Why is it so easy to cheat, but so difficult to remain loyal to one partner?

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Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

There have always been cheaters, but modern technology has made it ever so much easier to plan and get away with.

This is why I let my boyfriend go through my phone, I have nothing to hide from someone I are about. I know others would be against this, even to the person they love the most but it is my way of saying I'm loyal and that isn't going to change.

Sure there is other ways to cheat but I want to remove the easiest aspect of it, to help build trust. I hand him my phone all the time when I'm driving so he can look up stuff too, (We have different providers, sometimes I have service when he doesn't.) So I better be okay with that.

As for why they cheat, they don't talk enough and work out their issues, or maybe they think they do, but they don't really.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Accepted Answer

Err, I can't relate and hope I will continue to not relate to this.

From how I see it, it seems that those prone to cheat based on the question are not good at communicating with their partner what their concerns are. e. g., if they're unhappy, unfilled in the relationship, want to end things, intense insecurity. etc. so they retreat to betrayal.

SynthKobra · Accepted Answer

Because the mindset today is all about impulsivity, instant gratification, and deflecting accountability. We're about "short term experiences" instead of "long term fullfillment" which takes a lot more work and effort - two skills we are losing more and more as a cohesive society. It's a different time. It's a dark time. But you need to be the person you'd want to date. If it's meant to be, you will find someone. If not, it really isn't a big deal. There is so much to life. Live life.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

It's not, the reverse is true.

Most people are mentally imcompatible, and physical beauty standards are high.

So someone worth humping is rare af, and so if I were dating, and I found a match, I'd not waste time hunting down another match, because 1: i love the first one, and 2: finding a match is like a second job, only if the job took 10 to 20 fucking years.

How low are your compatibility standards that you would even begin to think otherwise?

Waldoe · Answer

it is GODS fault... men can get a different woman pregnant every week, and we try... women get pregnant and stay that way for 9 months followed by another few months of breast feeding and diaper changing, rarely thinking about sex... Men think about sex, even as their wife is in Labor and Pushing the baby out.. That was God's Plan... we are trapped in it, just like the women we love

VikingWarLord · Answer

Because Humans are NOT monogamous.
Humans are Primate Mammalians, which means we are "Polyamorous" by DEFAULT
Now... you can try to go against your NATURE, but most will FAIL.

Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan, you'll fully understand the world around you and human relationship dynamics and why relationships rarely ever work very long.

Anonymous · Answer

It isn’t. If you find yourself asking this question, you need to look deeply into your own life and find out what the issue is. Maybe you just don’t want to be in a committed relationship, or you have some kind of deeper problem. This isn’t a question that someone else can answer for you though.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Couldn't prove it by me! I've always been loyal. Too bad none of those broads were loyal to me!! And, if it was so easy to cheat, or get girls, why aren't I swimmin' in women? Why is it I don't even have ONE?

Nazgol · Answer

Because relationships require a lot of things to make it work. I see it similar to taking care of a baby or a car. But unfortunately it's hard to put in the work and some people don't want to.

DermalPunch · Answer

I think it is difficult to cheat. I can't even enjoy the thought of it since it's such a horrible thing to do.

NatashaEbony · Answer

It isn't difficult to stay loyal? Just keep you pants on

exitseven · Answer

This is not even a question. It is easy not to cheat. JUst make up your mind.

boggboss · Answer

One is a split moment thing the other is a life time

ladybug12670 · Answer

Core primal animalistic caveman instinct is to be non-monogamist. Monogamy is a social construct that is an unreasonable expectation. Having sexual interactions with another person does not mean you are not dearly in love with your partner.

dragoblack · Answer

It's not hard to stay loyal. The problem is no one wants to communicate without causing drama and being insecure

Anonymous · Answer

It is not difficult if you have a partner that is worth being with.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

People are psychologically trained to be disloyal due to sleeping around in their youth.

fonduegirl · Answer

Attractive / social / famous people have naturally more options. It's called paradox of choice, sweetheart.

SnakeBoop · Answer

its not if you have morals

Agape93 · Answer

It's not hard to be loyal.

Nigjt · Answer

U can be loyal to two Woman or what ever if that float's ur boat just like I am u just can't hide it from the beginning u need to be honest about it. God Bless

Guslove · Answer

As you get older it’s part of your life to remain loyal it never enters my mind anymore…

dustybiker · Answer

I would find it quite the opposite.

HighValue · Answer

Loyalty is easy when you have good morals.

Massageman · Answer

The sin nature of humans.

douride2 · Answer

I find being loyal very easy to do.

chulo1992 · Answer

Because variety is the spice of life.

In_Trance · Answer

it's not. I don't know where you came up with this

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Because you’re a sh*t person

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Its not that hard

Anonymous · Answer

That sounds like a you problem

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