What can I do if I'm abnormally different?

[Anonymous]

I'm 18. Due to awful parenting, I was homeschooled, badly. Years that could've been spent developing my skills, social or otherwise, were wasted on the computer. I can't even clean up after myself.

I never learned any necessary skills, never really had any friends, and my first kiss and everything was extremely late at 17. Also, he broke up with me.

I'm going to a real high school for senior year, because I don't want to be alone, but I'm afraid it's too late and everyone will hate me anyway.

I wish I could be a kid with potential again, and I could push my stupid lazy parents to send me to a real school early. What can I do now? It feels like I'm completely screwed.

[Mynameisbobby]

Forget about what other people think and if they may hate you. Learn to love yourself for who you are. My mother and sister hated me for being a boy and punished me every day for it. Through years of therapy starting when I was 13 I've come along way. Maybe talk to a counselor and see if they can get you into a program where you can learn the social skills you lack. Don't give up on yourself I didn't give up on myself. It's hard work but you will be better for it. I'm sure you have plenty of potential.

[slatyb]

You are what? 18? You aren't completely screwed. Your life is just starting. Basic self-care skills like cooking, housekeeping, personal hygiene aren't hard to learn, especially now that there is a video for everything. And no, everyone won't hate you. Mostly they are too busy worrying about themselves to worry about you. What are your plans after high school? Are there other adults you can talk to besides your parents?

[Asker]

I have to go to a community college because I'm not very smart. Also, no, not really, my mom has a creepy friend who's willing to talk about that stuff, but I don't like her.

[slatyb]

"I'm not very smart" Hmmm... You can write clearly, so you are already ahead of many people starting community college. Do you have any aunts or uncles? Maybe a friend's parent?

[Asker]

Yeah, they're hard to talk to though. As for a friend's parent, not really. I only have 2 kinda friends and I don't really know one of their moms, and the other mom is also my mom's weird friend.

[Blackcosmo]

It's not too late and people won't hate you. As long as you're decent people won't just hate you. Get out there!

[crossdressingrihno]

If you want to succeed at socializing it’s better to start mallWent through something similar plus I’m autistic.
Your first goal should be joining a clique. Find some people with common interests talk to them about it pick up their mannerisms and try to keep up. If you want to succeed at socializing it’s better to start small And learn how to pick up their lingo.

[crossdressingrihno]

Sorry my Apple phone is really weird

[joeldalton]

You are a kid with potential. Shit, you're only 18. Go do your senior year. GET INVOLVED. Join clubs, if you're athletic, try out for sports teams. How can you not clean up after yourself? Like physically? You can't perform basic hygiene?

[Asker]

I can't keep up with taking full showers every day. I usually only wash in the sink, admittedly every day, but it's still not a shower Also, my room is constantly a mess because I can never find anywhere to put anything, and half my bed is full of stuff frequently. I'll probably be showering a lot more once the school year starts, though I still feel pathetic for not being able to keep up in the first place.

[joeldalton]

The hell you can't. Clean your room. Right now.

[slatyb]

@joeldalton I've been where the asker is. Comments like yours aren't helpful. Someone actually in her room with her kindly helping her organize, or just taking care of it would be helpful.

[joeldalton]

@slatyb I didn’t ask for your opinion. Sorry kid, you have to put your big boy pants on sometimes. Cleaning your room, making your bed, taking a shower are simple tasks that set the tone for your whole day. If you keep doing what you’re doing you’re gonna keep getting what you got.

[slatyb]

“I didn’t ask for your opinion” So what? It’s a public forum. Advice like that is not helpful to people who are suffering from depression.

[joeldalton]

@slatyb right, much better to let them wallow and get them on pharmaceuticals.

[Guy13]

Is your family religious?

[Asker]

No, just screwed me over because they were afraid of bullies, yet too lazy to make up for my lack of a real school.

[Guy13]

I got it. You are a very forthright and honest person. I like that !!! I bet you are interesting to hang out in person with. Plumbers, AC, and electricians make lots of money with two years of training. Consider it?

[Asker]

Kinda makes me sad, but I have considered taking a job like that. 42k a year isn't too bad for someone like me.

[Guy13]

My plumbers are making 90.00 hour plus. heat/ac same or more, electricians even more. 5000 week are common in my area..