My sister said I never did anything with my life and she is right but still I don't want to be put down?

[Anonymous]

I'm 31 and I never earned money nor had a job and I know how it looks and sound but those things are really hard for me to do, mentally I'm too slow and physically my right arm is disabled.

Whenever me and my sister are talking she acts like I'm complaining or the things I say are negative, I can't help but to feel accused by her all the time, I don't talk about my problems nor I complain.

Honestly I do wish I had the capability to earn money but I don't.

I got tired of her acting like Im complaining when I'm actually not I just got really sick n tired of her comments, so I said to her that she deserves that she has an autistic child and she lashed out at me with insulting words but I couldn't help myself cause I just got tired of her Judgement of me all the time...

[Effably]

I am guessing. My guess is she has no intention of putting you down. She wants you to try and does not know how to facilitate that.

Very often when dealing with, potentially, depressed people the mistake of complaining and thus burdening them is done. The intention is still to help but there is a lack of understanding for the difficulty. Getting up in the morning can be a challenge and encouragement is often more needed than reproach.

Now let me tell you, you can earn money. You can live life. Needing time to think is as much a strength as weakness. It means you're used to considering things. That makes you think one extra time. In the right area, this is a bonus. Do not equate your carefulness with inability.

Your arm is an obstacle but by no means insurmountable. It will always be a difficulty but you can do it. You know you can.

As for how to begin? I always suggest exercise. Daily walks, eventually jogging. It is, by far, the best initial cure.

[Asker]

I actually keep myself busy and exercise. I'm trying to start a business online but its taking a long time but my sister just puts me down for whatever reason she can get...

[Effably]

That's a good start! You probably would feel good doing something more direct than a future online business. Maybe you can find some lighter part time work? Among entry level jobs, since I don't know your education, a few hours a day at some callcenter from home sounds manageable and quickly becomes routine - so it won't pose any major challenges.

[Asker]

I don't have any academic skills.

[Effably]

Suggestion stands then. It will do a lot for your self-esteem.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know how it works over there in India but why don’t you get some type of disability money payments from the government if you’re disabled and can’t work properly and No your sister shouldn’t be talking to you like that she should understand. How long have you had your disability?

[beautyjoyfover200]

F*ck your sister that not family if she can’t understand your situation nor try to help you look for something that are capable of doing with your disability. She not worth time to argue about things.
What about small business. Find a hobby that you like and think what you can do out of it. It can be freebies or people might pay for them as a start. I don’t know much what you can do but I’m sure you can do anything you put your mind to love.

[Asker]

I am trying to do a small business for myself it's times consuming but I'm trying to find a way to earn some money online.

[beautyjoyfover200]

Okay great! Yes those do take time it’s okay don’t let it stop you tho

[Asker]

Thank you for you opinion.

[Paris13]

I find her Crude and Rude and Not a Loving Sister. Never mind Her, God will Take Care of Her one day... You focus on What you Need to Do to Change your own Life... It is Never Too late. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xx

[Sour-rose]

Soooo... what's the question then?

[Asker]

If you could read my whole post and if you have any thoughts on it...

[Molly1997]

Are you on Disability?

[Asker]

No but I went for jobs like bagging groceries or being a waitress they didn't hire he cause of my condition

[Molly1997]

Ok why not apply for disability then?

[Asker]

I wanted to do something for myself earning some money online doing a small business. I don't want to take disability money cause it's something I don't want to consider myself as.

[Asker]

I feel like I would have better self esteem earning money online but its just time consuming.

[Molly1997]

Possibly. We tried that too but it never worked. So I spent years fighting to get my boyfriend on Disability

[Asker]

Well I want to feel normal than take disability money.

[Molly1997]

That’s fine

[Asker]

Anyways what should I do about my sister we had a bad argument...