What do people talk about at parties?

[Confusedblondegirl]

I am socially awkward sometimes because i’m so alone all the time. anyways i’m going to a holiday party and am nervous. in the past at parties i have sometimes been out of place or at least felt that way. like everyone has someone to talk to and i’m just there in the corner. i want to mingle and change my patterns which is why i’m going. i want next year to be different and so i’m starting it off. i’m sure it won’t be easy but could use some pointers. what to talk about? what to do if i get stuck alone w no one to talk to?

[all_hayl]

Seems like it’s usually small talk. Politics, work, the weather, traveling, education etc. Some people find those topics boring and repetitive (I may or may not be one of those people). However, I suggest asking people questions about themselves. People like to talk about themselves. If you can keep asking questions, especially if they are things that you are actually interested in knowing about, then you can come across as a great conversationalist and you will probably become more socially comfortable and confident. Even if someone is talking about something that you couldn’t care less about, you can probably find something to ask them about it that you are actually curious to know.

[all_hayl]

To add a little more, there’s generally no “rule” for what people talk about, but people (unfortunately) like to talk about “safe” - and sometimes boring - subjects: sports, general gossip, family, the topics previously mentioned. But there’s usually no “rule” for what you talk about. Talk about whatever interests you, and ask others about the things that interest them. Cheers!

[Aerissa_Jade]

Talk about the other people, avoid talking about yourself, without being asked.

People love it when others show attention in them, even if they are boring.

It takes practice though, most people seem to want to talk about themselves, because it is what they know.

I find, if I smile... keep a smile on. It keeps attention and you can lead them a bit, like how are things going. If you are interested and they keep trying to end the conversation or seem to have trouble keeping it going. Just throw in other topics, ask them what they think about this or that.

If you don't want to talk to someone, when they ask you how your doing..."I'm fine" is good, kind of hard to keep the conversation going from that.

[TrueConfection]

Just give compliments. Here are a few;

Omg, I love your shoes!
Your hair is really beautiful.
Your dress is fabulous!
Isn't the centerpiece lovely?
Don't you think the decorations are so beautiful?
How do you know (hostess' name)? Isn't (hostess' name) wonderful?

Answer everything with a smile and, "oh yes!" When you run out of stuff, "Oh, please excuse me for a minute." Head to a different corner of gathered party goers and smile. Someone will likely start introductions before you get a chance. Then, the process begins again.

[TrueConfection]

Ok, the guys' conversations are much different. I love just being my husband's "arm candy" as he puts it. I'd rather stand there stupid than have the dim witted conversations that I just described above.

Believe me, I've been to a lot of parties. This is how it goes unless you're a teenager.

[MrHopper]

Drinking helps, without it you sort of struggle... well i do, its my social lubricant... If you dont enjoy it dont force it, but i find i need to recharge after a session of socialising. I tend to just spot noticable things about people and take the conversation in the direction it goes... like.. "oh cool shoes, where did you get them... oh i been there its... i once brought a.." 3 levels of conversation already

[dustybiker]

Great advice already. I just wanted to cheer you on. Pushing out of comfort zones isn’t easy. Always proud to see when people do.
Oh, I did think of one. Try and keep a happy attitude. If you disagree just smile. It’s only a party after all. Enjoy yourself.

[DonkeyDan]

When you're talking to someone ask questions about them and their life, don't make it too personal, people like to talk about themselves and it shows you have an interest in them. Keep away from politics and religion or any other controversial subjects.
You can probably Google interesting questions to ask someone. Once you start a conversation and relax into it you'll find it easier.
Enjoy the party and chill, everyone there is a person just like you.

[ShadesOfAWoman]

When you go to parties, you can talk about whatever interests you. Since parties are made up of various people from all walks of life, you are bound to find one or more people who have a similar interest, then boom you’ve sparked a conversation. Listen and ask questions.

[readyplayer001]

you can do it, you will be fine!
movies are always a good start or music.
like if you are drinking something even that can be a intro to a topic like this is good, what do you think? then roll into a topic like have you seen such and such movie or i am waiting for this movie to come out. no politics, religion anything like that.

[LegendaryIcon]

your life, their life, just anything in general

just try and stay away from politics, like the rittenhouse trial. you'll be a troll if you do

right trumpers?

[Confusedblondegirl]

thank you, i’m a little worried bc there will be christian trumpers there

[LegendaryIcon]

figures

[Mr_White_Stepbro]

I don't really talk about deep subjects at parties.
We mostly joke around and dance and I try to get a kiss. Parties are more for fun, not intellectual discussions.

[FreyaRed]

Depends on people you're talking with, sometimes you should choose more polite topics and sometimes you can be offensive. Don't talk much about yourself, your job and your political opinions, it's smarter to let others to talk about themselves.

[The_Maphio]

All and nothing. Most of that people you'll never see again so it's safe (I assume?) to guess that you'll never talk about very personal stuff at such events. Just have fun, talk about the smartest sounding nothing you can muster.

[Subarugirl]

People like to talk about them selves, ask them questions, and then try to relate with things that are relatable. Ask about what they do for work and what they like about it. Ask what they do for fun. Find something in common and focus on that.

[IveGotNoName]

Depends on who you're with. I dont go to many parties, so when I do it's usually with people I haven't seen in a long time, so we just talk about what weve been up to

[Relux47]

Well you can talk about anything that has to do with other people. Remembering what someone told you is a plus. Someone that I know remembers me talking about how I was interested in child development… that was like 2 years ago

[cuzimbored21]

Depends on the crowd and the overall vibe of the party. Usually I just joke around and talk about relatable things or local events that everyone knows about.

[JohntheUnk]

Just ask some shallow/non personal questions and go from that

[exitseven]

They usually talk about whoever did not show up.

[Nahid1707]

Have you been here before?
Where you from?😊

[Cubus]

Some random staff.

[Jcrummy98]

Talk bullshit