What’s the most difficult thing you have ever done?

[bigpauly]

[melanieeeB]

Walk away from a friendship, knowing that she needed me but I couldn't help her anymore, I had no strength left in me for her and now 6 years later it's still the best decision I ever made, even tho I still feel guilty but I would never change that decision

[bigpauly]

That has to be tough. At the end of the day you can’t help anyone if you don’t have your own mental and physical health where it needs to be.

[melanieeeB]

It was pretty hard but it was like you said, I couldn't safe us both... fun thing is we're living in the same street now haha but thankfully I didn't walk into her yet, I saw her twice but I did hide behind a car 😅

What was it for you?

[bigpauly]

Oh my that’s kind of crazy!

Hmmm I don't know. Maybe switch careers?

[melanieeeB]

Switching careers can definitely also be really difficult and a life change too

[bigpauly]

Yes. It was tough after going to college all those years for one thing especially

[melanieeeB]

Yeah shit and then it's not what you wanna do... but you know what, your time in college was surly still great and still educational, like it was sure not for nothing and at least I hope now you are now happy where you are

[bigpauly]

Thank you so much!

[Lliam]

When I was 26, I was offered a job with a small auto insurance company as a motor vehicle damage field adjust/appraiser trainee.

I cut my long hair and bought a suit for the interview. I had no idea what the job would entail and didn't even know what an insurance adjuster was. I didn't even have a college degree.

Cutting my hair changed my persona and lifestyle. That, in itself, was traumatic. But the job was really hard at first. I was absolutely buried and stressed for a few years until I finally got the job wired. After that, it was really cool. The salary and benefits were great. I wound up working there for 30 years.

That job introduced me to the real world and forced me to grow up. LOL

[NathanDavis]

quitting my hopes on someone I genuinely and truly cared for...

accepting those things are the most difficult thing for me to go through and deal with

[bigpauly]

Understandably.

[NathanDavis]

yep, it is what it is

[dustybiker]

Going through the grief of losing my mum was tough. Is still tough.

[bigpauly]

🤗🤗🤗

[dustybiker]

Thanks my friend 🤗🤗🤗😎

[Msputiton]

*big hugs*

[dustybiker]

@Msputiton Thanks. 🥰

[Msputiton]

You ever need to talk i am here

[dustybiker]

@Msputiton Appreciate you!! 🤗 Thank you.

[Msputiton]

🤗🤗

[CoolCatMar1]

It's awful girlie! I hope you are doing well! Fingers crossed🥺❤️

[sirderpsalot123]

@dustybiker big hugs 🤗🤗🤗

[dustybiker]

@CoolCatMar1 Thank you. Means a lot!

@sirderpsalot123 Thanks *big hugs right back* 🤗

[CoolCatMar1]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[dustybiker]

@CoolCatMar1 You are sweet! 🥰

[CoolCatMar1]

Thank you🥺❤️

[Emiliamazing]

Hugs

[dustybiker]

@Emiliamazing Thanks so very much.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

pronounce worcestershire sauce properly. Either that or learn how to spell though, thought, and thought properly

[bigpauly]

Language is so fun

[letuswaltzforthedead]

it is a curse to learn sometimes

[bigpauly]

Yea, especially certain ones.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

English lol

[SnowedIn]

@bigpauly and @letuswaltzforthedead ... if you haven't read "the mother tongue: English and how it got that way" by Bill Bryson, you really must read it. It's short, witty, and extremely eye opening.

[bigpauly]

@SnowedIn interesting, I’ll check it out!

[letuswaltzforthedead]

@SnowedIn I'll read it and add to the list of "things I didn't know existed but now I need it"

[MCheetah]

@letuswaltzforthedead
'waa-sta-sher'

[exitseven]

I went back to college and changed my career. I was almost 40.

[bigpauly]

That’s awesome!

[Emiliamazing]

Giving birth to our first child is pretty high up on that list :-). Totally worth it.

[bigpauly]

I’m not jealous that I can’t experience giving birth, lol.

