How does it feel to see the person you bullied at school again?

[Anonymous]

I believe that people who bully never regret it, but I am curious what a person feels when they see again after a long time that the person who was the victim of their insults has now become very attractive. For example: in first and secondary school there was always a small group of boys who told me that I was ugly, and now on the contrary, I flirt a lot and most men find me attractive, because I have grown and changed a bit. Even one of those boys who sometimes laughed at me at school, when after several years he found me on social networks and saw my photos, he wrote to say hello and said: “You look so cute”. And he proposed to have sex with him but obviously I said no.

And then, there was one day when I ran into another man on the street who also made fun of me at school, he greeted me nicely as if we had always gotten along and said, “You look beautiful now. I would have you as a girlfriend right now."

I think these 2 boys will remember how badly they behaved towards me, because I don't think they have such a bad memory that they don't remember that I was the object of their teasing. Won't you now feel even a little embarrassed and ridiculous to remember that you called me ugly so many times?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

There was this kid I went to school with who used to bother me a lot when we were little kids. As we got older we kept bickering with eachother and because I have always been someone who likes to antagonize bullies, he got other people to join in.

The kid was an asshole through and through. But then I learned that he got cancer in the 7th grade.

My perspective on everything he ever did changed. At first even though I felt bad for him, I still felt like it wasn't a good enough excuse. He met this girl in highschool and she totally changed him.

It was a slow process but we became somewhat close towards the end.

A couple years after we all graduated he died suddenly. It was longer than what the doctors gave him.

I'm just trying to say that people change a lot over the course of 12 years. Especially after school is over. Some people don't. But when I saw the kid who bullied me laying down in a coffin, it made me angry and sad to think about how when he finally started acting like a normal person that was when he had to die.

[Anonymous]

It’s important to note that bullying can have long-lasting effects on both the victim and the perpetrator, and many people who have engaged in bullying behavior do feel regret and remorse later in life.

Seeing someone you bullied in the past can be a difficult and uncomfortable experience, and it may bring up feelings of shame, guilt, or embarrassment. Some individuals may feel remorseful and seek to apologize or make amends for their past behavior, while others may choose to avoid the situation or deny their past actions.

It's important to remember that everyone has the capacity to change and grow, and it's never too late to take responsibility for past mistakes and work towards becoming a better person. If you have engaged in bullying behavior in the past, it may be helpful to reflect on your actions and seek to make amends in a sincere and respectful way. And if you have been the victim of bullying, it's important to prioritize your own healing and well-being and surround yourself with supportive people who value and respect you.

[CelineBV]

Though if the former bully only regrets bullying you just because you've become wealthy or great in looks while still having that nature to disregard others lower them, that tells me nothing about them changing for the best.
The boy that told the OP that ''he would now make her his girlfriend'' sounds insulting to me. He only wants her as a girlfriend now that she become cute and never even was her friend when she was struggling, when she wasn't that cute. She only noticed just for the looks. He wouldn't have care if she was the same. That's still a bully to me.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t bully anyone that’s not my heart but I was bullied by everyone except for one person and I ended up marrying him. I moved to this country when I was 12 and everyone made fun of me for my accent and poor English they called me r3tard girl. I told the gym teacher” I like to playing soccer” when I meant I want to try for the soccer team. All them nicknamed me “ I like to playing soccer r3tard girl” and the r3tarded girl in ESL (English as second language) one time in cafeteria I sat with a bunch of my teammates on a game day and they slll got up and left me there by myself. My husband came and sat next to me and talked to me. It was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me! When I got out of my awkward stage & boys wanted to date me now I didn’t want them I only was interested in one guy the one who was brave enough and kind enough to stick up for me. 😍 we’ve been married for 20 years!! UWhen I see people from HS I just chuckle and say you messed up lol

[CelineBV]

The issue I find with bullies is that several times they just approach only because you've become cute or are now wealthy, not because they really regret doing it regardless of whether you're pretty or not.

The boy on your post who said that he would ''now'' have you as a girlfriend is superficial and isn't sorry about bullying you. It's not about regretting bullying you because you've improved in looks but regretting it because it's wrong even if you still would've looked the same.

[Potteplante]

During boarding school I played a role in bullying one girl for a little period but some people took it to far and I regretted playing a part of it already the , I was not able to stop the others so she ended up quitting.

I later encountered her & she hasn't changed much but I felt instant guilt and shame for my actions. I respectfully approached her and apologized for my part of the bullying and for the consequences that might have had on her.

[AdithyaR]

I don't know how bad my bullies felt. I wouldn't exactly call it bullying cause they just made fun of me in class, these 2 guys. Didn't see them for a while after tenth grade but when I did I simply acted like I didn't know who they were. Even now if ever see them again, I'd still act like I have clue who they were or why I'm supposed to know them.

[Anonymous]

I bullied before and I will forever regret it. I won't explain why I did it and what even happened unless you want to know. But I always look back on it and hate myself for it. If I could come across the girls I did it to (though I don't remember the two of the three girls names I just remember one girls name), I would apologize to them. I'm not looking for forgiveness but to say something they deserve to hear.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm also sorry for what happened to you. I'm happy to hear you are in a good place in your life.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Have never been bullied.

I feel like it’s impossible to get bullied if you don’t allow others to bully you.

One should always stand up for herself.

[exitseven]

I never really ran across any. I am not sure what I would do after all these years but a swirly would not be out of the question.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I don't know I've never bullied anyone or been bullied by anyone

[Iron_Man]

I don’t have bullies

[DarkLegacy]

Either way they should never been forgiven.