If someone has Them/They pronouns, Can you still call them by the name they go by?

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IceCreamSandwich · Accepted Answer

Yes. Their name is a noun (proper noun). All names are nouns. Pronouns are the words you use as stand-ins when you don't want to repeat the noun again. You know how this works in practice I presume (Mary is 23, they play tennis, and they paint. Vs. Mary is 23, Mary plays tennis, and Mary paints.)

Also, they/them are 3rd person pronouns, like he/him and she/her. In English, 3rd person pronouns are the only pronouns that are gendered. So no matter their gender identity, you will still use 2nd person pronouns (eg: You look nice today, Mary. Your hat is cute.) and 1st person pronouns (eg: when portraying a character, "I am Mary, and my pronouns are they/them.") just like normal.

This is all basic English, but English is my 1st language and was my favorite subject in school, so I did retain more information than others I guess. If you have trouble as well you can always ask them. If they are open about their pronouns they would probably appreciate you asking and learning rather than just staying quiet and confused.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I can call somebody whatever I want because I am an American and I enjoy freedom of speech.

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

If their pronouns are they/them, they still go by their given name. It doesn't matter what the pronouns are, people still go by their name/nickname.
My one coworker, Val, goes be ze/zem pronouns because ze is non-binary. I try to make sure I use ze's preferred pronouns, but sometimes I slip up & say she/her & correct myself. I try to be respectful of ze's feelings on the subject.
But I hate when I don't know people's preferred pronouns & when I don't use them they get mad. Like, I'm sorry, I wasn't informed that you prefer certain pronouns & I will make note of it & try not to slip up in the future.

Shayyyy1 · Accepted Answer

Thats a pretty good question , i eprsonally woild unless they have another name they want to go by if not if u nicole u nicole.

melanieeeB · Answer

I ignore that mostly and thankfully never met someone in real life yet

Stoner710 · Answer

The English language doesn’t allow single humans to use they them pronounce because it makes no sense, they them aren’t single pronouns, We use they them occasionally when we don’t know if the person is male or females, like if someone cuts you off in traffic so say they are an asshole you use they because you don’t know if there male or female you haven’t seen there face, but once you see the face of the person they cut you off is a male or female the proper pronouns are she/her or he/him the human language stops making sense when you call a single person they/them so English has banned they/them form being used as single pronouns in 99% of situations

LindsayR07 · Answer

You call them by whatever name they want to go by... I mean we had no problem calling Sean Combs "Puffy", then Puff Daddy, then Puff Diddy, then P Diddy, then just Diddy... I mean, we wrapped our collective heads around that so why should we care about calling someone what they want to be called? Just ask.

Goforit1010 · Answer

Yes! And...

You can also call them she/her if this is a female and he/him if this person is a male.

Just more absolute idiocy from woke leftist liberals. OMG are they someone special? NO! They get to be either Male or Female. You don't have other choices. You either have a penis or a vagina.

Leftists... always trying to make life worse. Just forget the pronoun stupidity and call them by their normal pronouns - she or he.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yeah, of course.

Proper names don't go away with pronoun use. Just like how if you know someone who uses she/her or he/him pronouns, you still can use their proper name.

I use they/them and she/her pronouns and you can just call me Growly.

MrOracle · Answer

If someone is using "alternative" pronouns, my solution is to cut that person out of my life. Problem solved. I don't support other people's delusions, and I have no reason to waste my own time and energy dealing with them. That's the job of mental health professionals.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Of course- that's what names are for. As a rule, though, anyone who brings up what their chosen pronouns are during an introductory conversation is a raving nut (a gentle correction upon referring to a transsexual is something quite different); use caution when dealing with them.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Who knows. It all seems very arbitrary and random. If you care enough about the person you can ask them. Otherwise it’s probably best to just avoid them. Especially in a place that can civilly punish you for not keeping up with their every changing demands.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Yes using the person's name is probably easier.

I really dislike the pronoun game because it creates a language imposition on others.

I have a family member who's they them, and it makes conversation mildly irritating despite my desire to be supportive because it disrupts the flow of my speech.

NottaNatty · Answer

Dang some of these takes are straight savage, But nah I won't encourage this stupidity. (They/them) is a literary term for more then one person, And if "one" identifys as "they"... "They" (as in multiple people) are confused, and still one person be it he or a she. So unless you are two people conjoined and standing in front of me you won't be calld (they/them) by me. As for (he/him) and (she/her) this should be irrelevant.

MCheetah · Answer

If they go by "they/them," then I will refer to them as "f*ck/off." Yeah, I'm not indulging in your narcissistic, mentally ill BS just because your parents failed you. I live in reality.

AsaKyo · Answer

If they're obviously a woman, I call them "she/her". If they're obviously a man, I call them "he/him". That's all there is to it. I'm tired of this pronoun crap.

JustiReno · Answer

I know a tranny, I haven’t seen him for long time before he turned trans, but if I met him, no way I’m calling him his trans name

I call BS, you want more school shooters? Jesus Christ get these kids some help!

People wanna talk about “basic biology” and still fuck they girl in the ass, wtf?