[Emiliamazing]

You guys are lucky in that respect :-). All three of our children were over 9 pounds, and for me, the first was the longest labor and most painful. I blame my husband for their size, because he is the taller one in our parental unit :-)

[bigpauly]

Oh my! Those are some big babies

[Emiliamazing]

Some of my husbands cousins have had babies that were close to and slightly over 10 pounds. We were both in the 8 pound range. I stayed short and he is over 6 foot!

[bigpauly]

Oh my! Lol

I was around 8lbs too. I was one of the tallest kids actually my first couple years in school. Then I got growth hormone issues and just sort of stopped growing 😒

[Emiliamazing]

I don't know how those ladies handle those kids. I don't think any of them were C-sections either. I've got decent childbirthing hips, but I can't imagine a 10 pound exiting🥰

[Emiliamazing]

You keep being you, just don't get stepped on!

[bigpauly]

Yikes! Lol some strong women for sure

[Blackcupcake]

@emiliamazing that’s a strong mama!😍

[Emiliamazing]

@Blackcupcake number two, and number three relock easier, under 12 hours of labor for each of them. Our first child I was in labor for over 24 hours.

[Blackcupcake]

@emiliamazing dang… I truly respect your strength for going through that!

[bigpauly]

I’m never going to to get on Emilia’s bad side, that’s for sure 👀

[Emiliamazing]

The will have a mother is very strong :-). I was paranoid about being induced, and I'm stubborn enough to hold my ground. Glad I did :-)

[Blackcupcake]

Im glad you did!!🥰

[Emiliamazing]

@Blackcupcake thank you! Thank you all for this sweet trip down memory lane about my crazies! It's time to work now. Have a good Monday!

[Blackcupcake]

watching the people I care for hurt and not being able to take it all away…

[bigpauly]

Awwww cupcake 🥺

[Emiliamazing]

Just knowing people care when you were going through a hard time, is a big help!

[Blackcupcake]

@emiliamazing that’s very true!❤️

@bigpauly haha🤗

[bigpauly]

🤗🤗

[Agape93]

Sought therapy to mitigate the risk of me kicking the oxygen habit, at a loved ones request

[bigpauly]

Has it helped?

[Agape93]

It's taken the edge off and helped push down the psychosis episodes, but that's about it.

[bigpauly]

Guess that’s better than not at all.

I do hope things get better for you and hope you know your presence is appreciated by many.

Always let me know if there’s anything I can help with. I make for a good teddy bear in times of desperation

[Agape93]

Appreciate it hon

[MCheetah]

Accept myself as I am. Still ongoing. May not succeed.

[SnowedIn]

Making the decision to defy my dad and leave college to join the Navy.

Not taking an amazing job because having taken that job would probably have cost me my family.

[Msputiton]

Balancing work, school basketball.😭

[bigpauly]

There there 🤗

That is a lot but you got this 💪

[Msputiton]

Thx🥰

[SnowedIn]

@bigpauly that was very big of you to say!

[Msputiton]

@SnowedIn big?🤔

[SnowedIn]

@Msputiton... that was the play on words. He was being nice ("big") by saying "That is a lot but you got this"

[Msputiton]

@SnowedIn i got the joke I was helping make it worse

[SnowedIn]

*hangs head in shame*

I'm a bit slow tonight teach.

[Msputiton]

@SnowedIn not a BIG deal

[SnowedIn]

lmao!!!

[FinalFantasyBro]

I'm having to accept all my love one dying and realizing someday I will be dead too.

[mrkdvsn]

That would probably be teaching Chemical Warfare classes while in the military. My fear of "public speaking" is what made it the most difficult. And that career field was not voluntarily chosen by me

[Fuentes]

Getting out of the hood and poverty

[bigpauly]

Probably one of the toughest things there is out there

[Ms_Facesitter]

Cutting off family because they were toxic.

[bigpauly]

I’m sorry you had to. That is a really tough choice to make

[Xawyx-2]

Going to work early in the morning... I dislike it.

[CateM]

Get through covid

[Creative_Name04]

Get out of bed this morning