How insecure of a person are you? Also, are you surrounded by people who you think are insecure? ?

[Anonymous]

I think it is natural and not necessarily bad for a person to be insecure. Many a times, one can quite intelligently reason out why they are insecure and can convince themselves that they have good reason to be insecure. Now, can whatever reason they’re thinking of be an actually good reason, objectively speaking? Well, no, since I think all of this is quite subjective.

As for me I’ve grown to not be insecure over anything. It is quite liberating and freeing to just accept what you can’t change and do your best to improve whatever it is you can change for the better. To me, finding this deep understanding has created immense peace and tranquility in me to where I don’t need to show off, brag, etc. If I do, those who know me find it completely out of character for me and laugh alongside me. Simply put, I do not care if someone else is better than me in anything. I’ll always try to improve and have a healthy rivalry or competitive nature against someone in something I care about or passionate in, but I’ll always keep it detached from me in a way, so that whatever the outcome I am still going to be happy either way. Yes, it is nice to win of course and I always make the effort, but even if I do not then I always give praise and kudos to the person that beat me. Always. I always uplift and congratulate friends of mine for their accomplishments even if they eclipse mines. I tell them, “you can do better than me and should.” I root for them and help them on this journey. For ME, this makes me happy—to help others in meaningful ways.

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I am surrounded by several people who I think are quite insecure.

•A buddy of mine showed himself performing oral on a woman and has frequently gone out into the city to have sex with a variety of women, many of whom are most likely hookers or have sex for money. There’s this need to exaggerate his outgoing persona and need to compensate for something. Perhaps to convince himself, others, or both.

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•Another dude, my boss has this “alpha” centric personality. I think he tries too hard to come off this way because there’s some issue with his manhood in his mind. He mentioned walking a certain way to come off as “alpha” when playing a sport against another team. Also, he has this confrontational personality and calls people and things “pussy” frequently.

It’s annoying & tiring. I actually don’t like being around him for however long. I try to avoid him at all costs.

[OlderAndWiser]

My mother is riddled with insecurities which come from growing up in the depression and living in a house in the woods with no electricity or running water. She had a poor family and their focus was entirely on survival. She viewed herself as coming from the underbelly of life, wrong sde of the railroad tracks, etc. She did nothing to instill any confidence in me and that has been one of my largest battles during my adult years.

[KAT247]

Id say im secure for the most part. Only people who im close with can make me feel insecure. Actually I wouldn’t say they would be the ones making me feel that way. It’s what I let myself feel.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say I’m 4% insecure and 96% confident.

[OddBeMe]

Why? What have you heard? I’m not insecure. But tell me what everyone is saying about me!