Are you insecure or secure?

[TheMajesticKing777]

And if you are insecure, is it a personality trait insecurity or a physical appearance insecurity?

Physical appearance insecurity

Personality trait insecurity

I'm more secure than Fort Knox on veterans day

[HighlyVolatile]

I'm pretty sure. Not sure if it goes all the way to the C option. There are a few things that still make me lose confidence though. For example, if you give me a job where any small mistake I make can cause other people (not me) to get seriously injured or killed, I tend to become nervous and paranoid, wanting to double-check, triple-check, and quadruple-check everything. If it's just me that gets injured or dies as a result of my own mistakes, then I tend to be extremely confident.

[HighlyVolatile]

Err, I'm pretty [secure].

[HighlyVolatile]

Actually, I'm borderline reckless when it comes to things that only end up hurting me (socially, physically, emotionally). So I might be too secure there. But when it comes to things when something I do could inadvertently hurt someone innocent, that's when I become a bit nervous and sometimes even paranoid about making a mistake.

[TheMajesticKing777]

That's not insecurity tho, that's just not wanting to get people killed with a mistake, I wouldn't expect you to be so selfish that you wouldn't care about other people's lives, insecurity is more of a self esteem thing, how you feel about yourself, nothing to do with jobs lol

[HighlyVolatile]

I see! I'm kind of neutral on the self-esteem part. I don't love myself, don't hate myself -- I sort of accept the good with the bad. Most of the time I tend to think of confidence as to how much I'm afraid of failing at something. For example, I used to be a bit nervous about asking women out on a date when I started since I was afraid of being rejected. But then I got over that fear and so I stopped being nervous about asking women out.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I guess that makes sense in a way lol

[HighlyVolatile]

On the self-esteem part, I never struggled too much with it most of my life. The way I look at myself as well as other people is that I accept the things we can't change, and focus on the potential to improve the things I can. That combination of accepting what we can't change while seeing the potential in ourselves and others to improve always prevented me from working towards a state of hating myself or anyone else. I can get angry at myself sometimes, and angry at other people, but not for long and not to the point of loathing.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then I don't think you are insecure, maybe just careful in certain situations

[HighlyVolatile]

Perhaps so! I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie and thrill seeker and I think I overcame most of my fears by confronting them. Yet the one fear that persists for me is that something I do might one day get someone else hurt. I don't want to take that sort of burden on my conscience with me to the grave. It's maybe the one last ultimate fear I have left, but one I don't know how to overcome or if I even should try to overcome it.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well you have a brain, you should know what actions can effect others, it's really easy to know tbh

[HighlyVolatile]

It's more the accident than doing it on purpose that worries me sometimes. For example, making a mistake while driving and hurting someone else.

[TheMajesticKing777]

If it makes you feel better, you might still catch a case in that situation so justice is served? Lol

[HighlyVolatile]

Yeah, and I would welcome it if I did wrong, but it's harder to rehabilitate the conscience if I made such a mistake than it is to teach me how to minimize the chances of making the mistake a second time.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then just drive with awareness

[HighlyVolatile]

Well, I've actually never even gotten a speed ticket! I'm quite a safe driver. It doesn't guarantee that I won't ever make a mistake though, and maybe that's where the paranoia kicks in. One thing I've been contemplating is getting a motorcycle. With a motorcycle, I think my chances of hurting someone else become much slimmer if I make a mistake.

[TheMajesticKing777]

If you are a safe driver than the chances of someone actually getting hurt from your mistakes are low, the higher the speeds, the more fatal it is, the speed limit exists for a reason

[HighlyVolatile]

Yeah, driving is but one example though! I got lots of cases. As an example where I actually did end up hurting someone innocent by accident, I got in a brawl one time at a bar. And I hit the guy and he fell backward and crashed into a woman in a way that caused her to fall out of her chair. So I felt very bad about hurting the woman by accident that way. Fortunately, she wasn't too badly injured but I would have felt terrible if she was.

