad thing, but as a way to thrive and conquer anything trying to stand in your way or defeat you from progressing.
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