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If someone has that pronoun shit I cancel them. I went to a book store to purchase some novels while flying & the employee had all these stupid pins supporting various deviants with name tag saying various pronouns. I saw that and left. Spent my money elsewhere.

genericname85 · Answer

i guess you have to abide by your local law. i really hope for you that in your region they don't have a law that forces you to do that bullshit. where i live, there's no such law. so i won't do that. it's either him or her depending on what i see, not depending on what they feel like that day.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Just use him / her as appropriate. There is no need to validate their mental Illness.

Aribella · Answer

I go by well actually I don't care what pronouns people call me but yes you can still call them by the name they go by unless they change that and usually after doing so people need a little bit of time to adjust

Fuentes · Answer

I'm not doing any if that if your male I'm calling you sir, until you tell me to call you a ma'am or sir lol I don't give a fuck I do it all the time I address people and I just play the oh sorry and then only call them by their name.

RobT312 · Answer

For people using they/them I just call them by their name …. those pronouns don’t make sense for a person (singular)

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I find it hard to take any question relating to such pronouns seriously. Call them by their names or just shout "hey you over there", who gives a shit?

SaoirseS · Answer

I will address a person either by name, Mr./Ms./Dr. And surname, or address them properly using the second person pronoun you.

Sour-rose · Answer

Yes. Like if they're name is "Jane" then just call 'em "Jane". But they don't look li- Ah, ah, ah. It's. Jane. :)

Jessica405 · Answer

You can call that person whatever you like. That person was given a name to be used by others. As for pronouns, there are only three sets. I for guys, one for girls and one for a group of male and/or female.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

You can also call them by their natural (i. e. real) pronouns... No law against it, and it's being honest.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Of course.  If they go by they/them, it just means they don't want to be identified by a gender (she/her or he/him)

Snsl153 · Answer

If someone insists on using those pronouns I just avoid them completely, because they've obviously got psychological problems, and I can't deal with weirdos.

Lliam · Answer

I won't talk to them at all. They're invisible to me.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

That’s what I call them. They have a name like everyone else.

rabbitzzz · Answer

They is plural. He/she is singular.  It's not a real issue. These people only exist in feminist destroyed youtube videos. They don't exist in real life.

JDavid25 · Answer

I would. prefer to call them by the name they go by.. But from my understanding yes..

Sandeeppingping · Answer

I'd think they're dumb and just call them by what they clearly are

Bratsondanielle · Answer

You can call him/her "a bit on the insane side"

petitedollbabee · Answer

Yeah.. just because someone has pronouns, doesn’t mean their name is suddenly cancelled out.

BCA6010 · Answer

If I know someone's name, that's pretty much always how I address that individual.

Marshymallow · Answer

Obviously! since when did pronouns take over names?

CaptainSmartass · Answer

I believe so. However, the stupidity of the woke underclass knows no bounds. They might want to cancel names and force some other woke bollocks on us. Simples...

RavVid · Answer

Maybe you have to add an S as proper names are singular

Sixgunsound · Answer

If they tell you what they want to be called, isn’t that what you’re supposed to call them?

jennyPuss · Answer

i just call everybody a rotten son of a bitch and then they have nothing to complain about. my friends don't care and if you're not my friend then i don't care.

GlassTop · Answer

Just avoid all of that and use their names. Don’t have time to think about which pronouns to use for different people.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

probably not.. they might be offended.. poor snowflakes

sheikalana · Answer

Of couse that's their name. Unless they tell you not to.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't worry about such goofy shit!! I don't live in Bizarro world.

Rangers · Answer

Just call them what they are, I'm not playing games with delusional people

HaveNoName · Answer

I will not give a fuck. I will call them by their name.

joeldalton · Answer

I call him or her by their name. I don't participate in other people's delusions.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Yeah, It just means they don't want to be identified as she/her or he/him. You can still say their name though.

MountAverage · Answer

I don't understand your confusion. If your pronouns are she/her, can I still call you by the name you go by?

captain_voidwalker · Answer

If anyone uses they/them outside of a group context do the workdca favor and change thier pronouns to was/were

maximumpower · Answer

"it" "that" "whoever" "whatever" won't dignify them by honoring their imaginary special status.

TroyDT · Answer

People can do what they want, but you are under no obligation to go along with their delusions.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

Sure but I think that’s lunacy. Especially when every they/them person I met was obviously one gender or the other.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

“Them” and “they” are plural. I won’t use those words for one person.

VforVindication · Answer

A woman is a her and a man is a him. Nothing else. All this is just made up bullshit.

msc545 · Answer

Pronouns other than he and she are awkward and stupid.

Harbringer26 · Answer

I don't really care. I can't be compelled to call any stranger I meet on the street anything, and they can't do anything to make me.

Twalli · Answer

Yes, you just don't use a gendered pronoun when you are using a pronoun to describe them.

Iron_Man · Answer

Call them bother first name only

Exterminatore · Answer

I refuse to play pronoun games.

SushiSxnpai · Answer

Whatever they’re comfortable with ig

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