[HighlyVolatile]

I didn't feel bad about hurting the guy, of course, since he started the whole fight and grabbed my neck before I retaliated. But I didn't mean to knock him into that woman who was just an innocent bystander. So I'm often worried given my reckless nature (not when driving, but in some other areas, although driving is a HUGE responsibility) that I'm going to end up seriously injuring some innocent bystander one day.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well by thinking that way you are attracting it, if you are a cautious person then you should be thinking the opposite

[HighlyVolatile]

Yeah, it might not make sense but I'm not a cautious person typically (except in driving and a few areas where it's so obvious that a mistake I make will hurt someone else). I'm mostly reckless and a thrill-seeker, and I love to seek out risky situations. It's my passion to find risky situations, but risky for me. I want to pay the cost of my mistakes when I take huge risks and don't want the costs to bleed over to bystanders. Well, apologies for the ramble -- but I think that's the one way in which I'm still a bit insecure with myself. I love my reckless side but I do think there's a chance I might accidentally get someone else really hurt one day with it.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well if you know something is way over the line that it will effect others than that's one thing but mistakes happen and it's not like you are doing it intentionally, if the person doesn't file charges then there's no hard feelings lol

[MCheetah]

Physical appearance insecurity. My height, obviously. Being shorter than everyone. And my weight. And my face. And my skin tone. And pretty much 100% of my physical appearance. I don't own mirrors for a reason.

As far as personality goes, I'm about 85% secure. The only flaws there stem from my physical insecurities leaking into the personality.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You should work on your sauce game or go for Petite girls, luckily our world has plenty of Petite women, you gotta work with what you have and height itself isn't too big of a deal and weight isn't permanent, I was cubbies before and I lost weight, you just gotta work for it, you can't expect things to just fall out of the sky, count your calories and control the consumption of high carb foods or fattening foods, when you become physically fit, your height will be defeated by them gains 💪

[TheMajesticKing777]

Chubby*

[Msputiton]

I'm secure.
I was raised and taught and it was reinforced daily to love myself, and to understand i am perfect just the way i am

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty insecure. I always believe what people tell me about myself even when I know it isn't true.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well stop it then 😂

[Opinion Owner]

It's harrrddx!!!

[TheMajesticKing777]

I thought that was gonna work considering you listen to people so much 🤔

[TheMajesticKing777]

Do you at least believe the compliments as well?

[Opinion Owner]

Mmmm... ill fight u

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes XD

[TheMajesticKing777]

You can't I got this screen protecting me 😌🖕

And you should always listen to compliments, they are more accurate lol

[8Bit_LYNX]

I’m secure, both with physical & personality traits.

[Sasha_Gee]

I believe in myself, but I know I can do better.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Ever heard of the saying, if it's not broken, don't fix it

[Sasha_Gee]

I change that to if not broken, polish it

[TheMajesticKing777]

Not everything can he polished tho, you try polishing the wrong thing and you'll end up ruining it 😌

[Sasha_Gee]

I'm cautious!

[TheMajesticKing777]

I don't know how that changes anything, just cause you cautiously dropped a mento in Coca-Cola won't change the results 😂

[Sasha_Gee]

Well like that no 😂 the results would be catastrophic

[TheMajesticKing777]

My statement stands 🤣

[Sasha_Gee]

If you'd do something like the cola thing ya 😅

[TheMajesticKing777]

In my metaphor you are the Coca-Cola and your fixing is the mento but the thing is that if you want to add colorful mentos to the Coca-Cola then the results would be different, just don't mistakenly add the mint mentos thinking it's the fruity mentos, long story short don't modify your body with the wrong ideas thinking it's going to make you look better when it's actually making it look worse, for example choosing plastic surgery over a change of hairstyle can give terrible outcomes when a simple hairstyle is the colorful mento, the plastic surgery is the mint mento, I sound like some retard with these metaphors don't I?

[Sasha_Gee]

That is what I mean with caution though 🤔 be selective and careful with what you work on. Be reckless and it'll be a mentos instead of maybe an icecube to make the cola better 🤔

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then I was just blabbing for no reason, what a waste of perfectly good metaphors 🙃

[Sasha_Gee]

I got funny visuals in return so thank you 🙂

[TheMajesticKing777]

🙂👍