Yes, even when I was much younger, I wished I could turn off not only my feelings but also get memories erased. I still wish I could do them both and more. I have been through hell and returned so many times, the feelings that I thought were gone somehow find their way back to the top which by no means causes happiness in my life nowadays. Getting caught up watching shows like 'Vampire Diaries', 'The Originals' and even ' Legacies' as I watched certain characters turn their feelings off sometimes even erasing someone's memories, so they won't remember what happened to them or someone else. Yes, it's all made-up, it's difficult for me at times to actually tell anyone at all how I feel about them. Even my close male friend, it's not like I am "in love" with him, because I've had my feelings hurt way too many times to say anything especially to someone I am involved with. So, I open up mouth and insert foot by saying I love you, but I'm not in love with you. I get no response back except maybe that he also cares about me or the one that gets under my skin: "I like you a lot". I love the guy for who he is that plus the fact he stood by me after I was sexually assaulted back in June 2013, he's still a close friend. However, I want to turn off my true feelings about him because I know he won't say them back to me. Heartbreaking? Yes
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No, because feelings, good and bad are part of life, and noone or nothing is worth giving up that part of life... More give up the people you have feelings for that don't have feelings for you... Love yourself first, don't waste feelings on people that aren't worth it... Time is precious, and time is something noone is promised, wasted time is something we can't get back, but we can choose not to waste anymore..
I did once. I was going through a hard time and I shut down emotionally to stop the pain. I put up emotional wall after emotional wall and isolated myself emotionally. I became numb. It turned out that when I shut down like that, not only could I no longer feel emotional pain, but I could no longer feel joy or love either. I couldn’t feel anything. Over time, as this set in, it made me feel dead inside. Then, I wanted to feel again. I wanted to be able to cry. I wanted to be able to feel… Anything. It took several years to regain my ability to feel emotion like I used to.
I can feel again now. But, I’ll never take feeling for granted again. I learned it the hard way. I learned that we can’t numb ourselves to a single emotion. When we numb ourselves, we numb ourselves to every emotion in the process. It’s either we feel everything or we feel nothing. And, I think it’s better to feel something.
When I was a kid (17~) and was going through depression (year 2/8) I used to wish that too.
Then it happened. And I just sat there.. blank in apathy.
That's when I realised no matter how bad the feelings are it won't be as grey and dull as feeling nothing.
The greatest pain is more beautiful than a colorless, cold Point of view into nothingness. We feel because we care and caring is beautiful.
I also realized that when it is the worst and you don't feel like going on anymore, then if you have nothing to lose but twisted pride, there's also no point in not trying despite feeling like shit. What are more emarrasment, hate and pain when it already feelis like spilling over and bursting out of your chest. Really, when I hated myself the most I used that hate to try my best because I deserved the torture of failing until I learned.
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No to be honest with you I used to run from my feelings because I never understood them for a long time
now I want to feel everything and no I don't want to shut them off I don't want to run from them I don't want to change them by doing stupid things I want to feel what I'm supposed to feel and deeper and if you're talking about anger usually when we have anger no matter what it's our fault because somehow whatever happened we were a part of it we gave the okay for something or we weren't paying attention or just anything we're the only people we can be angry at and we're the only ones that control what we want to feel because anger comes from the inside and we're the only person in there that can shut it off or turn it onNope. As someone who has dealt with depression in the past, heart breaks, lost friends and family members? I wouldn’t give it up. The pain turns into strength if you let it teach you, especially the emotional ones. Being human and having emotions and feelings gives life color, music it’s special feeling, etc.
Sure sometimes our feelings can be so heavy and overbearing but with therapy/ proper support from loved ones, we can move forward with the painYes. I wish I didn't desire women, love, relationships, or sex. I wish I was asexual. I'd be infinitely more productive and intelligent if I didn't have this constant desire for love and relationships. I honestly despise it.
I know it’s not humanly possible but I feel like you can. Sometimes I just shut down or Don’t GAF about what people have to say or do. And just be like 😐
Don't need to. I can be cold as metal, almost robot-like. Turns out being an introvert is not so bad afterall.
Whatever your going through, time will heal it and help you get past it, take time for yourself and rest, you will get past this.
Sometimes I wish I could switch my feelings off for my crush but then again I get lost in sensations. I love how anonymous I am to express my love for him because it's so overwhelming. I like to see him smile 💕💕
I wish I could do the opposite sometimes. I remember feeling normal but now that's lost to me. Savor the feelings, even the shit ones
Nooo this ain't Vampire Diaries dont do it
yes. nearly all the time...
i let myself get hurt too easy.. i wear my emotions on my sleeveWhen I'm feeling terrible I always want to not feel. But at the end of the day I'm glad I do feel and am not like them appearing to turn on and off emotions so easily. There's a reason we feel to learn and be at peace with ourselves.
Hell YES !
EVERYDAY and towards everyone ! I'm so tired of being the only one who feels the things I feel. I want to feel loved and wanted EVERYDAY not just when it's good for themYeah. Talking about hopeless romance, I wish I could turn off what I am feeling towards someone before I get so infatuated when I know that my feelings for him would lead to nowhere but me being more infatuated.
That's when I go write or take a nap. It's human though.
I used to. Then I realised I'm as much about feelings as I am about logic. The emotional pain is part of who we are unfortunately.
For sure. I want to turn my anxiety, stress problems, and hyper sensitivity off. I'd be much healthier then.
I can... and I do. I met a girl, we hit it off. She was showing clear signs of attraction but then I discovered she was married so I don't go anywhere near her now... it's like she doesn't exist. That's how I do it anyway...
Yeah I feel you. I wish I could switch that off too.
Not at all. It’s taken me a long time to feel safe allowing myself to feel and express myself. No way am i giving that up.
Yes all the time. Because I tend to feel venerable a lot. But I get over it quickly
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