Why are some people stuck on the past?

[Anonymous]

I had a social gathering last week and it turned out a fiasco.

Someone I haven't seen since our HS graduation (now we're nearly 25) showed up. I know we weren't friends and I'm the least person she wanted to see and I'm aware she moved to a different city because of that.

Anyways I tried chatting with her and start all over, pretend to not know her very well... pretend to be a long time acquaintance. It didn't go well. She kept bringing back things from the past and at one point I had enough and said ''That was HS, I really thought you were past that already, I thought we could start all over again as friends''.

Suddenly she threw a drink in my clothes. That got me upset, I panicked and my old habit appeared. I threw a large bowl of cold tomate sauce in return and said Butterpants (her old nickname). Someone had to separated before she got more crazy.

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Don't get me wrong... I felt bad at first but she got annoying. I was trying to be nice by starting all over, like the way you meet someone for the first time.

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but she wouldn't let it go and was so stucked on the past

[Sakura99]

Some people aren't meant to be in your life and you kinda just need to accept that, this girl probably has personal issues which makes it hard for her to let go of her past, there are many reasons why she is like this, but again u tried to talk to someone a no start a friendship which someone who u knew didn't like u so why try?

[Asker]

I though she was by now over the way I treated her in HS (it was me and a couple friends that gave her that nickname... Butterpants) but apparently she wasn't.

[Sakura99]

She may be a very sensitive person and u don't know how that could've effected her, she has personal reasons for reacting the way she did, and I've experienced bullies and so I kinda get her perspective, but I'm also not one to hold many grudges. Just accept how she feels and just give up on her OBVIOUSLY SHE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU.

[Asker]

After that fiasco I heard from someone that she was upset when I pretended not to know her better and was expecting an apology. I didn't give it because I didn't feel it.

[dwiller943]

I can sort of get it.
My mind is still stuck
in high school.
Due to severe
traumatic reasons.

[Harry_Stiffler]

Cuz that's probably the best or the worst they have ever had but the moment they hit another best they start forgetting about the previous best or worst

[Asker]

Honestly I didn't think she would still being holding grudges against me nor hating me years later. I was different in HS than what I am now. My reaction was a response to her getting antagonistic towards me when I'm trying to make peace in my own way (by starting all over as if were meeting each other for the first time).

[Anonymous]

I would have loved to see that.