It’s all a journey to an end goal. set back is an obstruction in the way on the path I’m taking along my journey To the goal. So of course it’s part of the journey but It could have been completed faster. So my question is , how important is speed on you’re journey. Are you purposefully taking the scenic route. Or is there a deadline? Or Planned itinerary? For me all journey cuz we all end up with the same ending. We’ll die. Never really know when or how but we wake up the next day and its just another setback to that final goal.
That's a beautiful way to look at it. I don't look at what is the fastest way possible, I never have. I just look at growth, if I came out stronger than before in the end, no matter the outcome. Would you say that the only journey we have is that that is life?
Most big achievements are going to come with failures and setbacks and obstacles - that's normal and to be expected. You often learn more from your failures than from your successes, and early failures can save you from larger ones later down the line.
Successful people all understand this, which is why they don't give up. They understand that failures are an expected part of the path to overall success, and while you should strive to avoid failures, all achievements require some level of risk to be taken, and when you risk, you will sometimes lose.
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Option A: Something in the way of my goal. Sorry, but I'm not that optimistic and I've had WAY too many setbacks and bad luck situations in life to just call them "happy accidents." Life is not some big cosmic pre-ordinated set of events determined to make you who you are. The galaxies and stars and planets make operate by an orderly rotation, but MOST of the universe is random, chaotic, crazy, dark, empty, and you can't see any of it coming. When something bad happens to you, it isn't "fate." It's just more random bullsh*t in a dark cold empty universe.
That's okay. I found it really interesting to think about and the opinions are pretty divided which made this question well worth it. I love to hear about people's point of view on these things.
There are obstacles, and there are challenges. Obstacles prevent forward movement, while challenges are to be overcome and strengthen ourselves. Obstacles hold us back, while facing and overcoming challenges builds our self-esteem. How we label the situation becomes our reality and determines our effort and outcome. We're more likely to appreciate the results when we view encounters on our journey as challenges.
Once again, it's only a word we use as a label, but that label can often set up self-fulfilling prophesies. For instance, if you feel you are unattractive, nothing anyone else says will change that belief, so you'll assume anyone who chooses to be with you is either settling or using you. There are many common words or actions that often result in reactions we don't like, yet we continue to use them just because they are familiar. People who run what may be called an obstacle course generally see the course as challenging, not impassable.
Sorry I was being cheeky. But with the obstacle course as an example. I have mostly seen obstacles and challenges as linked. The challenge to face and overcome said obstacle, being part of that self growth. Would you say that in a depression an obstacle would 'change into' a challenge if they get out of it? The person in a depression probably did not think it possible at first, but it eventually happened.
No problem. A challenge is something we face and address, not something that happens to work out on its own. When we label something as an obstacle, that often lowers our motivation to take action. A common challenge is understanding people when they use the same words to describe totally different things. For instance, you may see a lift as an elevator, while others may view it as a surgical procedure.
There was a newlywed couple who had been married a whole month. The wife went up to her husband and said, "I'm so happy I married you. I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. There is just one little thing. I'd like to see a little more love in our relationship." His response was "You've got to be kidding. We're already making love 6 times a day. You're going to kill me." It doesn't appear both define "love" the same way. Always makes sure you are defining words the same, or conversations won't make any sense.
As one pulls out of depression, there is generally more motivation to take action. Sometimes that's facing issues. Other times, the result is less than ideal. Though depression is most prevalent at the end of the year, suicides are most common in the spring, when people are coming out of depression and have the energy to take action... not wanting to ever return to that depressed state again.
I see setbacks like scientists see mishapa failure, it's not even so much that it's a mishap or a failure but it is one way that you've seen something is not going to work and gives you the ability to try something different to make sure that it is accomplished. So setbacks and set you back what they should do is sit you down for a second allow you to recollect your thoughts and then attack again.
There's different kinds of setbacks, most are detours in your path, some are walls you mush forcably push through. But they all are opportunities for growth.
I meticulously plan for everything I can imagine in the way of a goal, so when I do hit a setback it can be more frustrating than it probably should be.
I really like this opinion. Would you still say that it is in the way if you learned from the setback and are now more succesful after reaching the goal than if you had not made that mistake?
It depends on the kind of setback, honestly. In some cases it's a part of the journey, like a steep hike or a fallen rock to overcome to get to the top of the mountain.
I've said many times I have 2 speeds 100mph and STOP. 🤣 When I have a goal in mind I'm like a dog with a tennis ball I won't let go until I reach it. Or until it's soundly proven to me it's unachievable.
Operating in stressful situations was my life. It's dealing with the aftermath of the extreme stress afterwards... that's the challenge. But I'm doing pretty well
We learn best from our mistakes. That's why today's youth are getting a bum rap with "participation trophies", where everyone wins and no one makes any mistakes.. God help them later in life.
No it's not, I asked this question just because I was hoping to get mixed opinions on it. The results show how differently people look at it and I find it really interesting so no it's not bad. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Yeah I think hindsight is always 20/20 but I've always been a destination type of person over the journey. So if its in my way I always just want it out of my way I guess
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