Do you think there is no point thinking about the past?

[Anonymous]

10 years of my life lost in intense trauma.

I sometimes think about if there's anything I could have done to change it. To prevent all those years going to waste.

It is consuming me.

[aaron210419]

Think about your past so you don't repeat mistakes and bad decisions, but do not dwell in the past. Don't spend so much time and energy thinking about the past that you are too occupied to enjoy the present, living in the past can destroy your future.

[Asker]

I almost feel like I can't commit suicide but my life has been ruined so I'm living a dead person's life.

[aaron210419]

Trust me, I can relate to this feeling but hurting yourself is not the answer. I wasted 9 years of my life with a covert narcissist and when she left one day while I was at work for me to come home to an empty house and the decree laying on the bed, I blamed myself. I went over things I could have done differently in my head over and over, I started getting behind at work, it was all I could think about and I wanted to die or so I thought but after being hurt by other people I knew the last thing I wanted to do was hurt myself. I don't know your situation but I know the pain of feeling like you've wasted ten years of your life and wanting an easy way out. We only get one life and it's such a short time so don't make it any harder on yourself then it needs to be. Even if you have no one, you are the one person that should always be looking out for you. Find a healthy way to distract your mind away from the trauma, whether it's through art, writing, drawing, and if possible find a counselor and don't be ashamed of seeking help. Your time here on Earth is over in the blink of an eye so try to make the best of it and don't waste it, life can be beautiful but you have to get your head out of the past. If it helps, what got me through a lot of the hardest times was listening to Alan Watts lectures on YouTube. If you don't know his work give it a try, start with some of the shorter videos and then as you get into it listen to his longer talks.

[aaron210419]

https://youtu.be/LwsAYQFpLXY

[fantasticass]

You cannot look at past trauma as waste. Bad things happen to good people all the time. It's life. I suggest you go volunteer at a homeless shelter or an animal rescue/shelter. They are always looking for people who understand past trauma., and how to move forward. I suggest you look for PTSD counseling. There is always someone in a worse situation than ourselves. I know 10 year old kids that are homeless, so move forward. Your just a kid., life is what you make of it so go enjoy yourself ✌️🇨🇦

[Labokachulaa]

Yes there is definitely no point. You've already been through that trauma, what's the point in making yourself constantly relive it?

Nothing that you are currently doing or will do in future will change what happened in the past. So, please stop reminding yourself.

Now is the time where you either speak with someone that can help you let go, or you can look up videos on how to make peace with the past.

[exitseven]

If you have learned anything from this experience you can point to that. Or maybe you showed great courage and residency in the face of adversity. You cannot go back and change anything but you can make the rest of your life the best it can be

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Ms_Facesitter]

There is a point depending on what it is. You can remember and take things from the past to take with you and use in the future. But it's pointless to be sad and angry about the past while you're in the present, thus ruining your future just Because you prefer to live in the past instead.

[itsalyssaagain]

You have to leave the past in the past. It doesn’t mean you’ll forget about it ever because that’s your trauma. You just learn that it becomes part of who you are and you accept it for what it is. Then you have to leave it in the past and continue with your life. Otherwise you will be miserable forever.

[awkwardddgirl]

we know there's no point thinking about the past but we can't stop ourselves from doing it. We need to take it as a lesson because it has made you who you are now. You have learnt so many things because of it. So try to stay in the present , ik it's hard but you can try mindfulness.

[Anonymous]

It can hunt for ever, I know I will have to live with my marks till the day I die
But dont let that regret pull you down, what ever happen, it happen you can't change that, but you need to beat it day to day and do
Some are born and live for only a short time, you had the event, it may hunt you, but dont let it beat you, what ever is left of life live to there fullist with all the scares that remain, dont let them become your life

[t_time]

Honestly you have to give yourself time to process the trauma. Realize there is nothing you could have done to change it. It's somthing that happened unfortunately. You never have to forget it. Just learn from the past and do your best to build a more positive and brighter future for yourself. Look ahead not back. Easier said than done. I know 1st hand. You only have one life to live. You have to choose what road to take. I know it sounds so cheesy but it's the honest truth.

[Asker]

Maybe I feel as though if I had gotten out of there I would have forgotten and healed.

[BlueScorpio]

No, the past is the past. You can't change it, only thing you can do now is learn from it and move forward to a better future. If there is something in your past you're running from then it might be a sign to confront it so you canove forward.

[Anonymous]

Let go. And forgive yourself for any transgressions. What happened had to happen to get you here. We learn from the past then dismiss it emotionally. It's over forever and distracts from the future. Don't let it.

[call_me_scar]

No i look back at some of my old mistakes and try to learn from them to be a better person. Though in cases or trauma it might be good to accept that it happened and know it wasn't your fault

[CuriousMufuxka]

No way. Your history is a part of who you are, no matter how shitty it may be. Why not use what you've failed at as a tool to enhance your future?

[Charliefretz329]

Don’t obsess over things you can’t change. It’s only helpful to analyse those things so you can learn from the past to make future decisions more knowledgeably!

[FilmGuy93]

There’s a point in self reflection, but you don’t want to run around in circles

[misogynistic_pig]

I live in the past, my adolescence was good and I don't like getting old.

[Asker]

You're 20.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Could have done?
Maybe

Can do to fix it?
No

Can do to make it worse?
Yes, keep thinking about it.

[moonpie89]

I think at some point you need to move on from it mentally. Don't let it define who you are. Life is too short to stay hung up on the past

[LittleMelissa9614]

The past is the past. You shouldn't have to think about it. Especially if it's something traumatic.

[ArtemisSilver]

All you can do is make the rest of your life better.

[dudeinohio]

Best to not think of the past. It is done and over withm

[DrBanana]

It’s good to learn from the past objectively but leave the past emotionally.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

How can you learn from your mistake if there is no point thinking about the past?

[Anonymous]

Only if we can still learn something from the past, otherwise no.